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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 2:48:19 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

everything is negotiable....


let me go on to say, what i am hearing is your fear and desire to stay in control and there is nothing wrong with either....find a willing partner and negotiate what works for you, some folks will be thrilled with what you describe....


Well put.

I have thought about financial domination, mostly because I hate it so. Hate is passion, though. And passion means interest.

My grievances, I feel like the dominant does very little, and the submissive does very much. But this post is not about me.

Controlling the situation makes it a role play scenario. (as said above: nothing wrong with that). I would imagine some of the luster wears off, though. Other RP's come to mind... rape-play, prostitution-play, knife-play... All these things are faked (recreated) in a controlled setting to allow for most of the feelings, but still maintain control. The key, though, is to make it appear as if control is not there. To quote Morgan Freeman in Lucky Number Slevin: "Make something that is look like what it ain't." ... maybe... sorta? I liked that movie.

My point is this: You should try to find a way to ensure as much realism as possible in your cash-flow game. Perhaps trading something other than money... Perhaps tokens representative of favors or time. This assumes money is a big factor.

I'd be concerned that in giving out $5 vs. $50 there won't be enough value. Sure, we can pretend they're hundreds, but it won't feel the same. Might as well use monopoly money.

....... I'm sorry....

This is just a very touchy topic for a Jew.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 5:21:01 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		One of the ways I've heard of this being done was with a prepaid card. The two negotiated what was actually feasible for the submissive's budget, then they worked with a card that was paid off and reloaded each month. Various techniques that was fun for the two of them, like "blackmail" role play were used and the Dominant used the card to exact "punishment" on the submissive.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 9:03:25 AM   
MISTRESSKUMA


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Status: offline 		financial domination can be for 1] money management 2] or it can be used for masochist reasons for the masochist.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 10:31:58 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 11:06:12 AM   
MISTRESSKUMA


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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 


There's nothing stupid with wanting to be used.

Some like to be used. Being used for sex is cool, but being used for anything else isnt??

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 11:23:28 AM   
MISTRESSKUMA


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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 


There's nothing stupid with wanting to be used.

Some like to be used. Being used for sex is cool, but being used for anything else isnt??


Plenty of doms looking for female holes to use.

Plenty of femdoms looking for male wallets to use. Big deal.

< Message edited by MISTRESSKUMA -- 7/1/2008 11:25:17 AM >

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 11:38:16 AM   
MsStarlett


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 


There's nothing stupid with wanting to be used.

Some like to be used. Being used for sex is cool, but being used for anything else isnt??


Don't Panic.  That's just me being snarky.  Anyone who would send their money to ME to 'manage' it would be a total idiot.  My financial affairs are a mess!  I have actually gotten a few requests from CM members to be thier 'financial Domme' for lack of a better term.  They requested that I find interesting ways - like black male - to take their money.  Honestly, it is SO not in my nature to demand money from people, I couldn't figure out how to do it even after asking others for suggestions. 

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 11:41:58 AM   
MISTRESSKUMA


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

quote:

ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 


There's nothing stupid with wanting to be used.

Some like to be used. Being used for sex is cool, but being used for anything else isnt??


Don't Panic.  That's just me being snarky.  Anyone who would send their money to ME to 'manage' it would be a total idiot.  My financial affairs are a mess!  I have actually gotten a few requests from CM members to be thier 'financial Domme' for lack of a better term.  They requested that I find interesting ways - like black male - to take their money.  Honestly, it is SO not in my nature to demand money from people, I couldn't figure out how to do it even after asking others for suggestions. 


Don't panic. I'm not panicking. I'm okay. :)

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 11:52:31 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Knuckle bumps, sister.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/1/2008 12:01:03 PM   
MISTRESSKUMA


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< Message edited by MISTRESSKUMA -- 7/1/2008 12:02:12 PM >

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 1:38:41 PM   
PrincessDonna


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Status: offline 		If your owner will not take care of everything with responsibility and show you that he(or she) cares by those actions alone,what else is there to find out about them??

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 1:45:52 PM   
camille65


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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna

If your owner will not take care of everything with responsibility and show you that he(or she) cares by those actions alone,what else is there to find out about them??


