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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 9:05:16 AM   
BeingChewsie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


We share one account. One of his company accounts. I'm an employee and I sit on the board so for some reason he allowed me access to the e-mail account. His personal accounts and other business related accounts I do not have access too. He has never wanted access to mine either.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 10:08:05 AM   
SirSix72


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Status: offline 		Greeting Farmir,

I have bellas and she has mine. This promotes unity in between us and shows that neither has nothing to hide. We live together and have seperate email addresses which is fun.

Master Six

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 12:35:21 PM   
darkinshadows


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We have shared access to all accounts as Demon allows it. He sees everything written and received as He desires whenever He decides.

Peace and Love

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 1:17:10 PM   
anopheles


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Status: offline 		Greetings all:


We don't have "access" to each other's accounts per se, but I believe now fully in the unity factor of just being able to ask if you want to see something. Luvdragon has never had a reason to not let me see an email, and i'm happy to let her read anything in my mail box.

In general we don't though, most of my email is work related, and if it bores the crap out of me, then it will sure as hell bore the crap out of her.
I've seen her inbox before, and frankly, I don't have much interest in sifting through it. Occassionally though, i'll ask her if I can read something that someone sent her, and she slides her big old laptop over and lets me read.

I would never personally make strict email and IM access a requirement of a power exchange relationship that I was in.



--Anopheles

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 6:16:50 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		This would depend if we were living 24/7 at the same address. If not, I see little point. If so, I would have complete access to her emails and journal. She like my Lady (Wife/FC) would have access to my general email account but not to my confidential ones. This isn'y to do with sharing but for the practicalities of either being able to deals with certain emails I get which deals with the family unit.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/5/2005 7:14:33 PM   
Faramir


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Status: offline 		I appreciate all these serious, thoughtful responses.

I've decided to scrap our profiles, and make a new profile as a couple - it seems the easiest way to get what we are seeking. In the future we will be posting under "ErosPsyche" (that is to say I will be posting, as she is a lurker).

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/6/2005 12:48:44 AM   
Phoenxx


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From: Swift Current
Status: offline 		We are a Master/submissive couple. I do have fawn's password, but she does not have mine. I do send her copies of things I think would interest her as well as boring her by reading some to her out loud LOL.
I have my own computer. Part of that is for confidentialities sake. I have emails relating to business coming to several of my accounts. Plus I’m a computer geek.
fawn gave me access to her account, without my asking.
Tony

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/6/2005 7:23:59 AM   
hawk58


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Joined: 9/23/2005
Status: offline 		We each have the knowledge of one anothers accounts and passwords. I know and acept that He can, at any time have access to my emails, and read them. Does He? No. He barely has time to read His own. If i have received an email, which requres Him to make a decsion (an invite or something) I simply print it, and read it to Him at a cnvienient time.

As to His email accts. With His busy work schedaull, He does read Hsi emails- but often times, will dictate His responces, and hs me type them up for Him. In many regards I act as His personal secretary- caring for His correspondances, and making sure the bills get paid, that He wants to get paid..

More a matter of service and convienience.

-dove

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 11:35:13 AM   
Soulhuntre


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir
How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


Email is liek everything else between us - asymetrical. She has no privacy from men, I and I do have privacy from her. This is not a matter of technology (though our security here is good, even fromt he inside) but one of authority and protocol. I have no doubt Kimiko >could< read my email, and in certain circumstances I have had her do just that - using her as an extension of my own eyes and hands while I am on the phone. However she would not without specific permission.

Frankly, she has no inherant right of "full access" to my life.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 12:17:36 PM   
Belladonna82


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Status: offline 		Greetings Master Faramir

Master has had access to all the email/boards etc that i've used since before we were a "couple". As a slave i feel all of what i use is Master's...even this account...Master just lets me use it :)

Blessed be,
bella

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 3:04:33 PM   
auntielorna


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Status: offline 		I think I would have a major problem with letting my Master have access to my e-mail account. Not because I have something to hide from him, but because people I recieve e-mails from may have. My friends are my friends, and they have a right to keep their privacy from him. Even dough I want to be my Master's slave, or my boyfriend's girlfriend (or whatever), doesn't mean that my friends (or others) want to share everything or anything with him. I just think it's disrespectful to out my friends (and others) personal e-mails to my Dom.

lorna

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 3:11:22 PM   
DemonAngel


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Status: offline 		Well,angel tells people she corresponds with that I will have access to everything and anything.That doesn't mean I look.But what it does mean is that if she gets mail and is upset,I can look at it and know why.Your friends don't like your master knowing?Then they won't write.If they dont want me to read and angel lets me know,I trust her and alls good.It hasn't happened yet,because there hasnt been the need.You trust angel,you trust me.Thats all it is.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 3:33:11 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?


