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julietsierra -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 3:28:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Glad it worked out well and all the Cassandras were wrong about this. But somehow the idea of being "respectful" at a gang bang makes we wonder. Did they bow and say "please" and "thank you"? I kinda thought gang bangs were about fucking the girl's brains out. Fucking a girl's brains out is not necessarily synonymous with treating her as if she was a useless piece of crap. Fucking a girl's brains out can be full of fun and laughter and joking around and even tenderness... Those are the best moments for me...when all of us feel like we're part of something special and I can be amazed by the whole process. So yes, I'd say that people can be respectful without bowing and scraping AND still fuck the girl's brains out. juliet

SltlyBrokenAngel -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 5:58:30 PM)
hisdarlinsweetie, I'm so glad that it worked out well. Congratulations!

xxblushesxx -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 8:19:49 PM)
I'm glad it worked out well for you. I wish you all the best.

MissSCD -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 8:33:05 PM)
SweetNika: I can make a judgment on what I have actually seen happen. I haven't read her latest post, and will not do it. You are so wrong. Women do not need to feel this way about themnselves. There is something wrong with her mental judgement on this issue to want to be gang raped. Usually, this type of desire comes from abuse as a child. I know women who want that so don't tell me anything I don't know. I wish they would do away with gang rapes in the lifestyle period. To me, it is reall sick when a Domme allows a gang rape scene. This is when the individuals are in full bondage and have no way out. Consent or non consent, I view it as rape. At least I know enough about myself to leave if one ever starts up again when I am present. Just so that you will know that in the future when you are encouraging this type of behavior. Any other comments on this thread can be reached at my email here at CollarMe. Regards, MissSCD quote: ORIGINAL: SweetNika quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD *When was the last time you were in a gang bang? Also, she is a new comer. She is not ready for this in my opinion.* *Thank you for caring about women. I sure would not want you on my jury when it went to trial as rape.* *Tell it to the judge.* *Regards, MissSCD* quote: ORIGINAL: SltlyBrokenAngel Wow.... MissSCD.... wouldn't it be legitimate to say that some women enjoy this type of play? And who decided that it is degrading to women? Was there a women of the world meeting when this was decided on that I missed? Its all in perception - and to judge this on one scene that went wrong isn't really fair. Furthermore, I don't recall talking about rape IF she decides that this is something that she wants to participate in then she is consenting to the event and consenting to have sex with these men.... that's not rape. Who are you, or me or anyone to judge if she is ready for this? Only her and her only can truly know that. I have been in a gang bang and I did not find it degrading as I said I found it empowering. As I said before this may not be YOUR kink but it is the kink of quite a few men and women. You are comparing apples and rocks, yes rocks when you compare a consensual gang bang and a rape. There is NOTHING consensual about rape and she appears to be conscenting to this gang bang. Nika

hisdarlinsweetie -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 10:08:00 PM)
Wow MissScd...While it is good that you know yourself well enough to leave a situation which you are uncomfortable with, you are making wild, grossly inaccurate assumptions about me (and probably others who have engaged in gangbangs). I was not raped in any form during this gangbang. My Sir would never have allowed that to happen. He asked me if I wanted to cancel numerous times leading up to last night. He screened and chose (wisely) the participants. He was present during the entire thing, monitoring if I was ok. All the men knew that it would be over immediately if any of my Sir's rules were not abided to. And during the gangbang, it was just fucking, sprinkled with some intimate exchanges between my Sir and I. I was used throughly, not as a piece of meat, but as a gorgeous, sensual, pleasing girl of my Sir. My Sir set that tone and the men followed. I was never sexually or physically abused as a child. I don't want to be raped (as I assume no one really does). I want to be able to explore my life, including my sexuality, with my Sir. Because it's fun and challenging, and most importantly because I adore him with every molecule of my being.

ownedgirlie -> RE: gangbangs (6/29/2008 10:27:22 PM)
I'm really glad this seemed like such a great experience for you both. It is ver natural to feel nervous anticipation before doing something new and intense. Thanks for the follow up post! It's great to know you and your Sir feel closer now, and that it was a special night for you both.

