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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 6:15:06 PM   
Thadius


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I speak from experience.... sometimes "getting lucky" is pretty fucking unlucky LOL Hook up with the wrong chick, have one great drunken night, next thing you know she is burning all of her clothes on the hood of your Trans Am, sneaking into a Naval Air Station, and chasing you around a bar with a broken beer bottle... Thats the kind of thing that can give you a nickname that follows you for life


They call those female Marines... or is that a Navy wife? 

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 6:49:28 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		Obviously it would depend on how much you have communicated online or via telephone beforehand, and how much you shared with each other during that time.

If nothing comes to mind, then you can always talk about any current movies you've seen or want to see.  Or say you meet at a coffee shop inside of a book store, then you can talk about books.

If you're going to meet in person, we could assume (yea I know) that you've discovered you share something in common, other than maybe just kinks, so talk about your shared interests and go from there.

It's just like any other first date/meeting.

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 9:13:51 PM   
emmie83


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Status: offline 		i tend to ramble on, especially when on the phone with someone new or when meeting someone new.. i made the mistake once of saying "yes i am submissive but i'm human too, i fart, i burp, and i hiccup sometimes i do em all at the same time..THAT was a first phone call the guy never forgot.. BUT W/we went on and had a relationship for about 6 months and HE was the reason it ended.. abuse is not part of this lifestyle.. (the FAR too human & open mouthed) emmie

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 9:30:15 PM   
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A nice ass makes a nut case still look like a "10".

Been there,done that...

Master says that "No matter how hot she looks in a thong, somewhere there's some guy that is totally fed up with her shit."  A nice ass sure doesn't make up for a psychotic personality (whether it's on a guy or gal)..................luci

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 10:01:20 PM   
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.. i made the mistake once of saying "yes i am submissive but i'm human too, i fart, i burp, and i hiccup sometimes i do em all at the same time..

Now see, I just love comments like that! It shows a sense of humor; the acknowledgement that you're human, which I would hope means you realize I'm human too; and says you recognize reality and aren't just caught up in a fantasy. That's someone I would definitely talk to again... unless the conversation then turned to the frequency and consistency of bowel movements... that should be saved until after you've at least met a few times. ;)

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/28/2008 10:26:47 PM   
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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 4:43:57 AM   
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What should you NOT talk about?

Thanks.

If this has been posted before i am sure the geniuses of CM will give me the links so this won't be a tiresome topic.

I appreciate it!




He's a man you've just met; not some elevated sub-species of human.  The rules of pleasant convo still control.
 
I like to just let the convo flow wherever it goes; it's a meet-and-greet, not a thesis defense.  I try to avoid the topics I'd avoid with anyone, unless he gives me 'clues' that he's 'normal' on the subject: religon, poliitics, racial and sexual equality, etc.
 
I don't discuss other men I've known -- that seems highly inappropriate. 
 
I don't discuss D/s play or sex techniques -- these are inappropriate topics for any public place, and I don't know him well enough to answer intimate questions. 
 
I don't give him personal info about myself; I may say I'm a Mommy but that's all. 
 
He's a stranger -- usually  met off the 'net -- and you can't tell who's nuts just by looking.  (What a shame that is.)
 
I also spend more time listening to him than talking -- my reason for being there is to decide whether I want to see him again, not to have an audience for myself.
 
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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 5:55:58 AM   
Owner59


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Good points, candystripper.

A first date is really mostly about the 2nd date and having fun.

Hope we get a report back about it.


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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 6:49:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		God has just been telling me that I shouldn't relate any of our conversations or the things he tells me to anyone on a first date.

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 7:35:11 AM   
DomAviator


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ORIGINAL: Thadius

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator


I speak from experience.... sometimes "getting lucky" is pretty fucking unlucky LOL Hook up with the wrong chick, have one great drunken night, next thing you know she is burning all of her clothes on the hood of your Trans Am, sneaking into a Naval Air Station, and chasing you around a bar with a broken beer bottle... Thats the kind of thing that can give you a nickname that follows you for life


They call those female Marines... or is that a Navy wife? 


