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christine1 -> RE: gangbangs (6/22/2008 8:30:37 PM)
OP, maybe it would be helpful if you talked with your dominant and asked him what his expectations are for the night? does he want you to learn something? does he want to? does he want you to be humiliated in a way and just used as a piece of meat? i'm just throwing ideas out here, but maybe talking with him about his expectations for himself and you would help you with this.

MissMagnolia -> RE: gangbangs (6/22/2008 8:31:41 PM)
OP, I actually had a question regarding something about your Masters control of the situation, as mentioned by a couple of posters. In the event that all the boys lost control of themselves and stopped "treating you with respect physically and verbally", would he be capable of stopping the scene? Even a big guy would have trouble fighting off 4-7 testosterone driven men. Would it be possible to have another male there who wasn't participating, just as back up in case things went awry? Have the invited participants been involved in this kind of scene before? Is there going to be a safe word if you go beyond what you can take? As for your feelings before, during and after, no one knows what state you will be in. It's often terrifying to do something so completely new, so really, how you feel is completely normal. The most you can do is try hard to keep very calm, breath deeply and trust your Master. I myself find gangbangs horrible too, and it has nothing to do with society, but we are all allowed an opinion. It doesn't have to coincide with yours.

Maya2001 -> RE: gangbangs (6/22/2008 9:44:59 PM)
I think this post would make a useful read http://www.collarchat.com/m_1182386/mpage_1/key_gangbang/tm.htm#1182549

daddysliloneds -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 4:00:17 AM)
my first word to the wise is that no one can keep you 'emotionally safe'... and the other thing to know is 'it's just fucking'... oh, and most times when one is arranged, you're lucky if one guy shows up, no matter how much bullshit is stated before-hand.

XaviersXian -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 4:23:40 AM)
My advice to you is to get to know everyone that intends to participate first. This saves so many issues that crop up when you don't truly know someone. have a great time!

OsideGirl -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 7:25:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie I know that my Sir is not going to think of me differently (except maybe more proud to have me as his) No, you don't. And you won't know until after it happens for the first time. You need to accept the fact that despite his assurances, he could react very badly to the situation.

SirDragon1961 -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 8:53:38 AM)
Hecdips His lid to all: I'm concerned... you are His property. He has organised alot- there s certainly no dispute in that- He has given alot of His consideration in planning/screening etc. (which creates a concious or unconscious guilt trip) But as His property He should also be making sure His property is ready for action. This appears to be neglected; for you are on here less than a week beforehand looking for settlement! He should have advised this in His planning and certainly more than a week beforehand when you are the 'star' piece of His property. Is He aware you are here with questions? if not then tell Him to cease forthwith for you are concerned that as His property you are not ready. Any experience outside of the 'norm for you should be meticulously planned and you girl do not appear ready for it. There appears a communication issue here and I certainly agree with Simply. Warm regards Dragon

xxblushesxx -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:02:21 AM)
Since you asked about what you could do to prepare, I have heard that "The Ethical Slut" is a very good book, and might help not feel guilty later. I haven't actually read it, but many here have (L.A. I think?) and highly recommend it. Also, be prepared that your relationship may or may not survive this. His feelings for you might change (either right away or over time) as yours for him may. You TRULY do not know until you have done this. Be aware you are playing with a loaded gun. (in many respects) I wish you the best.

backseatbebe -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:13:32 AM)
funny on a kink forum not one person here that can't offer some sound advise and just say good luck with an experince most here are too prude-ish to do themselves sorry i too have yet to participate in a gang bang and laugh at these people trying to scare you away from something both you and your master have decided is a good next step for you, please let us how it went afterwards and happy fucking ps. i read ethical slut and i dont think its all that empowering for someone whos past accpeting all aspects of their sexuality, though none the less a great read

kittinSol -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:16:07 AM)
I saw nobody trying to 'scare the OP away'. I read some sound advice and a few diverging opinions - and surely, that is the point of this thread. It's not something to take on lightly after all.

backseatbebe -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:18:43 AM)
come on... he'll (the Matser) hate you afterwards cause your a slut guys cant handle the jealousy of other men once it happens he wouldnt be able to fend off 7 ravishing horny guys?

kittinSol -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:22:24 AM)
You said it - all in all, the warnings are justified. It would be lying to tell the original poster that such an endeavour is a piece of cake and to dive straight in unprepared.

