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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 6:35:22 PM   
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"nods" i hear ya....i worked in a deli once...


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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 6:39:41 PM   
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ok now that was just hot.......


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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 6:46:51 PM   
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There's this part of me that simply lusts, lusts for lust's sake.

It doesn't care about feelings or emotions, needs or desires.

There are no identities, no personalities, no "I've gotta be me's".

Simple satisfaction, unbridled, undeterred, uninterrupted devouring.

Eyes wide shut, breathless moans, dripping emmissions of ecstasy.

"Who are you?" I utter, amid shivers and slivers of spasmodic sensations.

"Don't ask" it replies.

Unimprovised immersion.

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 7:01:01 PM   
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Someone I adore brought this up as a topic for me, and I thought it would be brilliant if I could figure out what it was. The rest of the conversation didn't clear it up for me



Do you mean, like wearing a suit all day, working 9-5 and then coming home to your wife and breaking out the whips, leather and dildos?   Nope, not me, not until after college....then i'll be a Police Officer doing that  :)   Hey, at least I'll get to handcuff people all day.

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 7:08:19 PM   
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wow rabbit, was there not another way then to say we are sick?


How many ways can you say it?

Anyway, you have the choice between picking your battles carefully, and becoming a new Noam Chomsky.

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/26/2008 7:12:22 PM   
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Working in a butcher shop isn't exactly an open-minded and intelligent enviroment


Don't take work home with you, Rabbit.

There are some out there who, like you, work there for this reason or that. Most of the mechanics I know, or have met, are neither open-minded, nor overly intelligent. But one of the most intelligent and open-minded people I know happens to be a mechanic. Carrying the stereotypes around affects us and our environment, and eventually causes people to complain about watersports or butchers, while reality may differ from what they think they know.

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 6:01:38 AM   
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yes...not everyone understands that i get off on being cut or branded so i tell them it is just for the scarification purposes...nor does everyone understand why a 25 year old woman wants to crawl around on the ground and act like a cat who can not speak that wants to rub up against your legs...put yourself in the shoes of the most closed minded person you can think of and then think about that...i put my identity as a (from what i've heard) extreme masochist and a kitty away when i am not in a scene or around other people who understand...i also don't do little play around people who don't understand...

and not because i am ashamed of myself but because i respect their boundaries...they have not consented to my kink...oh yea, and it's not my job to educate them until they ask me...

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 8:00:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well I tend to be very compartmentalized in how my brain works and processes things, in how I express things.  But I wouldn't say I have a compartmentalized identity. 

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 8:04:40 AM   
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Well if you are asking do i suddenly start wanking at work the answer would be no, but my guess is you arent asking that, i  just think its yet another psudo intelligent term to complicate life rather than live it

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 10:04:33 AM   
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This being said I can see what a compartmentalized erotic life is ..   because of a contradictory erotic identity ?  Psychological androgyny, someone ?
 




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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 2:01:21 PM   
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Compartimentalized


Not really seperate parts but at times there is a proclivity towards certain erotic aspects .... sometimes that will manifest itself with the kinkier and exploratory facet while at other times I just want to curl up and make love. It's all a part of me, all of part of my make up but they are two different facets depending on mood, triggers, emotions.


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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 2:12:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fungasm

Do you have one?

Do you even know what it is?

Someone I adore brought this up as a topic for me, and I thought it would be brilliant if I could figure out what it was.  The rest of the conversation didn't clear it up for me what it really is, but it brought out some cool vocab words like fantasies and ritual space.

Anyone ever use this term before?

Thanks!




I think stuff like being kinky or sexual is compartimentalized away from normal everyday life...you know, because of the consequences of wearing lingerie to the office, or unleashing your snake whip at the park.  I think that's very common in this community, unless you do it for a living, keeping it all private, seperate from public life and "hiding it away".

As far as people likening compartimentalization with mental illness, I think the mentally-ill aspect of compartimentalization is when you have multiple personalities (that have different names) and may or may not be aware of one another (usually happens to people who have gone through completely inhuman traumatic treatment/abuse during early childhood), or if you have emotional issues/events or dilemnas and suppress those away and don't deal with it and then it comes out in emotional spurts of anger (like that other thread with the crazy lady you worked with).  That's when you need professional help in the form of counselling or institutionalization if it's unfixable.


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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/27/2008 2:56:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have compartmentalised a lot of my life.  I find it interesting that other people dont.

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/28/2008 3:19:29 AM   
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Remember the sitcom with Sienfield with George in a similiar situation, crying about his world's were colliding.  He didn't want his GF knowing his family and friends that well.......or something along those lines......how he had different developed personae's with each of them.....

