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Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 8:49:58 AM   
crouchingtigress


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I want to ask the question...why do we care if someone uses a *gasp* bdsmpornforum to wank off to interesting story's?

I mean what is wrong with wanking?

Why do we want to shame people for masturbating?

Why is one kink OK, and another not?

This double standard has been bugging me for a while esp since if you don't want to share your intimate moments in public you certainly are not required to.

But why cast shame on the person asking and then subsequently to any and all that would want to share theirs?

I can not think of any one thing that would further the cause of advancing human sexuality and taking power out of the hands of the judeocatholic moralists that currently control a lot of social attitudes of law makers, then to celebrate the idea that not only do we all masturbate... but that sex-positive erotic-authenticity is something to celebrate.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 8:58:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have often talked to people about this topic.  Why do you have your pictures up... you know guys are wanking to it and your stories... they just encourage people to.  lol I could care less.  What I don't know doesn't hurt me.  Now if they wish to tell me about it, that is another story!  I don't care what they do, I just don't need to be treated like a mistress play toy or their sexual something or other simply because I am kinky, here and write stories!  I wish to be treated decently and to treat me like a whore here for their pleasure is my only upset with it all.

I want more openness about it all, but I don't need to be the tool in which they use to get off on, knowingly.  I agree with you in many ways here, but my problem is not with the wanker and the fact that they wank... it is how they treat others and act about it all.  We all wank... but we all don't act like social idiots in the act of wanking.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 8:58:42 AM   
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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 8:59:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Probably cause the question is being asked as a supposed serious question rather then outright stated. "Hey. I'm looking for stories and experiences to get me off, please share if you are willing"

If someone wants stuff like that, to be honest you can find tonnes and tonnes on alt.com or literotica, why come to and advice board???

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:04:39 AM   
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Probably cause the question is being asked as a supposed serious question rather then outright stated. "Hey. I'm looking for stories and experiences to get me off, please share if you are willing"


I see people accused of looking for wank fodder alot and, to me, its often an unwarrented accusation.  I have no reason to conclude that that's what going on in the situation you describe. 

I rarely post in those kinds of threads just because its not my thing to tell those kinds of stories to people I don't know.  But, I can't fault them for asking and I wouldn't post just so I can insult someone.


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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:08:26 AM   
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Probably cause the question is being asked as a supposed serious question rather then outright stated. "Hey. I'm looking for stories and experiences to get me off, please share if you are willing"

If someone wants stuff like that, to be honest you can find tonnes and tonnes on alt.com or literotica, why come to and advice board???


Ok i hear that, but there is a lot more then advice going on in these forums then just advice.

i have seen

flirting
hookups
sympathy
emapthy
confusion
elation
anger
fear
celebration
bragging
fighting
hot sex
advertising
whining



in fact i would say i have personally witnessed much of the wide spectrum of  sexual and human emotions and experiences here on these boards, so to say we are just here for the advice is self delusion.

so then why marginalise masturbation?

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:11:40 AM   
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* in a club, next to me so their nasty boy juice soils my clothes

* if it is my sub, cos he isn't allowed to

* anyone else in public situation where a nonconsenting person will happen across them.

Otherwise, go for it, wank till your bits drop off. Wanking is wonderful, pleasurable and well..orgasmic! ohhhhYES!!!!

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:14:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't mind the Wanking sub... IF he can provide as well as take it's quite enjoyable.  I've got one that I have enjoyed from the first week I joined CM.  I thought this guy was the real deal until recently and I'm starting to wonder.  The two of us used to write what can only be described as wanking senerios back and forth to each other.  It was quite HOT and I enjoyed it greatly.  It was always "What we're going to do when we finally get tother" type stuff.  I would write a paragraph or two and then he would reply with more... back and forth.  It was great!

Now, I really do want to set up a meeting with him and he's suddenly unavailable.  Hmmmm.... sort of makes me wonder if he never really wanted to DO any of the things we discussed, or if he only wanted to continue this wanking fantasy in print.  It wouldn't bother me if he only wanted to keep it on-line and on the phone only.  That would be fine by me, his writings were HOT... I just wish he would SAY so instead of just making excuses about why he can't come visit.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:17:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hey I was just giving an idea as to why some ppl get up in arms. No reason to bite my head off lol

I never said it was bad or good or otherwise. I don't post to threads that I think are people just looking for imigary.

To each their own. It's not my thing so I stay the hell away from it

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:21:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I have often talked to people about this topic.  Why do you have your pictures up... you know guys are wanking to it and your stories... they just encourage people to.  lol I could care less.  What I don't know doesn't hurt me.  Now if they wish to tell me about it, that is another story!  I don't care what they do, I just don't need to be treated like a mistress play toy or their sexual something or other simply because I am kinky, here and write stories!  I wish to be treated decently and to treat me like a whore here for their pleasure is my only upset with it all.