PonyGirlMagic -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:23:21 AM)
My understanding is that it may be best to add one partner at a time. Begin with a threesome with some you both know very well. If this works out, play with couples. Maybe visit the swingers clubs or join a few swingers mailing list or discussion groups. I know that this is specifically an all male gang bang arranged by your master, but the swingers community will be able to help and support you.

xxblushesxx -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:24:07 AM)
Yeah, that NEVAH happens... Perhaps some of us speak from experience (either our own or others) And many of us wished her well and gave the best advice we could. Instead of offering any sort of advice (based on experience or even opinion) bsbb just bashes others who actually took the time to be helpful, and to provide insight. Good job with that.

backseatbebe -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:28:12 AM)
yes but scaring her with "justified warnings" and assuming she thinks it will be a piece of cake is a little hmmmmm presumpcious because what makes you think she doesnt know this already shes looking for helpful advice on how to prepare not how to prepare for the end of their realtionship

kittinSol -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:33:02 AM)
It's only logical to be ready for the consequences and potential difficulties if one's about to do a parachute jump.

backseatbebe -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:35:38 AM)
actually i did offer advice i said i read the etichal slut and dont think it would be helpful sorry i dont have any experince but yes think the replies were rather negative to something she probably considers a positive in her life and i actually "bashed" the people who offered no advice or tried to talk her outta of it but i agree with pony, the swingers will offer much sounder advice considering they don't consider it "parachute jump" lol... you make it sound like its a life threatening experince quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Yeah, that NEVAH happens... Perhaps some of us speak from experience (either our own or others) And many of us wished her well and gave the best advice we could. Instead of offering any sort of advice (based on experience or even opinion) bsbb just bashes others who actually took the time to be helpful, and to provide insight. Good job with that.

TwoNYCDommes -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:39:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: backseatbebe funny on a kink forum not one person here that can't offer some sound advise and just say good luck with an experince most here are too prude-ish to do themselves sorry i too have yet to participate in a gang bang and laugh at these people trying to scare you away from something both you and your master have decided is a good next step for you, please let us how it went afterwards and happy fucking I don't have any particular advice to offer the OP, but I can offer a perspective counter to that of many here. As a voyeur and dominant, I have choreographed a handfull of gangbangs, and none of them have gone badly. I've never had any trouble keeping the bangers in line, never ended up with a terribly-traumatized bangee, etc. So, sure, as with any scene, there are many things that could go wrong, but it could also all go right.

kittinSol -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:44:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwoNYCDommes So, sure, as with any scene, there are many things that could go wrong, but it could also all go right. Spot on.

xxblushesxx -> RE: gangbangs (6/23/2008 10:49:01 AM)
She is "apprehensive" "scared" and this is "not something I would have chosen". When someone is not sure whether they want to or are able to do something, it is only fair to point out possible (and even probable statistically) consequences to these actions. There are many ex-couples on these boards and others who say "it seemed like a good idea at the time" and who wish they had never done that. They find it's something that one partner or the other (and it can be very surprising) just cannot move past. The girl may say..."if he really loved me he wouldn't have..." and the guy may think "I never knew she was such a hot little ho...I can never hope to satisfy her" or he may just feel that she is 'tainted' somehow. I am a very analytical person, and want to know what could happen and/or what usually happens in any given situation. That way, I can make my decisions from a position of knowledge, and to be prepared if something doesn't happen the way it does in the movies. As I stated in my first post, I do wish her the best. I'm not a prude; I'm not judging her...but people should know that when they open a door, it sometimes can't be closed.

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