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ORIGINAL: SirBitterSweet
I have no clue what you are talking about.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Fr. God.

First they whine that a guy is too broke, then they whine that he has too much.

Nothing ever satisfies you women. [8D]

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ORIGINAL: SirBitterSweet

CalifChick

It's too late to back paddle.

If you have to pull rank when trying to help someone, the advice credibility is drowned by the writer's personal arrogance. It should not matter where I stand next to you when you offer a suggestion, the suggestion should be naked and without a claim to rank or assumption of who or what I am. THIS IS OBVIOUS COMMON SENSE.

Second, if you want to pull rank, cite your pysch degree credentials, then I will be more impressed, but it doesn't change the fact your delivery was poor ettiquette.

Finally, if you go back and read the very original post, there is NO clear question from the author, just an example of dialgue. The only request is for 'comments.' I simply commented on an alternative response to a dialogue she posted. Think of it as an art gallery. She hung a poem on the wall and said, any comments? Hence, all comments are welcome.  I call that a smart post, as that she welcomed ANY kind of response.

I really don't want to debate this any more, I'm tired of people who stand by their denial of the obvious.

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ORIGINAL: SirBitterSweet

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick


You're new around these parts, so it's understandable that you might think that.  But the reality is no, that's not what was being asked.

Cali

Glad to know that someone on this site has psychic abilities and can read the mind of member just from a post that did NOT ask any specific questions and mind you, closed with a request for assistance (she asked, 'Any comments?')

First of all, it does not matter if I am new or not, as that I am not new to life ::laughs:: and last I checked, this is not a club that assigns rank or file. Does it matter I have been a member of this site for 4 years? Probably not.

Two, I prefaced my reply with 'it seems' --- which last I checked with my English professor in college, implies that my response is predicated on my interpretation of her own subtle inferences -- which she left open to reader in her very first post.

Third, because she did not ask a specific question, I offered a response that differed from others I read. Yes, I am guilty of NOT reading every last reply in the thread.. but nonetheless, she seemed to have dropped out of the thread. Now why is that??

Until she comes back and says anything to the contraty, well it's all guesswork .. and sorry if my response hurt your ego, that was not my intention.

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then they whine that he has too much.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Greedy, who me????

Hee hee hee.  Look down.

Cali

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

I guess an example might best illustrate this.
 
Him:  I make a 7 figure income and have significant assets, so you can feel safe emigrating out the country with me.
 
Me:  Will you be signing over assets and income to me?  No?  (Shocked look.)  Well then how will I be any different off than I am now -- a woman on a limited income?
 
Him:  When you accept a collar, the Dom takes total control over your life.  This includes financial support.  You'd never have to worry about money with me.
 
Me:  On the contrary, you are asking me to place myself in a position where my income is not sufficient to meet even my most basic needs.  What if I chose to return to America and you disagree?
 
Him:  You are a fake and know nothing about the lifestyle.
 
Me:  Good bye.
 
This has come up in differet contexts.  I've had Doms refuse to discuss their characters or personal lives 'because I'm rich, that's all you need to know'.
 
I'm not opposed to finding a wealthy Dom. I just think when incomes are disparate there are issues presented which for me need a full airing.
 
I'm not willing to rely on a promise made in the honeymoon stage to 'always take care of you' as a substitute for being able to take care of myself.  Certainly he can sign over assets and income and change my situation, but I've never known a self-proclained wealthy Dom who showed any interest in doing so.  Nor one that wanted to lower his standard of living.  For that matter, I have yet to meet one who was even willing to fund a 'safety net' for me, in case I needed to become financially self-sufficient again.
 
I don't care to be yet another woman with a horror story of being lured from her home and moved across the country -- or out of the country -- only to be 'released' suddenly, alone and broke in a strange place.
 
Any comments?
 
candystripper