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ORIGINAL: Tapestry

i agree that this is who i am - deep inside, my personality, whether i acknowledge it or not, it's there.
but
i think that the idea of the gift comes into play because
it is my choice whom i will submit myself to
and when i have been sufficiently wooed and courted and reassured to the point that i am willing to submit, at that point, i am offering my deepest self, and in that respect, yes it's a gift.
and yes, sadly, the gift does not have to be accepted
but it was my choice to offer it
for no Dom or Master can actually control what I don't allow him to,
hence the reason this is called transferring my power...it's mine to give away
and yes, i will, one way or another, find a Dom to transfer that power to
because it is an important part of me

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I see just how much effort Masters and Dom/mes and Owners and Tops put into their relationships with their counterparts. Its something most of them work hard at

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ORIGINAL: nephandi

Where being a sub is a walk on roses always, we never have to work for the relationship, we dont have situations and days where we just want to scream, generaly we just sit back and enyoy the ride?

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Its just my opinion of people that consider themselves a "gift". I find the attitude that someone considers themselves a gift someone else should believe themselves blessed to have egotistical and abhorrent.

I see just how much effort Masters and Dom/mes and Owners and Tops put into their relationships with their counterparts. Its something most of them work hard at, and to call it a gift implies that it just falls into their lap with no effort on their part.