DesFIP -> RE: Whining/Complaining of a sub from a Master is O.K. (6/30/2008 7:26:48 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Can you give an example? Sometimes complaints and even whines are completely legitimate, reasonable and even quite humorous. Okay, for instance let's say a sub does not listen to a Dom or act the way he wants her to, and then the Dom spends his time whining. Mmmmm, like if the Dom wants her to stop talking so much, and the sub continues to. Not a direct order, but like a preference of the Dom. He doesn't make an attempt to order her not to talk, he just whines. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m9.gif[/image] Not all dominants bark orders. For some of us, him expressing a preference is enough. We are supposed to comply with that without needing orders. Because when he tells you what would please him, you don't need an order as you've already been given the correct information. So he complains that you aren't submitting to him and you view this as whining. Sounds like you're acting out hoping to get a spanking for being a bad girl. Now I like a spanking as much as the next one, but here it isn't done to force me to comply, it's done because we both enjoy it. Submit or don't, you already know what he wants. Either do it or tell him you aren't compatible. Refusing to submit because he won't dom you in the way you tell him to is not a way to show your submissiveness. What I'm hearing is that you aren't compatible. He wants someone willing to submit and you want to be forced. That does not, per se, make either of you bad, it just makes you incompatible. What is wrong is you blaming him for you not submitting.
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