I want more openness about it all, but I don't need to be the tool in which they use to get off on, knowingly.  I agree with you in many ways here, but my problem is not with the wanker and the fact that they wank... it is how they treat others and act about it all.  We all wank... but we all don't act like social idiots in the act of wanking.


my thought would be then lockit dont share, because i think it is self delusion that you can have any semblance of control of what other folks do or dont do in the confines of thier home. your picture there may verywell have been "inspiration" to someone..you are beautiful after all and you have a sexy mind as well.

my other thought, who cares....i know that, for me, at least...i have no doubt that sperm has been sprayed in my name that i know nothing of, but then again i doubt alton brown, john goodman, sean connery or brad pitt know about the puddles they have inspired in my bed either.



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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:23:06 AM   
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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:23:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Okay... about a year ago I did find a couple of posters that I found offensive in this area.  They came asking about rape stories as if they were asking in a compassionate manner, when they were only using the pain of others to get off.  Yes, those that responded shouldn't have because they were actually hurt by it and such, but that is their thing to deal with and sort out.  How much do you share if it is going to be used in a way you would be hurt by?  But... I did try to stop what was happening because I knew that they only sought to wank to the things that were shared.  I don't care if they wank, but don't present it as one thing when it is only wank material.  Call it what it is, don't lie and entrap people.  Most that shared were still struggling through their experience and should have known, but many were younger and felt sickened that someone asked to hear their pain only to wank to it.  They learned a great lesson that day.  It is okay to feel comfortable and feel as if you are amoung friends here, but to think there are only friends here, is rather foolish.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:26:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: akisha

Hey I was just giving an idea as to why some ppl get up in arms. No reason to bite my head off lol

I never said it was bad or good or otherwise. I don't post to threads that I think are people just looking for imigary.

To each their own. It's not my thing so I stay the hell away from it


its funny you thought i bit your head off, because the voice i spoke to you in my mind was soft, quiet and questioning...thank you for the awareness that my style of communication feels like an attack, i would never wish any of my posting here to come off that way...

although you do have a very bitable head...

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:27:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wank as much as you want, just don't demand pictures from me

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:28:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

Maybe CM should have an erotic stories/wank forum?


CD


maybe, but the idea i am trying to convey is that one, we have no control how folks see us once we are public, and two, who cares what they do with thier own body.

this idea of shaming someone whos kink is difffernt then yours is weird to me.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:30:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I have often talked to people about this topic.  Why do you have your pictures up... you know guys are wanking to it and your stories... they just encourage people to.  lol I could care less.  What I don't know doesn't hurt me.  Now if they wish to tell me about it, that is another story!  I don't care what they do, I just don't need to be treated like a mistress play toy or their sexual something or other simply because I am kinky, here and write stories!  I wish to be treated decently and to treat me like a whore here for their pleasure is my only upset with it all.

I want more openness about it all, but I don't need to be the tool in which they use to get off on, knowingly.  I agree with you in many ways here, but my problem is not with the wanker and the fact that they wank... it is how they treat others and act about it all.  We all wank... but we all don't act like social idiots in the act of wanking.


my thought would be then lockit dont share, because i think it is self delusion that you can have any semblance of control of what other folks do or dont do in the confines of thier home. your picture there may verywell have been "inspiration" to someone..you are beautiful after all and you have a sexy mind as well.

my other thought, who cares....i know that, for me, at least...i have no doubt that sperm has been sprayed in my name that i know nothing of, but then again i doubt alton brown, john goodman, sean connery or brad pitt know about the puddles they have inspired in my bed either.




Hehehe... puddles are good!  Do tell! hehe

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:32:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe that is part of their kink? Shaming someone on a public forum.

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:33:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Wank as much as you want, just don't demand pictures from me


see to me that is differnt, and all private email is differnt, as is being in a club.....if it is not concenting...

what i hate is the double standard....your kink is not ok double standard....

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:36:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		What's the difference between a wanker and a troll, then?  I really don't care if someone is getting off to my pictures, I have them up so folks can look at them. 

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RE: Wank fodder? - 7/2/2008 9:40:09 AM   
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I am a person who says wank fodder if I believe it is there.  And there is absolutely nothing wrong with wank fodder.  Am I calling a peron out for using it?  No.  I just don't see the point of covering it up with happy shiney words like 'Dark Games' or 'List your spanking history'.  It's either wank fodder, or an attempt at plagerisning anothers ideas.
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