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Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 6:55:45 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Do you ever see those guys in your life that you just wish you could beat them?

*sigh*  There is this Smok'n Hot guy at my gym.  I know he's a UPS driver, but that's about all.  He's a touch on the short side, but I don't care.  He's got a bod like a Roman Statue.  Dark brown tan.  Pale grey eyes.  (I prefer blue, but who cares? Pale is good.)  Dark hair with a nice salting of grey.  I could live without the tattooes... but it just makes him look a little wild and untamed. 

A couple of weeks ago, he was hanging from GravBoots right in front of my 45 degree leg press.  All his clothes were practically falling off that lovely slab of meat and all I could think of was "I'd love to flog the hide off that!"

Today, he was upside down again.  THIS time his heavy silver chain necklace was exposed.  Looked just like the choke chains I use for training collars.  I have an undeignable earge to hand him one.

Sure wish there was a sure fire way to 'spot a sub' in public.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 7:12:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		There was a guy on Make Me A Supermodel (yes, I know, damn Bravo and their reality shows! :P) who just SCREAMED submissive to me. So wanted to take that boy under my wing and show him what's what.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 7:48:05 AM   
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Top x sure-fire ways to spot a submissive guy in public:

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That man holding the door open for you, the one blushing with his eye's down stammering, "My pleasure, Maam." He must hold the door open for lots of folks. Ask him if he's seen any submissive guys.

Lift your boot and look down, see that guy down there? He's submissive.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:27:53 AM   
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That man holding the door open for you, the one blushing with his eye's down stammering, "My pleasure, Maam." He must hold the door open for lots of folks. Ask him if he's seen any submissive guys.



Hehe... i love that one.

i'd look out for this ringtone http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TytGOeiW0aE

Then there's always the fun leather hanky code http://www.panpolybdsm.com/hankycode.html ... but there are two things to remember here:

1:  While there are many different flavours of bottoms (flavours of bottoms? eeew, that was not the best choice of phrasing) that might be signified, there's nothing that actually denotes a submissive

2:  If you see a hot young stud with all kinds of handkerchiefs hanging from his belt, there’s a good chance that he might not be interested in a woman.   Unfortunately, there really is no hard and fast rule for picking out a submissive in the vanilla world.  Just like seeing a timid man doesn’t mean he’ll be a submissive, or a confident woman doesn’t necessarily make for a dominant.  I’d say, just get up and ask him.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:33:29 AM   
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Even if he isn't submissive you can turn him into one.  Seduction!

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:46:04 AM   
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Then there's always the fun leather hanky code http://www.panpolybdsm.com/hankycode.html


oh good lord...who could keep up with all that?  you'd have to carry around an encylopedia, cause I know I couldn't remember what means what...and some of those hanky colors I've never even heard of let alone seen....goodness, if you are into more than one thing you could have so many hankies they won't be able to find you in all of them...lol  I'm-a skeerd...lol  

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:48:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Any guy who acts submissive in vanilla public circumstances, is probably dateless..

You might be better looking for positive reactions to your own assertive behaviour, or perhaps make a joke about spanking him and see how he reacts!

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:50:30 AM   
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Hanky codes have a long homo tradition and have served the gay community for a really long time.. they're not that hard to remember... but personally, I hate having more than one in my pocket...

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Then there's always the fun leather hanky code http://www.panpolybdsm.com/hankycode.html


oh good lord...who could keep up with all that?  you'd have to carry around an encylopedia, cause I know I couldn't remember what means what...and some of those hanky colors I've never even heard of let alone seen....goodness, if you are into more than one thing you could have so many hankies they won't be able to find you in all of them...lol  I'm-a skeerd...lol  


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 8:59:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Even if he isn't submissive you can turn him into one.  Seduction!

Akasha



If that doesn't work, there's always kidnapping and brainwashing.


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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Then there's always the fun leather hanky code http://www.panpolybdsm.com/hankycode.html


oh good lord...who could keep up with all that?  you'd have to carry around an encylopedia, cause I know I couldn't remember what means what...and some of those hanky colors I've never even heard of let alone seen....goodness, if you are into more than one thing you could have so many hankies they won't be able to find you in all of them...lol  I'm-a skeerd...lol  


That's what you get a submissive for, so you can find what you're looking for in the hanky forest




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Any guy who acts submissive in vanilla public circumstances, is probably dateless..



Not true, unless you equate timid to submissive.  Personally, i've found that my submissive tendencies generally geared me towards the role of an old-fashioned southern gentleman.

