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tonypad -> What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/6/2005 9:22:36 PM)
I am still trying to find that perfect sub for me - one that really really enjoys getting spanking and/or paddled very hard. I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". Can someone elaborate on this? It may help me find my sub!

greenie -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/6/2005 9:37:28 PM)
not all subs are masochists and not all masochists are subs.

girl4you2 -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/6/2005 9:47:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tonypad I am still trying to find that perfect sub for me - one that really really enjoys getting spanking and/or paddled very hard. I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". Can someone elaborate on this? It may help me find my sub! the colllarme website has just added a huge interest list section, on subjects from spirituality, sports, the arts, music, 3 pages on bdsm activities, and lots more. i'm sure once more people see that and start checking all of the boxes (if they've an hour or two to do so), then you may easily see that in their profiles. until then, perhaps you might figure out what other qualities you wish in a submissive and go from there. i don't know if the site has this capacity (if not, i'd suspect it might be coming) to search profiles based upon things you seek, such as submissives who enjoy spanking in your case.

JohnWarren -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 4:30:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tonypad I am still trying to find that perfect sub for me - one that really really enjoys getting spanking and/or paddled very hard. I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". Can someone elaborate on this? It may help me find my sub! I think they are more likely to say "I like a hard spanking." Sometimes it's problematic to try to read too much into a statement. I could see a nonmasochist saying "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" and where would that leave you? Have you tried local groups and munches? One of my skills is that I'm able to do intense pain play without unacceptable damage. Because of this reputation, I'm contacted by the pain players without having to seek them out.

KatyLied -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 4:39:54 AM)
Tony, too bad you aren't near my geography, there is a spanking group in my area. Like others have said, check around, you may be able to find a specialized group like that near you.

hottsally -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 12:09:02 PM)
I need a spanking because it turns me on sexually. I also like the humiliation of bending over in the position and lowering my panties--especially in front of other people.. The pain of the strap--which I preferr--is a wonderful sensation --I need it untill I am crying and kicking

ownedjulia -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 1:01:09 PM)
i sometimes enjoy a spanking. For example, if Master is displeased with me then i enjoy the spanking because i know things are 'right' between us - if they are wrong he ignores me and i HATE that. I also like a spanking when Master has had a bad day and wishes to hurt me - i'm glad to be there for him to be able to be used like that. I don't LIKE getting spanked as such - it hurts!!! but I like to be on the receving end because I feel useful to him like that!!

FTopinMichigan -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 1:30:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tonypad I am still trying to find that perfect sub for me - one that really really enjoys getting spanking and/or paddled very hard. I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". Can someone elaborate on this? It may help me find my sub! I like when a man tells me he "needs" a spanking. If he wants a mother, or guidance, he's gotta look somewhere else, cause I'm not the "Mommy" type at all. Perhaps you should seek out the self identified "brat" bottoms that have the need for a daddy/daughter type relationship, if "guidance" is what you have to offer, in the form of hard spankings. Many of the bottom ladies, that I've met through spanking groups, are more into old fashioned, strict traditional corporal relationships, than those sub ladies that I've met through BDSM orientated groups. Most "submissives" that I know are not into spankings for "guidance" as much as for pleasure, or to accept it as an alterantive form of punishment. A bottom/brat may be the one to peak your interest better, or those into corporal scenarios alone. One of the reasons I don't enjoy many submissive men is that they are not much into pleasurable pain, as much as into the D/s aspect of being who they are..a sub. I personally enjoy men that "bottom" when it comes to spanking fun. K

windchymes -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 1:56:28 PM)
I just come right out and say I like sensual spanking or erotic spanking. I don't think of myself as needing a daddy or guidance. chymes

wipmebeetme100 -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 2:06:57 PM)
quote: I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". I am a masochist. I have never seen any reason to "beat" around the bush. I love a hard spanking. cathy

michaelMI -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/7/2005 11:42:30 PM)
i think i just need spanked for being a brat, but that's just me. although........ i've never really had one in real life, well, not since i was a kid anyway. maybe someday, huh?[:D]

brightspot -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/8/2005 12:23:32 AM)
quote: I am still trying to find that perfect sub for me - one that really really enjoys getting spanking and/or paddled very hard. I think that a female sub might be more likely to say something like "I need a daddy" or "I need strict guidance" rather than bluntly say "I need a spanking". I don't think you will ever find the "perfect" anything....But if you educate yourself and become self confident, sincere and present a promising Dominant personality and express some of your desires, to the right submissive person, you will most likely find someone looking for what you have to give and will love fulfilling your spanking needs....maybe a question would be....Are you ready to put forth the full effort into finding what you want? Brightspot Brightspot

sweetpettjenny -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/8/2005 3:41:40 AM)
just make sure you tell people you are into spanking scenes and not the whole M/s thing

fyreredsub -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/8/2005 3:59:39 AM)
oh i dunno what to say except keep searchin'.... i can only handle soft playful spanks..anything more to me is punishment...but i'm sure there are those sam's to do enjoy. i think its something you have to decide if its a must or not...........deerskins floggers are a turn on but paddlin ,no way.lol there is just so much to experience why just spank? or you could train you subbie to perhaps like it more?

cravinspankin -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/8/2005 10:52:33 PM)
I'm still seeking the right Dom for me. But as i get to know Doms and learn more every day, one of the things that i have come to ask is... How do You feel about your sub approaching you and respectfully requesting a spanking/beating? I sometimes truly crave a spanking/flogging/whipping, etc. It's a need. but i'm not the kind of sub who will be bratty or disobedient or push my Dom's buttons in order to get that. So when You say You don't think a sub would say she needs a spanking, i think You may be off base. I can't imagine there aren't others out there like me. Perhaps you should ask subs in the getting-to-know-them phase if they enjoy hard spankings and if so, let them know that you would want them to seek it out when they need it. Just my humble two-cents worth.

Hallittlelolita -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/9/2005 5:43:56 PM)
i love it when my Master spanks me[;)] it is so much fun[:)] Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

mnottertail -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/9/2005 6:22:24 PM)
Hate to rain on the parade here......... but what you ask and the way you ask is more an inter-racial question to me if there is such a thing anymore. If you spank......... consider that you are drawing blood to the area, mechanically. consider that you are two branches away from the brain in nerve paths. consider that this mechanical effect has chemical implications in the body. Do you ask the TV what resistors are activating when you turn to channel 13? no, you know you do this in this fashion, you get channel 13. Every TV is different to some degree, but the same. If you own cats, start pounding them on the ass.......... That's what happens.........we are animals at the core. Perfume and farts beside. 'If a man is to be hanged in a fortnight, it concentrates his mind wonderfully.......' Johnson, I think. Those that get it, get it, those that don't don't...... Ron

submissivesilk -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/9/2005 11:16:05 PM)
Wellll, i have to tell You, Ron, i didn't get that two cat thing at all. i do think i need a spanking right now though.

chgodomcouple -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/10/2005 3:42:40 PM)
well, i like spanking but no paddle... i dont really like hardcore pain.. i like to inflict pain haha... however, i like when daddy spanks me... he knows my limits of pain... A.S.

SassyJackiePBG -> RE: What kind of sub wants a Spanking/Paddling? (11/10/2005 4:10:25 PM)
I need a Hardcore spanking more then I need Guidance or a Daddy...I like a spanking as hard as a Dom can give it...I think maybe you should ask upfront if we are Masochists...which means we probably appreciate and Nice Hard Spanking :) Just my input for what it's worth ...now I REALLY am in the mood for a Spanking !!!! Jackie[:)]

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