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ORIGINAL: IronBear

If your timeing is right and you have established a good rapore with the folks you are with, many will enjoy discussing fantacies and sex games. It is only a small step to introduce the lifestyle into the conversation ion a general way. Supprising how many people show interest in finding out more. It's fun watching how many get hot under the collar and probably wet in the knickers when you casually mention placing a female over your knee to spank her.

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It's one thing talking to like-minded individuals (e.g. on CollarMe), but how do you raise the subject of a liking for bondage on a "normal" date? If it's something that's important to you, you owe it to yourself and them to raise it early but how do you do this without sending her/him running off screaming "axe murderer, pervert etc., etc"?

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Probably yet i find accents ammusing. If I've had one or three sherbets, I'm told that mu accent changes to one typical of a Sloan Ranger (terribly Brit upper class), yet when I spend time with any of my mates from the US and especially the Rebs (Most of whome still have the Stars and Bars tattoed on their souls), I find the deep Southern Drawl creaping into my speach. When I'm with some eastern European friends I can hear the more gutteral edge creaping into my voice and the "V" and "W" transposing certainly I've never had the Paul Hogan Aussie "Strine" accent but mine tends to make folks believe I wasn't born in Australia.

IronBear

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ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie

My owner and I met on completely vanilla terms. I had a sense of who he was from the get go. Though the leap from being someone I acknowledged as more powerful than myself to owned by him looked like quite the jump. So in conversation I brought up that it was difficult to find my type of man. He asked what my type was? I told him one drawn to leadership, independence, power, control..your average control freak :) A _real_ take charge kind of guy. He didn't say yes or no, he just said ok or something like that. Then he said to me" if you like to fight you are the woman of my dreams". That led into more in depth discussions about wants, needs, sex etc. His responses were very measured. We both revealed the depth of things to one another over time. Eventually both coming out as heavy into S/M and both seeking an O/p relationship incorporating all the things we believe in.

I have felt like I hit the lottery since then.

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Power is a funny thing isn't it? I dont know about the guys, but over the last 35 years or so, I've been amused watching the affect that a powerful male has when he enters a room, on a number of women. You can watch the blushes, the subtle squirming, especially if he catches their eye. It is a game I've played for years and I'd have to say thatr in my opinion Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Just my thoughts nothing more or less.

IronBear

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ORIGINAL: candystripper


Not power derived from a position...like elected office....but personal power; innate leadership qualities...self-confidence and self-control...o yeah. And if He shows me He finds me desirable, i turn into a puddle.

candystripper

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ORIGINAL: Jacques1000


oooh maaate, ya kin run but ya carn't hiide. I can smell an Australian accent in a room, fair dinkum. :-P