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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/20/2008 1:34:03 PM

fluffyswitch

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Make sure you read profiles very very closely. I don't respond to all my email---though every nice compliment DOES get a "thank you" response---if the person is just miles out of my EXTREMELY specific parameters. Out of state? Too young? Totally not a kink match? Not getting a response. I even say right in my profile that I don't answer all my mail.....I can live with being Rude Dominant.

agreed. i get a lot of email from people that email me as if i'm not spoken for- which isn't true- or which get dumped because they did read the profile but ignored things like my filter question. if you answer the question, you get a reply. no question no reply. it may be stupid but if someone requests you do something in the email then you may have a better chance of getting an answer if you do it.

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/20/2008 2:39:43 PM

stella41b

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Hello Marc

Welcome to the boards. And a weegie too?

I can understand you feeling a bit scunnered, but try not to let it get you down.

There's quite a few spanners on the site here and there and I'm sure you know yourself, age does send a few folk a bit glaekit and they forget what it was like at 18. Aye there's a few brass necks oot there.

Much of what I can write has already been posted. Also try to avoid posting when you're disheartened or else a few people will snark at you for whining.

Look at it this way, each time you don't get a reply, it brings you one message closer to your next reply.

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/20/2008 6:50:25 PM

Griswold

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ORIGINAL: killthemusic

I've been on collar me for about a month, and I feel a little disheartened. When I send out messages to people, they never reply. Is this a common occurrence? I am always sure to discuss anything that I read in their profile that interested me, and inform them about myself as well. I always include a pic, etc. I state my experience (NONE!) and my age (18), could this be what's causing them not to reply? It really is very disappointing to see that one's mail was read, but obviously didn't touch the person enough to even right back 'thanks but no thanks.'. I don't want to seem whiney or anything but it is bumming me out a little. Any advice would be appreciated.

Marc x

A) You're a male submissive. Allow me to explain the stats; There are exactly (I've counted) 12 kabillion, 373 kajillion, 924 bazillion Dommes....to every ONE male sub. (I'm going to allow you to grab your calculator and do the necessary math).

B) You've been on a month. Everything you complain / argue against / about is entirely related to your lack of understanding about that which is explained in point "A".

C) Any questions as to your ability to find "The One"....please refer to point #A.

(In case I wasn't altogether clear....they win).

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/20/2008 9:37:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

There are exactly (I've counted) 12 kabillion, 373 kajillion, 924 bazillion Dommes....to every ONE male sub.

Sure about that?

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/21/2008 6:09:17 AM

Zupan

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I have been here for a few years looking now, off and on, and rarely get a reply. It would be nice to get an answer, but that is the way things go on the internet. It is easier to not answer I suppose. It does get frustrating never to get an answer, but I don't let it get to me.

A suggestion....I generally wait until the girl has been here for about a month, often times more, before I email. When a girl first joins she will get buried in emails and can frustrate her to the point of leaving or deleting many or all emails she gets. After she has been her for a month, the emails seem to be greatly reduced and the chances of getting some sort of an answer go up.

Would it be nice to get an answer for every email you send? Of course it would, but that just isn't going to happen. So it is not anything you are doing wrong, it is just the nature of meet and greet on the Internet.

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/21/2008 8:16:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: subfever

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

There are exactly (I've counted) 12 kabillion, 373 kajillion, 924 bazillion Dommes....to every ONE male sub.

Sure about that?

Well, I did read yesterday that the worlds population in 2012 will be at 7 billion (from the current 6.7 billion), so the % could be as high as 2 male subs now.

< Message edited by Griswold -- 6/21/2008 8:17:16 PM >

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RE: What am I doing wrong? - 6/21/2008 8:25:13 PM

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Marc ---

Two thoughts that haven't been mentioned so far:

-- Having a picture in your profile might help. There are ways to avoid showing your face if privacy is an issue.

-- Getting yourself known on the message boards might help. Think of the boards as a chance to showcase the engaging personality folks are missing by not writing back to you.

Good luck!

Cheers,

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