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bipolarber -> RE: Lifestyle double standard? (6/21/2008 6:07:41 AM)
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Being a bi male, my perspective on this is probably a bit more basic:
The reason guys are so much easier to find, and get any kind of action from, is simply because males are much more into sex as a physical thing, rather than as a metric for how much someone "loves" you. To guys, sex (and playing a scene) is about as involving as a game of baseball, or running a marathon. It isn't until later, when the barriers start coming down, and you start sharing vunerabilities, do our emotions begin to engage.
It's no real secret that most of the guys on CM are looking for a partner to fulfill a fantasy with, or someone who will be, at most, a mutual masturbation tool. Of course, there are a few who are looking for a bit more than that. But to find them, you'll need a flashlight, a pickaxe, and a pair of night vision goggles.
Women are pretty much approaching things from an emotional/security position. Most will be willing to get into bed, provided you treat them with a modicum of respect, and assure them that you aren't just going to run off after you've shot your wad, had a cig, and raided the fridge. So, women are much more cautious.
Because they are much more cautious, women like to take their time (at least compared to guys) and as such, withold such things as home addresses, phone numbers and email much longer than males, who (by comparison) will meet you at Denny's after ten minutes of IM chat with a pocket ful of condoms, and a bottle of lube.
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