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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 3:49:03 PM   
Lockit


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I want to be spoiled and pampered.  Why not?  I tend to spoil and pamper too! 

Spoiling and pampering is far different than asking for payment for services rendered or not.  If you don't want to pay for services, don't.  Stop focusing on the one's you have no interest in and find those who share your interest.

There have been times... when a submissive wishes to serve me... who wants... needs... insists upon taking all my time and offers nothing in return.  To those... I have once or twice told them they would have to pay for my time since they offered nothing but a waste of my time.  Entertain me submissive's are a dime a dozen, just as there are scam artist.  Let's not confuse a real professional with those who wish to scam you and let's not confuse those who really want to have something real with another human being with those that want to charge for something else.

Why pay attention to the negative?  Make happen what you will and let the little things go. 

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/24/2008 12:49:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MmeGigs
I went out and looked at a dozen femdom profiles.  I looked at the first twelve I saw that had pics - I fgured that would provide a good sample. 

Why?

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/24/2008 1:40:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: boundinside

If you are a Mistress and you want someone to buy you things and spoil you, why don't you put that in your profile. I was rejected today because I did not want to renew a woman's membership for an online website that I have never even heard. Now I realize that there are a few clueless guys out there who might actually be willing to do something of this nature. But for the real people who earn their money, why would you base whether or not someone is qualified based on money. Money is only 1 percent of happieness, yet half the profiles on here for female dominants are telling you to spoil them and buy them this or buy them that.


Bound, I'd say that since this is a free forum, one of the indirect 'prices of admission' so to speak IS to have to weed thru any phonies that may be lurking here.

Considering that many of people here seem to be people looking for friends and possible D/s matches, I say it is well worth the effort. I've made several new friends in the short time I've been a member, so I certainly do!

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/24/2008 7:30:02 PM   
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Maybe your willingness to do small things like this is how she bases whether or not you would remember her birthday, Valentines Day, bring her flowers for no reason etc. Because if so, then she has decided she doesn't want another man who takes but never gives.

How romantic are you? Ever bring her flowers just because they looked pretty in the arrangement? Chocolate to cheer her up after she had to put down her 16 year old poodle?

She has every right to want a man who does the right things willingly, not someone who never thinks selflessly of making her happy.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 7/9/2008 4:08:06 AM   
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I am a very successful pro dom, but what often makes me laugh and shake my head is that for some strange reason people automatically think a pro dom "just does it for the money"...kind of like.... you can "visit a real dom" or you can "visit a pro dom that just wants your money"  this is incredibly unjust as I know many that truely enjoy what they do ( and would do it for free ) but they have found an opporunity to work with something that they enjoy...and lets face it , who wouldnt LOVE that !

I am VERY finacially secure, and I would never have to work again should I choose not to...but I continue because I LOVE what I do and have no plans to stop.
Yes, I am in  the position to be able to see only the people I desire to see, but still I do it because its part of me and I enjoy it and Im sure there are many other Pro Mistresses out there that feel the same way.
Just because some Mistresses take money for their services does not automatically mean that they "just do it for cash", otherwise you could be missing out on something special.
Lets face it, if a good pro Mistress, enjoys what she does then she is lightly to have the best equipment, nice premises, first class hygiene, first class safety, a good background in psychology, and probably wont watch the clock in your visit.

If you compared this to some of the horror stories I have been told from people that have met other so called "mistresses"  it would certainly make you think twice.
Yes there are VERY MANY out there that only do it for cold hard cash, but not everyone, so please dont paint paint everyone with the same negative brush.
Like with everything, you need to "shop around" for the best deal, otherwise an appropriate saying is....if you pay peanuts......you get monkeys.

Some people cut their own hair at home, but it usually looks best after a visit to a professional salon, but would the hairstylist do it for you in thier shop for free ?  I doubt it, she has running costs etc..in order to be able to offer you the possibility of this service, and for her personal time and attention.  This person has chosen to do this job because they have an interest in it.....but does that mean she should work for free ?  do you work at your job for free ?   The fact that you possibly have a job that you dont enjoy is really your unfortunate concern.

Then we get to the "money gift" part of this post....for me its quite simple, those that wish to send a gift of some kind to me for whatever reason...is quite welcome to do so!
It is not anything I make them do, it is their own free will, so is that wrong ?    
Is it wrong for someone to send you a birthday card or gift ?  you didnt ask for it ! you didnt do anything for it ! someone simply sent it to you because they liked you and wanted to make you happy ....is that wrong too ?

Yes I get a lot of very nice gifts, but its not me pushing for them , pressurizing for them or whatever............besides if someone didnt want to send a gift......they wouldnt ! its as simple as that.

Gift sending can be a sign of adoration, or a sign of submission or simply a pleasant gesture and is therefor enjoyable for both parties. I will be honest and say that Im like a kid on christmas morning whenever I get a gift, I cant wait to see whats inside  :)

Pro Doms and Money Gifts are not for everybody, but just because its not "your thing" does not mean that people should bring "it" or other people down.
Life if for enjoying and experiencing, just learn to accept that everyone is different, with different hopes, needs, kinks and dreams.

Kind Regards
Matina Nemesis











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RE: Somebody please tell me - 7/9/2008 4:20:41 AM   
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That was well said, MatinaNemesis.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 7/9/2008 5:34:58 AM   
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Thanx, glad you liked it :)

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