When i was single, and in the vanilla scene; i've never found myself with a lack of female companionship,



ps: Whew... finally caught up to all the posts i wanted to respond to.


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 9:02:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes there is a certain curly haired young man at a shop here in town who I confess, has been the subject of a few Jay fantasies LOL! Master calls him "My boyfriend" and teases Me quite a bit before We get to the shop. The time he had to get down on his knees to get something out of a cupboard ... well Master gave Me a warning headshake on that one as He could see My reaction! This lad is cute, has interests in common with Us (I'm trying to be a bit discreet here!) ... and just the warmest subby eyes. When he said his relationship had split up recently, though he described all he did for his partner ... budgeting, paying bills, shopping, cooking, cleaning and driving ... another (male) customer in this conversation said "hey, marry me!" laughing ... I was thinking "come and serve Me, you'll have an easier life and be more appreciated!" But short of being indiscreetly brave, I guess the chance won't be taken. *sigh* So I have to pin My hopes on the interstate lad I have been talking to for several months actually getting here for a visit!

So Ms Starlett, I empathise!

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 2:20:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seriously, ask him out, then take him to a BDSM themed club or event....who knows....
take a shot

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 6:24:55 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Just got in from setting up some props for another movie promotion.  The manager gave me a free movie shirt.  Black with just the word "WANTED" printed on the front.  Can't wait to wear it to the gym.  Maybe I'll get some comments from 'my boys' over there.  There are several who are very friendly, some quite flirtatious... but Mr. Smok'n Hot is polite and generally only talks to me about gym related issues.  

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 6:31:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		cripes...I have a coworker whom I know is a lesbian, is poly, and is probably kinky cause of some of the jokes she makes...and damn would I love to do her...but she's a coworker and if I approach her and she's not interested or heaven forbid I'm wrong...YIKES!  oh but she's hot.  she's defiant, doesn't care what anyone thinks, speaks her mind and has this long black hair I'd love to tie up....mmmmm

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 6:57:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's always the problem, isn't it?  What if you make a move... and they think you're nothing but a perv from then on.  I mean, the gym isn't the same as the workplace - but people GOSSIP!

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 7:16:22 PM   
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That's always the problem, isn't it?  What if you make a move... and they think you're nothing but a perv from then on.  I mean, the gym isn't the same as the workplace - but people GOSSIP!


isnt that like free advertising? lol. 

Really though. How many guys have you ever heard that wont have anything to do with a woman because she maybe "perverted?" lol.  Are you afraid that your professional reputation might be hurt?

you could always walk up to him while he is hanging upside down and ask, "Hey, can I hang you like that by your balls later?"

Anyway, see if you could draw him into a date or something and then work into the BDSM thing lol.

I think some people are afraid of it more than anything else.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 9:24:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh yea...my husband has a guy that works for him that makes my palms itch to play him...it doesn't help that I know he has the biggest crush on me...hubby teases me all the time about it...

Problem? We all work for the same company...We joke that the moment the guy leaves the company...that's it...pounce and welcome to the dark side boy...


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 9:39:13 PM   
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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/19/2008 10:32:00 PM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		How they react to certain suggestive, but not over the top, comments, can be a good indication.

Simple things, like telling him: "I like to have my way," or "some people think I'm too bossy," can evoke surprising interest and responsives from the guy who doesn't necessarily wear his submissiveness on his sleeve in public.  If he responds appropriately, try asking him to fetch you a fresh towel at the gym...

Regards, ATP

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 1:53:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

That's always the problem, isn't it?  What if you make a move... and they think you're nothing but a perv from then on.  I mean, the gym isn't the same as the workplace - but people GOSSIP!


Hi Ma`am How about a subtle hint ?  If he is submissive he will respond ( trust me lol ) If he isnt he may not get it. The trick is being subtle enough not to be blatant, but i will leave that to You ( since i dont have a clue )

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 2:55:38 AM   
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Hi Ma`am How about a subtle hint ?  If he is submissive he will respond ( trust me lol ) If he isnt he may not get it. The trick is being subtle enough not to be blatant, but i will leave that to You ( since i dont have a clue )


The only thing, Politesub; is that you also have guys like me.  i generally can't catch a hint if i'm beat upside the head with it.  You know what an effective hint is to guys like me?

"ME WANT HURT YOU!!!"

As a matter of fact, some men really are that dense.  i prefer to call it naive or innocent (now stop laughing), but i know the truth.


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