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Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 5:28:37 PM   
Faramir


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Status: offline 		Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?
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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 5:59:30 PM   
DesertRat


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Status: offline 		I am not in a relationship now, but when I was, I did the mail access exactly as you describe. Did it for the same reason, too--unity and intimacy. My impression is that it's fairly common for Master to have full access and for slave to be restricted. I didn't find that necessary or desirable. I am glad you asked this, Faramir. It's something I have wondered about from time to time.

Bob

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 6:00:55 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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Status: offline 		My partner and I do not, and I would not with a submissive partner of my own. I don't feel that I should be reading anyone else's mail. It isn't my business to read my dominant partner's mail, nor is it my responsibility to make my mail available to a submissive partner. My dominant has never requested to view my email. I was outed by my mother reading my private mail and private files, and so it makes me uncomfortable to consider it. On top of that, my dominant has insisted that I keep my mail and my journal private, unless I ask him to read it or comment on it. He prefers that I have that kind of privacy, to say whatever I wish to say without incrimination, though sometimes He does interfere with that, though only after he's requested it. He really wants me to have a place that is just for me, since we share a lot of ourselves the rest of the time.

< Message edited by KittenWithaTwist -- 11/4/2005 6:05:40 PM >

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 6:04:43 PM   
Faramir


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Status: offline 		KWT, do you identify as a submissive or slave?

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 6:07:10 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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Status: offline 		I don't. I'm a switch, in that with some I am dominant and with others I am subservient. I have both submissive tendencies and slave tendencies. I am on the road to becoming an "ideal" slave-type. But it's difficult for me to define what I am...now.

*chuckles* Okay, that was a weird answer. I identify as me. How's that?

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 6:16:11 PM   
Rayne58


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From: Sydney Australia
Status: offline 		I'm a submissive, and I know Master's passwords to all His email accounts. A matter of necessity, because He was in hospital for 10 days last year and I had to check all His accounts. He has access to one of mine (I have 4) and I have offered to give Him the passwords to the others but He has said it is not necessary.

The computer is in our living area so if one of us wanted to see what the other was typing it wouldn't be a problem. We have no secrets from each other anyway, we both post to one message board and can check on the other's posts at any time. He knows I post here but hasn't asked to see what I post, same with other sites I go to.

I don't go in to His email when He is home, but He does ask me to check it from time to time when He is feeling unwell.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 6:59:28 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


I don't have access to his email account, I don't think he would view it as being any of my business.

HE doesn't have the passwords to my email, but since I have a tendency to stay logged on all the time he could easily read my emails if he wanted to. I know if he's bored sometimes he'll read email lists under my account and stuff.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 7:00:23 PM   
Delvin


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From: Texas
Status: offline 		Absolutely, we each can read the emails and IMs if needed or wanted. I have no worries or fears what the girl reads and for us, it builds an already trustful relationship. I don't consider it privacy as a slave has none and the one exception to this rule is her personal journal (hand written off line only). That is her own book to reflect on through the years and is never looked at by anyone except her.(She has an online journal for all to see).

It simply is another part of life that is normal for us.

D

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 7:07:40 PM   
LadiesBladewing


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Status: offline 		When we are in one household full-time, we share access to computers and email. However, even among my mate and myself, we don't read one anothers' email. We don't really find it necessary, as we are honest with one another, and we trust one another, and if there was anything going into my emails that I thought might interest SilverRose, I'd tell her all about it (and do), just as she would (and does) with me. We are expecting that our servant will want to have the same transparency with us, and at the same time, we trust that she will be honest and responsible in her emailing, and will assist her by tracking her email if we think that it will be beneficial to her, but feel no obligation to do so if she is not running into problems in that area. In the same way, I would have -no- issues about her seeing what I write, and, in fact, encourage her to read what I've written to others, in particular where it might help assuage her curiosity about how my mind works in a variety of situations.

Lady Zephyr

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 7:17:19 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Delvin

Absolutely, we each can read the emails and IMs if needed or wanted. I have no worries or fears what the girl reads and for us, it builds an already trustful relationship. I don't consider it privacy as a slave has none and the one exception to this rule is her personal journal (hand written off line only). That is her own book to reflect on through the years and is never looked at by anyone except her.(She has an online journal for all to see).

It simply is another part of life that is normal for us.

D



Well, I slightly disagree. A slave can have anything his/her owner permits her/him to have, after all. So, if the owner desires his/her slave to have privacy, then the slave will. Ya know?

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 7:57:40 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		If I have physical access to a computer then I have access to it all **lol**

more for convenience than unity we know each others passwords for email and other accounts

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 9:10:28 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir.
How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?

