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pinkieplum -> RE: Is It Time to Seek a Restraining Order? (6/23/2008 4:08:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Termyn8or
It took me 47 years to get all the drama out of my life and at this point I wonder why I even bothered to read this thread.
Giving out checkbooks ? I'll take one. If you know someone who needs money, you write a check and give them the check, not the whole book !
And this interpersonal drama is disgusting really. A couple of nasty emails and you are talking restraining order ? That is ridiculous.
First of all I know what it is like to deal with religious types, it is no fun, but he picked her. You have your choice to deal with it or not. I suggest not. First of all you can't deal with it because those people are not under your control. Second of all, all you do is wrack (or should I say wreck) your brain trying.
Grow up and get out of the picture. Tell him to call when he can find the time. Close the account. And I mean that figuratively as well, close the account. Make it so your phone is the next one to ring.
He has made his choice, and if he should perish because of it, so be it. You are not your brother's keeper. I think it unlikely she is administering him drugs against his will, and if someone you recently were willing to give a checkbook to can no longer comprehend a full sentence, it is likely that you won't have to close that account. It might be his choice to get high, and there is a good probablity that it is already overdrawn.
I would like to know the whole story, but then again maybe I wouldn't. We got one side, and it is full of holes. First of all he is married and he needs your checkbook ? It doesn't add up. If she is the religious type, no matter what else I may think of people like that, it is unlikely that she is drinking alot or doing drugs, sapping the money. So unless she is tything to the church, you probably have no real beef with her.
And why did you imply that you moved ?
T
Termy, the Op was a mistake on my part.
i like a book titled 'The Gift of Fear' by Gavin de Becker -- i give it all the time as gifts. In this book, the author explains -- among other things -- that sometimes obtaining a restraining order backfires. It's not a decision to be made lightly. If it will serve no good purpose but to inflame the offender and spur them to action, then it's counterprductive -- can even be deadly.
When i wrote the Op, i (foolishly) expected a thread on the pros and cons of the use of restraining orders.
i provided personal info in the Op so P/pl would have a context...and i found myself making further revelations in later posts. i did myself a huge diservice.
Maybe i wouldv'e stimulated the convo i sought if i had written the Op differently, but i don't really believe that.
*hugs*
pinkieplum
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