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18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:09:36 AM   
yngbutnot2yng


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Status: offline 		Do you honestly belive that someone of such a young age can be serious about a lifestyle such as this. I am not being indecisive i would just like to know your opinion of it all. I've been interested in the lifestyle for a long time *or as long as 18 years can permit me* but i am still greeted with comments about people saying that i dont know what im talking about.

The way i see it. I could be more experienced than a 40 year old but since i am as young as i am it just seems like its a turn off for some.
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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:11:11 AM   
CruelDesires


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Status: offline 		Just keep an open mind. The experiance comes later.

It is the 40 year olds with the closed minds who are lacking.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:15:29 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Hmm see there are these comments so often, and yet I have never had anyone treat me badly or imply my inexperiance due to my age, i really dont get it.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:15:30 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		yes, its not the age its the stage....

i started officially at 18,(unofficially at 5) but ill be honest in hindsite i really had no clue.

there is nothing wrong with not having a clue though....in fact "Beginners mind" is a very highly valued pricipal in Buddist teachings because you are so open to the magic all around you.



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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:16:45 AM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Meh, don't stress about it too much. You are going to run into that a LOT in this kind of lifestyle... but not as much as you would if you were a 18 year old guy. Just go to a few munches, if there are any in your area that are 18+, the more you prove yourself not to be just a kinky teeniebopper, the less trouble you will have. ;)

Also, I'd keep a distance from the older guys who "Want to mentor you/show you the ropes."  Nothing really wrong with "mentoring"... but you do run into those mouthbreathers who just want to prey on all the new girls.


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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:20:27 AM   
MusicalBoredom


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Status: offline 		When I was young, I thought I had to prove how much I knew or how I wasn't a "kid" regarding almost every subject.  The older I get, this less I know it seems and somewhere along the line I didn't need to prove anything to anyone any longer.  Just be you, have fun and realize that you don't know and don't need to know everything. 

You probably don't know what you are talking about regarding some things and probably do know what you are talking about in other areas -- just like the rest of us.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:21:07 AM   
MasterHermes


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Status: offline 		This is not a contest. Dont let people turn this into a race. Nobody is really holding a rank over another. Every corner of life you will see somebody standing there saying "I am better than you are, prove yourself, prove yourself" . If once you are drown into this, your life is not a journey anymore, you are stuck at one corner too , and lost your identity, things what makes you, you. So just smile to them, go on your own journey and only partner with people who you believe heading the same direction with you.

Enjoy it
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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:22:14 AM   
DominantJenny


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Status: offline 		I had a complex, kinked fantasy world by the age of 9, so I certainly believe you can be fully aware that you are kinked by 18. For me, my hesitation with an 18 year old would have nothing to do with that, and everything to do with general development; at 18, you are in a very different place in life than a 28 or 38 year old, unless you've had a VERY unusual life. I was an exceedingly mature 18 year old, but, looking back from the age of 34, I had a LOT of developing yet to do.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:25:20 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Well by this reasoning, no 18 year old could seriously decide on a career either! How do you know you want to be a teacher, an engineer, a nurse, a farmer or whatever it is, for the rest of your life at 18? Yet few would say "oh you're too young to decide on a career!"

My take on it is this ... keep an open mind! Never say never. Go with the best information you have at the moment (after being sure to get as much information as you can to help guide your decision). If this is where you are leaning now ... go with the flow, albeit carefully, with due regard to your safety. And just as these days, people may marry at 20 and realise by 35 that they are travelling in 2 different directions, or they may become a bank manager in their 20s and then realise in their late 30s they'd much rather be a gardener (both true stories but not both of me!) ... realise that what you choose now may not necessarily be your best choice for the whole of your life.

Good luck!
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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:34:31 AM   
DanteV


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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Meh, don't stress about it too much. You are going to run into that a LOT in this kind of lifestyle... but not as much as you would if you were a 18 year old guy.



NO KIDDING!! I'm 25, and still get the age card played on me every once in a while.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:36:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Everything about you will be a turn off to some and a turn on to others.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:38:29 AM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		The 18 year old girl I am dating (*coughs* oh sorry...the girl who is under consideration with me *cough*) has a better grasp of M/S dynamics and is more mentally mature than a lot of the middle aged adults I have met in this "lifestyle".



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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:43:38 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


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Status: offline 		I am 21 and have never had the age card pulled on me.  That being said, what one person doesnt like,  another 20 people will love about you.  Dont let it get ya down or hold ya back.


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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 7:59:07 AM   
CyberDom08


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Status: offline 		My advice to you would be the same as to my own daughter. Explore life and what it has to offer, just talk to some people in the lifestyle, establish some rules and stick to them. This lifestyle is a preference, just like anything else, it is acceptable to have preferences. Some prefer a more mature woman, others like a young moldable woman. I would avoid any activities such as tatoo's of a persons name, doing something degrading that you might regret in the future, set hard limits and if a Dom cannot respect them, move on. You are a hot commodity, believe me, young attractive and seem to be smart, your surrender is a gift, give it to someone deserving. Do not rush into things and sub/slave or whatever, stick to your guns. There are levles in this "lifestyle" take things one step at a time and when you reach a place that you are comofortable stay there until you are ready for the next step. Also, if there is a guy that you would not date in the vanilla world, which we all have to live in, he might not be good for a D/s relationship.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:04:02 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Everything about you will be a turn off to some and a turn on to others.


Yes, you will get alot of email from pervy old guys.......and probably more than a few pervy old women!


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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:11:05 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		To me, age is just a number. Yes, it would be nice to have someone around that can truly understand the aches and pains of getting older, but then again it would be nice to have someone around that can still climb the stairs without their knees giving out... lol
 
My biggest issue is that they are of the child bearing years and that's something that just isn't going to happen here! Anyone that young would be hard pressed to convince me that they NEVER want to be a parent. And it's something that I would never deny them of. So, long term... I see way to many problems.
 
Was I even close to on track here? It's been a long morning already... lol
 
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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:37:59 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		What a bunch of garbage. "Im 18 but I could be more expierienced than some 40 year olds. You could be dumber than a 5 year old also. If your going to come into the lifestyle come in on your own merits. Trying to put older people into the negative spotlight just shows your immaturity. So what if someone older than you may know less. Thats not saying they they are not trying to learn more. Not everyone here has joined the lifestyle at a young age. Hint. Try an attitude adjustment.

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:41:05 AM   
darkpassenger434


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Status: offline 		I don't think its a BDSM thing, just a somewhat justified stereotype. Most 18 yr. olds (not all, and certainly not you) have no idea about much of anything and are still very much developing in a lot of ways. For every one of you there are a whole lot of jackasses out there painting a very unflattering picture of young adults.
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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:42:44 AM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		O.o That's pretty vicious Dnomyar. She has an excellent point- and I don't see her as having an attitude problem.

Now the 40 year olds that are giving her trash about being 18? That's where the attitude problem lies.


< Message edited by Lynnxz -- 6/19/2008 8:43:38 AM >

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RE: 18 year olds.... - 6/19/2008 8:48:38 AM   
MrRandallspe


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Status: offline 		No matter what age that we start into this life style,we all are having to deal with those that are older and have been into this for years before we came along.
No matter your age,be respectful and do not make the slip of the tongue comparing what you very well may be able to do vs someone who is older.
I understand that some are exposed to the BDSM life earlier than some of us were by the time we have reached the age of 21,,yet do not "shove" it into the face of others.
I can understand with many subs that they are very well aware of their place at a very young age,,,,with Doms/Dommes...you may know at a young age (like I did) yet you still have alot of knowledge to gain. Thus,,bragging is not wise. 

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