MissSCD -> RE: gangbangs (6/30/2008 7:44:20 AM)
*hisdarlinssweetie:* *Let me ask you this question. If you had said no to your Master regarding this sceen, do you think you would still have a Master?* *That is called abuse. . Ask your Master to email me here. I would like to discuss it with him* *Call it what you wish, but we call it gang rape. It is sick in my opinion. I think you were forced and did not realize it because you had fear that you would lose your Master.* I started as a sub. I trained for a year as a sub. I then trained as a Domme by a Domme in a dungeon setting where open sexual experiments were allowed. We don't go there anymore. I could go on about how I would feel about myself in this situation, but you are in denial. Regards, MissSCD quote: ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie Wow MissScd...While it is good that you know yourself well enough to leave a situation which you are uncomfortable with, you are making wild, grossly inaccurate assumptions about me (and probably others who have engaged in gangbangs). I was not raped in any form during this gangbang. My Sir would never have allowed that to happen. He asked me if I wanted to cancel numerous times leading up to last night. He screened and chose (wisely) the participants. He was present during the entire thing, monitoring if I was ok. All the men knew that it would be over immediately if any of my Sir's rules were not abided to. And during the gangbang, it was just fucking, sprinkled with some intimate exchanges between my Sir and I. I was used throughly, not as a piece of meat, but as a gorgeous, sensual, pleasing girl of my Sir. My Sir set that tone and the men followed. I was never sexually or physically abused as a child. I don't want to be raped (as I assume no one really does). I want to be able to explore my life, including my sexuality, with my Sir. Because it's fun and challenging, and most importantly because I adore him with every molecule of my being.

julietsierra -> RE: gangbangs (6/30/2008 8:06:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD *hisdarlinssweetie:* *Let me ask you this question. If you had said no to your Master regarding this sceen, do you think you would still have a Master?* *That is called abuse. . Ask your Master to email me here. I would like to discuss it with him* *Call it what you wish, but we call it gang rape. It is sick in my opinion. I think you were forced and did not realize it because you had fear that you would lose your Master.* I started as a sub. I trained for a year as a sub. I then trained as a Domme by a Domme in a dungeon setting where open sexual experiments were allowed. We don't go there anymore. I could go on about how I would feel about myself in this situation, but you are in denial. Regards, MissSCD quote: ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie Wow MissScd...While it is good that you know yourself well enough to leave a situation which you are uncomfortable with, you are making wild, grossly inaccurate assumptions about me (and probably others who have engaged in gangbangs). I was not raped in any form during this gangbang. My Sir would never have allowed that to happen. He asked me if I wanted to cancel numerous times leading up to last night. He screened and chose (wisely) the participants. He was present during the entire thing, monitoring if I was ok. All the men knew that it would be over immediately if any of my Sir's rules were not abided to. And during the gangbang, it was just fucking, sprinkled with some intimate exchanges between my Sir and I. I was used throughly, not as a piece of meat, but as a gorgeous, sensual, pleasing girl of my Sir. My Sir set that tone and the men followed. I was never sexually or physically abused as a child. I don't want to be raped (as I assume no one really does). I want to be able to explore my life, including my sexuality, with my Sir. Because it's fun and challenging, and most importantly because I adore him with every molecule of my being. WOW... Well, since I chimed in on the topic of gangbangs, and my initial trepidation, let me say that I can't even come CLOSE to viewing what we did as gang rape. On the other hand, how I DO view it is us - he and I - making love through other people. I like orgasms. He enjoys some healthy voyeurism from time to time. We just simply made love in a way that was different from what is considered the norm. I know that I, for one, have never been forced. When I said "I won't do A and these are the reasons why." I was never made to do A. So, when the prospect of multiple people came up, initially I was enthusiastic. As the time grew closer and all the fears jumped into my head, THAT was when I became reluctant. At no time did he ever force me to do a thing. Once I recognized my reluctance and started to think about WHY I was reluctant, I took a look at what was going to happen. I looked at him. I thought to myself that he was someone worth trusting, and so, that's what I did. I also recognized that if I didn't try this, I'd always wonder. So, I threw my trepidation out the window and went in wholeheartedly - albiet somewhat nervously. He appreciated the nervousness. I appreciated the orgasms. They appreciated the opportunity. It was a win win win ...win win win, win situation for all concerned. If I'd have had to worry about him walking out on me for saying no, he wouldn't have been worth saying yes to. Has it occurred to you that perhaps - just perhaps - you are basing your views of this on some past experience you had rather than what the reality may be for other women? I'm not saying you're wrong for you. I'm saying you're dead wrong for ME. And just because what happened to you was not something you could deal with doesn't mean it hasn't been enjoyable to me. So, while it may have been rape to you it was a walk on the wild side to me. And just one more thing. Denial doesn't just happen to people who are trying something new. It is also a facet of people who are faced with their own past as well and trying desperately to convince others that they're "just fine" by making the people trying new things think that there's something inherently wrong with what they're trying. juliet

