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RE: Designing Protocols - 6/30/2008 7:31:25 AM

chiaThePet

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For me it's always been, "Keep your hands in your pockets, don't touch anything,
or you'll have to wait in the car, and wipe that silly grin off your face, or I'll
do it for you."

Ahhhh structure.

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RE: Designing Protocols - 6/30/2008 7:36:42 AM

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Before you decide on specific 'protocols' you might want to define for yourself what a protocol is, what a ritual is etc.

Definitions that I use:

Protocol

The customs and regulations dealing with formality, precedence and etiquette.
A code of correct conduct:
A set of rules that help you navigate the proper ways of doing things in the lifestyle
Highly ritualized set of rules for interaction between Master and slave

Routine

Unthinking actions that meet basal requirements.
Routines do not offer inspiration or purpose beyond our most simple needs.
Routines, albeit necessary, are droll. Plain and simple.

Ritual

A set of steps you follow every time in the prescribed, thoughtful manner.
A task that that has conscious thought or meaning is to invoke a greater good.

Tradition

Something that is done the same way repeatedly based on historic significance

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RE: Designing Protocols - 6/30/2008 9:59:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: Archer
Most often these books are really most usefull in providing a template of ideas to draw from rather than providing an exact protocol set. (as ou seam to have gatherd already).

Indeed. What I found most useful in Dr. Rubel's book were his ideas rather than specific actions. In particular, I like his concepts of requests, orders, instructions, and agreements. Now it's a matter of translating the concepts into something that will work for my life. It's a work in progress but it's coming along nicely thanks to you and the other great folks who have taken time to respond.

Thanks again.

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RE: Designing Protocols - 6/30/2008 10:40:18 AM

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Each girl is different, each situation is different. The only protocols I use are those that grow naturaly from that relationship, if I see that a protocol would be useful in a set area then I will look at what would work, for Me, for her, for that relationship and for this Household (in that order of priority) and apply it, train her into it.

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