Most of the time people think they are acting rationally but in reality most people aren't.  ;0  Everyone is crazy but just makes a good showing of keeping it together.  If this wasn't the case, then why isn't their a class that teaches normal psychology?  Most people are taught what is normal all their lives, and they have to either abide by it or suffer the consequences.  Its almost like follow these unwritten rules/customs (which shows a lack of real freedom because your forced to follow them), or be locked up/killed.

So yea, you think I'm normal.  I'm just pretending.  ;0  just like you......you know the rules, follow them and act "normal" or suffer the consequences.....

Of course normal differs depending on what "culture" your dealing with.....most intelligent people at one point in time struggle living in the cultural norm.  For Americans, who love their freedom, they are shackled in conformity......living in the cultural norm is just one form the shackles takes.  They say that extreme intelligence/genius often comes with a cost.......knowing your just pretending to be sane....  ;0

so yea, your talking about playing in fantasies you never want to do, sure, that isn't hard to understand......you suspend disbelief, get off on the fantasy of it, ignore the fact it is pretty gross from a "cultural norm" POV, and eventually you compartmentalize this entire thought process and dump it, etc....

Piercing and what not is erotic because it shows a willingness for pain and what not, and its kind of permanent....(scarring/permanent piercing).....

I advice people against it if asked my opinion, even if it is a turn on, and I would never want any of my submissives to do something so destructive.....

Its a turn on in a negative way, just like porn stars are.  I would never want someone I cared about to be flaunting around showing their "goods".

Then again, I would never date a porn star or a stripper. 

So yea, easy to understand.....I might seem to be thinking one thing, but that isn't the reality on how I really feel.  If you asked me if piercing was hot, I'd be like yea, people are stupid, so yea, its erotic but dumb.  Having women put a huge hoop in the nose and be lead around with it is kind of erotic too........wonder if I can get that to be a new fad.....obviously I'm against piercing and wish the younger generation found a more positive way to rebel....

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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/28/2008 2:22:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: figment
I have compartmentalised a lot of my life.  I find it interesting that other people dont.


I find this interesting too. Maybe I've misinterpreted the meaning behind the phrase 'compartmentalized erotic identity' but I have definitely compartmentalized my kinky identity from my vanilla identity. Perhaps this is mainly because I'm a TV, and I've deliberately created another persona to embody that part of myself. The vanilla me can be sweet and innocent, while 'she' can be a kinky little slut!

This compartmentalization is an integral part of me now and I would find it hard to cope without both parts: they're polar opposites of each other, so they balance me out. One of the amusing side effects is that I'm seen by friends as being so innocent that when I casually mention that I'm a kinky transvestite nobody ever believes me...



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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/28/2008 2:25:56 PM   
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Sure.

There's this part of me that simply lusts, lusts for lust's sake.

It doesn't care about feelings or emotions, needs or desires.

There are no identities, no personalities, no "I've gotta be me's".

Simple satisfaction, unbridled, undeterred, uninterrupted devouring.

Eyes wide shut, breathless moans, dripping emmissions of ecstasy.

"Who are you?" I utter, amid shivers and slivers of spasmodic sensations.

"Don't ask" it replies.

Unimprovised immersion.

chia* (the pet)


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OP:  no idea, sorry.  Compartmentalized makes me think of the impregnable fortress that I also label, "sphincter".  Which is, by the by, incongruent with "erotic".

MY ASS IS NOT PRETTY!

Bad image pop to mind?  There's the fantasy part.

*slides off*



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RE: A Compartimentalized Erotic Identity? - 6/28/2008 2:56:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm with Wendy on this one...it's not so much that my identity per se, is compartmentalized into dozens of categories, but my kinky and vanilla-relating-in-the-world-on-daily-basis identities are two separate parts of my persona.  I just can't comfortably share certain elements of my kinky activities with the people in my white collar world and I'd probably get kicked out of my department at school if those things ever were revealed. 

Do I prefer to keep parts of myself separate? No.  As much as I am safely able, I try to blend both of my worlds at times, but it is a careful, deliberate thing. 

And I like the way Wendy said it too, about deliberately creating another persona to embody that (kinky) part of herself. 

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ORIGINAL: wendytv42


I find this interesting too. Maybe I've misinterpreted the meaning behind the phrase 'compartmentalized erotic identity' but I have definitely compartmentalized my kinky identity from my vanilla identity. Perhaps this is mainly because I'm a TV, and I've deliberately created another persona to embody that part of myself. The vanilla me can be sweet and innocent, while 'she' can be a kinky little slut!

This compartmentalization is an integral part of me now and I would find it hard to cope without both parts: they're polar opposites of each other, so they balance me out. One of the amusing side effects is that I'm seen by friends as being so innocent that when I casually mention that I'm a kinky transvestite nobody ever believes me...





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