None of my relationships have ever wanted or needed that. We all get way too much email to sort through on our own already, what's the point of others? I suppose if I shared bank accounts with one of them it might make sense to share that sort of info, but otherwise, it's hard enough managing on our own system.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/4/2005 11:23:28 PM   
Kasia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kisshou

If I have physical access to a computer then I have access to it all **lol**

more for convenience than unity we know each others passwords for email and other accounts

Same goes for me/us.
Untill I bought him a laptop we shared the same PC and the same outlook. Many times my man is on the road and asks me to check his mail for he might be expecting something important.
We share some yahoo im accounts too, and he finds it amusing to log into some other of my accounts and "have fun" with "virtual horny idiots" as he says.
Besides that we know each other passwords etc. He is too lazy to create accounts on some sites sometimes so he leaves it to me - I do it and provide him a nickname and a password to login further.

But we never "check out" on each other, there is no need for that for we always discuss anything that goes on, from meeting new persons to relationships with already known ones.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 4:57:55 AM   
wipmebeetme100


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quote:

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?


I have yet to find it necessary to have anothers e-mail passwords for access. No one has my passwords. If i receive something that i would like Master to look at, i will forward it to him....and vice versa. We each have a page in Word listing all of our passwords for everything that we use on the computer. It's available to the other should a situation arise that makes it necessary for either of us to access the others account.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 6:28:30 AM   
Fndrywmn


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Status: offline 		We both have accesses to the other's accounts. One feature I'd like to see on Collarme though is a "keep as new". It is a bit of a pain to log on to see if I have messages and then have to go and figure out what's new and what I have read from the list in the event he reads the mail before I do.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 6:35:17 AM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Hiya. Master has access to everything. He has the Windows password to my computer, all my email accounts, chat accounts, and anything on the web that i am involved in. Though i have noticed that he rarely goes in, though sometimes for various reasons.

And yes i did ask for his passwords and i was told that there is a LINE, and i am not allowed to step over that line And he has everything passworded, the brat. Cant get onto his computer with out a password, cant get into the porno he locked up with out a password. He's got all the keys too. LOL

But saying that ~ he does bring me over to show me this and that in his email's and stuff. i am not locked out of his stuff, just prevented from freely doing so.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 6:41:17 AM   
smilezz


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Joined: 6/18/2004
Status: offline 		Thorns has access to everything that a girl has. He can read mail, accounts, whatever He needs to do........because that is the way it is in His house and with His property.
I will say..........He has never needed/wanted to do that, but all is at His disposal.

The Man has also told me that i can read His mail anytime i want to. I have no want/need/desire to do that. He has read some of His e-mails to me..or has said: pet, read this. I do not want to know His passwords to this stuff.

I am learning that i will need to have access to accounts and such when He is away, but that is for bill purpose...no reason for e-mail.

Happy Saturday y'all!

~smilezz~



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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 7:07:08 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


Yes each of us knows the other's email and passwords. We take is as far as only having one profile. It's reduced, but not eliminated, the mail that beth would have to weed through if she had her own profile, but that wasn't the reason we did it. Our relationship is such that there is no need for separation. There is no jealousy, no secrets, and no need for either of us to have "private" space.

Do we read each others email? Well, we read together all the mail we receive from this site and are proud to have a 100% response rate. We always let the people know any experience they have will be with the both of us, and unfortunately for many guys, beth is not and can NOT take on the role of Domme. When contact gets to the point of direct contact we give the direct email for whichever one of us the person wants to contact. beth chats with a number of people directly, as I do. If something comes up where either of us wants the others input it's shared.

There is no need for secret. Nothing anyone could possibly say in an email or post could effect our relationship. We are each confident in ourselves and more importantly, each other.


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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 7:10:10 AM   
ChereeAmoor


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Joined: 8/1/2005
Status: offline 		We have separate accounts, and although we know each other's passwords, we very seldom log into our partner's accounts. Too busy with other things, mostly.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 7:27:42 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


No.

I have an email account for my academic stuff and one for "kinky" stuff.

Fox has multiple accounts he came with. He has unique fetishes and friendships which I have no interest in sharing or getting involved with. In fact attempts to get me to "know' someone fail because I believe it is very very very important for him to have outside interests and friends.

Tom has his own accounts -- again he has unique interests I'm frankly not interested in sharing or even really knowing much about.

I wouldn't do it on purpose but I do tend to become the center of attention when I get to know my slave or husband's friends -- I just stay out of those unique interests and friendships of theirs.

I think it would just be very confusing to share an account. Plus I'm busy enough in my life without having to decide is that an email really for me or him.

If any of us wish to share something we use forward.

I can understand intellectually why someone would want this area of control or authority or intimacy.

I really, really don't want it myself.


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