hisdarlinsweetie -> RE: gangbangs (6/30/2008 1:31:20 PM)
MissSCD, Absolutely YES!!! There is no question in my mind that my Sir and I would still belong to each other if I had told him that I couldn't go through with the gangbang. He adores me as much as I adore him. We're lucky that way. This gangbang had nothing to do with rape or abuse or even the other men involved. It had to do with my Sir and I, our relationship: trust and love and fantasy fulfillment (for both of us). The other men were just consenting dildos connected to human bodies that were props for our relationship. Yes, I was aprehensive at first. But after much self-analysis and communication with my Sir, I came to the conclusion that I wanted to do it. Sometimes I am scared of the unknown. Sometimes I need to analyze my thoughts on controversial suggestions/subjects. Sometimes I need to question both myself and my Sir to make sure that I am doing the best thing. My Sir wouldn't have it any other way. As a side note, my Sir thought it was good for me to have a healthy amount of fear going into this because it meant that I had really thought about it and considered all the outcomes. If I had been blasse', he would have been worried because he knows me well enough to know that's a sign of denial for me.

candystripper -> RE: gangbangs (6/30/2008 1:57:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie My Sir has set up a gangbang for next weekend. I have never done anything like this and feel a little apprehensive. He knows that I am a little scared and is very supportive. He is not "making" me do this; but it was his idea and he has done all the work involved with setting it up (i.e. finding and then screening the participants, scheduling, etc.). While the idea of it is intriguing, it is not something I would have chosen for myself. He is inviting 7 with the thought that only 4 or 5 will show up. He will be there, keeping me safe physically and emotionally. Safe sex will be practiced. I would like to hear from subs who have done something like this. I am especially interested in those who, like me, were a little apprehensive before it happened. Thanks for all your responses. Well, it's almost a week since you posted the Op, hisdarlinsweetie. I'm curious. Have you had the 'gangbang'? Any surprises? Any regrets? candystripper

sabirah -> RE: gangbangs (6/30/2008 5:12:20 PM)
You might want to read the thread again, CandyStripper. Perhaps you missed the update part, I wonder if you are to busy with all your other screen names, trying to keep up on all the posts you write. quote: ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie Update Last night, the afore mentioned gangbang took place. I was a little nervous at first, but my Sir picked good men. They were all very respectful and followed all the rules that my Sir had in place. I felt lovely to be the object of desire to a roomful of men. The biggest compliment was when one of the men told my Sir - she is very obedient. You can train my girls any time. :) My Sir had everything ready...he had thought of everything. He made me feel cared for and intimate with him by holding my hand and whispering in my ear at times throughout. He was checking to see if I was ok, but also he was telling me how proud he was of me and how beautiful and sexy I was and that he loved me. For us, this was an exercise in trust. It was a way of bringing us closer together. Afterwards, he held me and kissed me and showered me. Then he took me out to a very nice restaurant for dinner. He continues to let me know how proud he is to have me... To him, there is no conflict between having me be the center of a gangbang and enjoying a gourmet meal and conversation with me. He wants a girl who he can do anything and everything with. And lucky for both of us, he found me a couple of years ago, so he's got that girl. :)

cillydom -> RE: gangbangs (7/6/2008 2:16:35 PM)
just be a true subbie and let him keep all the money

sabis -> RE: gangbangs (7/6/2008 3:16:03 PM)
Hisdarlinsweetie: Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I enjoyed reading your initial post and subsequent messages, seeing your evolution of thought about the experience. I also really enjoyed hearing the 'post game summary' and how well it went for you. A gangbang is something my Owner and I have discussed many times, and seeing the experience through your eyes helped to comfort some of my own fears and concerns. Again, thank you. In His service, ~sabis owned by Cumulus

hisdarlinsweetie -> RE: gangbangs (7/6/2008 8:16:03 PM)
sabis, You are welcome. I know some on these boards are very against gangbangs, and the whole concept of moving it from fantasy to reality was a little scary for me, in part because of the negativity surrounding the topic. If you ever want to talk about your concerns, etc., send me a note on the other side.

TheEvilBstardsMo -> RE: gangbangs (7/20/2008 12:01:57 PM)
This is an interesting thread. Hisdarlinsweetie, you were on my mind - wondering how things turned out, and I thought to recheck the thread to see if you had updated. It is great that everything went along well and that you enjoyed. Thanks for posting and sharing.

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