I have Doug's and he has mine. From time to time we have had to sign on here or there for one another. Life happen's. He would never breach the trust and post anything under my name and vice versa though.
You have to have respect and trust to make a relationship last. If you breach it, you've already started the breaking up process in my mind.
There is absolutely no way in the world we could share one because that would be trying to put something over on everyone we spoke to. We have different interests and different idea's. It would be dishonest to act as if we did not.
Of course neither of us is that insecure either that the other should not have full access to their account.

Anyway, just a few thoughts in my head that we have shared together as a couple.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 4:40:19 PM   
IronBear


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From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		lets assume I have a girl who is in my personal collar (meaning that she has reached the level of trust for this to occure). like Neets, she will have access to my general email accounts. Neets also has access to my Wellness Business email account. However the email accounts pertaining to my Counselling Practice, My Pagan Church remain private duwe to confidentiality. The email account I use for maintaining contact with various security organizations and such sites about the globe is one account which no one ever accesses just as the phone numbers used in this area is under the same classified restrictions.

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Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 4:49:47 PM   
ownedjulia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?



We both have three email accounts.

we have 1 for kink, 1 for personal and 1 for work.

he has access to my kink and personal email but no access to work email due to confidentality clauses in my work contract and it works the same way for my access to his email.

He doesn't have to give me access to his emails but he chooses to because he says he shows that he is open to me seeing into parts of his life.

I don't have his passwords though - He has a mail server setup that i have permissions into.



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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 4:56:30 PM   
stormsfate


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Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline 		Yes, we have access to each other's accounts. I can't remember the last time I logged into his, though. Oh...yes I do. He asked me to check it last time he went to NYC because someone was interested in the extra Cream tickets he had and he needed their phone number...lol.

I don't see it as a big deal either way, and feel its a matter of personal preference as to whether or not a slave would have access to their owner's accounts. I take it as a given that the owner will have access to anything he chooses to have access to <shrug>.

best regards,
fate

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/8/2005 6:02:28 PM   
Littlepita


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Joined: 10/6/2005
Status: offline 		Right now we share many of our mails and IM's with each other. When we are living together I plan to give him my passwords to everything. We even plan to have our computers next to each other. I want to share everything with my Sir.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/15/2005 9:57:56 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Master and i have access to each others accounts. Its not a trust issue, more an "we are open with each other" thing. i think this is important in any full time relationship.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/16/2005 11:42:40 AM   
daddysprop247


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Joined: 6/24/2005
From: DC Metro area
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

Just curious how other folks who identify as Master/slave couples share email access?

I have my slave's account acccess, I read her emails, etc. I gave her my account access as well - not as a matter of reciprocity, but rather as a matter of unity. Our goal is intimacy and unity within M/s, so I figure it helps to have her read what I write. She doesn't do it often, but when she does, she gets to hear my thoughts to others in correspondence.

How many of you M/s cuples have each other's acoount access? Neither? Just one? Why?



Daddy has all of the passwords to any email or anything else i may be a part of online..actually he has created most of the accounts himself. He usually reads any email or correspondence i get before i do, and sometimes he will reply...sometimes as himself, sometimes as me...and never tell me two words about it. as his property i am not entitled to privacy, and i certainly am not entitled to freedom to communicate with others online unsupervised and unchecked. He monitors everything i do online, including what sites i visit, as i am only permitted to visit a very few. and i have to warn folks sometimes that there is no such thing as telling me something in private...whatever they send me will be seen and then filtered by my Master first.

as far as his emails and such, i have no idea what his passwords are or even exactly what all of his online i.d.'s are. His communications with others are none of my business.

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RE: Master/slave Email Access - 11/20/2005 10:03:14 PM   
HouseofBear


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Status: offline 		We have access to each others accounts, however that is rarely used. We are an unusual couple in that we are Master/slave, however she is also a Mistress as well. If she is mentoringor helping another sub/slave in her submissive role, then any information given to her by another sub/slave is considered confidential, as that information belongs to them, not her per se. It does seem appropriate that if a sub/slave is required to forward all emails, or allow her Dominant access to her email and that access is used, then that information should be shared upfront with any subs/slaves whom she talks to, as it is not fair to involve them unconsensually.

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