That was a "want to be Navy wife" aka a "Tarmac Debutante" or a "Gold Wing Groupie". Actually she was something I banged as an entry into the "Pig of the Port Contest" and she turned into a stalker... It got so bad the guys started calling her "Miss Piggy" which resulted in my callsign being changed to "Kermit DaFrogg".

As for female marines, oh fuck no, the regular ones are bad enough...  There is a funny (yet shockingly accurate) video about Marines that a bunch of Naval Aviators put togeter.. For your viewing pleasure:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V41X8rp4Cso

I love the part where the Navy pilot walks in... Thats soooooooooo true.

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 7:40:59 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		What do you talk about when you meeet a stranger on the street?  Talk about the same thing as you would anybody.

People generally get hurt when they allow their hormones to run wild...so reel them in and act like a normal person.


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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/29/2008 7:42:54 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Things not to talk about when meeting ANYONE:

ex's

surgeries, your medica alert bracelet,
details of the zit you popped yesterday,
your trip to the dentist.

sour co-workers

how crappy the food/service is at the restraunt he takes you to.

Your 15 children.




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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/30/2008 12:02:56 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Due to past relationships and being burnt by lazy people with poor boundries and poor hygein,I'd ask are you lazy, are you irresponcible with money, Are you vigilant about good hygein, do you clean house or live in squalor. Do you believe in living a healthy lifestyle, including good eating and proper exorcise. Are your family meddling interfearing people who want to run your life for you.

Do you have any addictions that would interfear in our relationship. When you prommise something do you stick to those prommises.

Do you have a good work ethic, Do you shirk your duties, or hide your head in the sand on issues that need your attention na then hope they don't blow up in your face.

Some of this stuff I'd found out before there ever was a first meeting, like the hygein issue and family issue, and the prommises.


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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/30/2008 12:39:16 PM   
pixidustpet


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After being married to my ex wife I have a prepared a little script...
  • Do you have any family history of mental illness?
  • Have you ever been adjudicated mentally defective?
  • Have you ever been committed, voluntarily or otherwise, to an impatient facility for the treatment of a mential disease or defect?
  • Are you currently, or within the preceeding five years, have you been under the care of a psychiatrist, psychologist, or social worker?
  • Do you now, or have you in the past five years, suffered from any communicable diseases?
  • Have you ever been charged with a crime punishable by imprisonent for a period of greater than one year?
  • List all offenses other than minor traffic infractions with which you have ever been charged. Include the the date, offense, court, and disposition of the charge. (Include juvenile offenses)
  • Have you ever been the subject of a restraining or protective order issued by a court of competent jurisdiction. If yes explain...
  • Have you ever had a professional license revoked, suspended or denied? If so explain...
  • Has anyone you have ever been romantically involved with committed, or attempted, suicide?
  • Do you, or should you, belong to any organizations using 12 step programs?
  • etc, etc, etc




this is cute and all that....but not always applicable.  example, i was hospitalized at UTMB galveston, but then again my ex's doctor had pulled me aside a year and a half earlier and told me outright "if you dont sever yourself from this man, you're going to end up on the psych ward or dead, and you're too nice a person for that."  so, extenuating circumsances. 

and biological depression, not much you can do when its in your family tree...even when it doesnt affect your body.  good questions but they require more than a simple yes or no answer to get the full picture.

kitten, thoughtfully

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RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first mee... - 6/30/2008 12:48:46 PM   
RCdc


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What should you NOT talk about?

Thanks.

If this has been posted before i am sure the geniuses of CM will give me the links so this won't be a tiresome topic.

I appreciate it!




Or maybe not.
If you have to ask strangers what you should and should not say to someone they will not met and most probably do not know - then don't go on the meet because you clearly aren't ready.
 
the.dark.

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