Sometimes an owner hasn't financial acumen and it ends up being an area best served by the one being owned doing the finances.
It happens.
Balancing the books is not the end all and be all to a power dynamic, at least not in my world. As always my world may well not be another persons world.


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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 3:35:49 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Interesting thread. It must be a widespread fetish, because there sure seems to be a lot of women on this site who want to do it...

Is this fetish another form of the "vampire fetish?"

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 4:15:17 PM   
SolangeRichards


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Status: offline 		Yes! There sure do seem to be plenty of women on this, and other sites who want to practice this.

I've been online for a few years now at various sites. Though I do not seek submissive males, at this point I can safely say I have been contacted by many, many hundreds of them, and I can almost say I've heard it all but for one missing thing...

Not a single one has ever once mentioned to me financial domination as an interest......

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 4:33:06 PM   
ElanSubdued


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quote:

HeavansKeeper:
....... I'm sorry....
This is just a very touchy topic for a Jew.


WTF?  What do you mean by this?

Elan.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 4:50:53 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have Zero experiance in financial domination... but if you know anyone stupid enough - I mean - generouse ... please point them in my direction and I'll be happy to LEARN to take it from them.  *evil grins* 


i am always happy to help a newbie Ma`am.

Financial domination is when You beat a subbie with a fistful of dollars, then let the boy keep it. Likewise a flogging with a blank Cheque would suffice.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 5:41:12 PM   
tsatske


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quote:

quote:

:HeavansKeeper: ....... I'm sorry.... This is just a very touchy topic for a Jew.

: Elan.:
WTF?  What do you mean by this? Elan.


I have a beloved former Master who was Ethnicly Jewish. (religion wise, He was an Athiest). Because being 'tight fisted' is a ethnic scourge often aimed at Jewish people, He was very sensitive to ever being percieved as stingy or ungenourous. He was, in fact, extremely genourous with everyone, but I have the idea that His exwife had used that against Him, when they fought over things, with some success.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/2/2008 5:44:24 PM   
tsatske


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too, too funny.

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RE: Financial Domination - 7/9/2008 2:17:48 PM   
MatinaNemesis


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Status: offline 		Once again this is in the eye of the beholder..
Financial domination for a couple can be the managing and limiting of funds to the partner, possibly having to "pay" his own wife for sex etc..
For others who search a Pro Dom, financial domination can be the ultimate in submission ( for them).
How does it work ?  well.....One of the ways that I have found quite common, is that many guys have a fetish or kink for having a beautiful woman ( the kind they possibly wanted in highschool that only the cool guys got to date ) degrade, humiliate and use them. They enjoy being put down and ridiculed ( possibly as they were by these highschool beauties  when they went to school).

The difference however is that instead of being humiliated and dominanted by being feminized, or told to kiss the feet, or by being whipped etc..THEIR idea of  the ultimate in submission is by being used by an unobtainable, cold and self confident self centered beautiful woman, and that she does it by openly playing on their "weakness for her" by taking money from them, or demanding  gifts etc..
For them they feel used ,abused, and taken advantage of................and therfore fulfilled.


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RE: Financial Domination - 9/17/2008 7:38:46 AM   
LadySteel


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Status: offline 		So happy to find this post.  I am new here but not to the Lifestyle and thats what it is for me.  I have had tons of email and tons of wimps which I dont care for.  I have money slaves and they love the control that I have over them.  If I dont give you lunch money or give you  permission to eat you dont eat.  But on to my statement.  I got an email yesterday and chatted with the losers for about 10 min and we ended up instant messenging.  He read my profile and was highly aware of what I was expecting.  He then got an attitude and logged off. I get on to check my mail and this pathetic loser tells me I should go stand on a corner. What some subs dont seem to understand is that Most doms dont have sex with their subs.  At least I dont and have never in the 7 years I have been in the lifestyle.  I think It is rude and a waste of time to contact a dom and then belittle her.  Financial domination is more than controlling money, it is about total control of that person in every aspect.  It is alot of work to keep up with someones finances but it is also a thrill

Lady Steel

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