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ORIGINAL: barrieboytoy

This stems from an interesting conversation I was having earlier about rape fantasies. It seems that they are the ultimate taboo,

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ORIGINAL: SurrenderForMe

I am cross connecting your profile with your post.

How to make rape realistic and safish.  Condoms, rapists use condoms all the time to keep dna from the cops.  Female rapist using a dildo (just bought, no cross contamination).  How, whoever is fulfilling your fantasy, rents a van.   Rounds up at least four helpers.  Gets your schedule, preferable to be a weekend, preferable you live in an area that has some distance from neighbors.  Suggestion for rapists, bring binoculars, a cooler with  non alcoholic refreshment and lunch.  They wait, hoping you are not sleeping in.  You come out, they grab you, they take you to a place they picked in advance, you get your fun.  Most of these scenes that I know of (have not participated), involved the person expressing the fantasy and asking their friend or partner if they would make it happen.  Part of info expressed would be fears you want to experience during this scene, fears you do not want to experience during this scene, limits and some signal that all will memorize to know you have an issue and one that says stop no matter what.  Seems to be most successful (less emotional fall out) when the parties all know each other.  There is at least one trusted party running the play.

On the cross to the profile, in a funny mood tonight.  You are bi or gay, I lean toward bi.  A sub, and potentially a masochist.  Get back to me on that. I haven't tried it online, but my descriptions to people I have met have 100% success rate so far.

Have fun.

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ORIGINAL: barrieboytoy
I think what I'm asking is if scripting makes the scene less realistic?

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ORIGINAL: WhatUrSeeking

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Personally I can understand the rape fantasy to some degree, but I would like for it to be termed something more fitting. 


I don't know why I did not think of this earlier, but I think many people call it resistance play or a resistance scene. She resists and he overpowers her. Yep, sounds like it fits the rape fantasy.

Thank you!  I like that much better!  I have not only experienced rape, but have counseled many who have been through it and when certain threads have come about, many have emailed me about how they feel.  The word rape, to some, just brings it all back.  I can think of my experience and not have any problem with it at all, but some cannot do that yet.  So when someone desires to have this very real and wonderful experience of the lack of control and the 'take over' and use the word 'rape', it takes them to places they don't want to go and might not be a good time for them to go.  I hate to be a stickler, but I get very protective of people who have been wounded and are still in a process of healing.  I know they have to adjust and have to live in the real world and things like this will be something they have to address... but I think that beause a lot of people have not taken rape seriously and rape victims go through a lot of BS, even though things are changing, it only makes them feel even more of a victim because they aren't believed or are treated as if they did something wrong and deserved it or are belittled in some way.  Anything that softens the meaning of rape is something I think a lot of people struggle with.  This term I like and it sounds very appealing!

(in reply to WhatUrSeeking)

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

No: real rape should be taboo. On the whole it is: except for the rapists most of whom are locked up somewhere.

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ORIGINAL: subbisherri

Oh bloody hell, I should have realized that. Humbly bowing before you, I kiss your feet and beg an apology.

S.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
If you find a partner who is good at getting into your head and mind fucking you, it can still feel very real while you know you are safe.