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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 7:34:15 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Last I know they get a lot of male sub responding to them but would it be nice if they would at least say thank you for sending me your message or something like that.

This has been discussed ad nauseum in other threads. In short, sometimes saying no thank you doesnt END the conversation. It opens up communication for argument, which I do not really care for. I do repsond to most if I think they are going to get the hint without undo rudeness or bitching on their end after a rejection.
If someone doesnt reply, you might have been filtered out and they may never have actually seen your message. I do not reply to anything in my bulk folder.
There are many reasons, but like I say to everyone ona thread like this... rather than wondering why they didnt reply, count yourself lucky you found out about the communication difficulties this far ahead of time and just move on.

DV


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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 7:41:09 PM   
Vestonika


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Status: offline 		Because you are not worthy,
and just because they may respond is no real evidence that you are...

I assign "unacceptably repulsive" points to those who attempt to give me permission to do something or to feel someway.. something that I already do or feel already. i'm gonna allow you to define my reality. silly.


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Just a thought and if you want to respond feel free.
Going through some of the Mistress's profiles and reading them to find out what they are looking for I wonder realy what they are looking for. See I know I am not the most good looking slave out there but do believe I have something going for me.
What are some of these Mistress looking for. I know I am not going to find the ideal one but one that comes close to what I am looking for. Last I know they get a lot of male sub responding to them but would it be nice if they would at least say thank you for sending me your message or something like that.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 7:41:52 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire
rather than wondering why they didnt reply, count yourself lucky you found out about the communication difficulties this far ahead of time and just move on.

Yeah.  Haven't you ever had a vanilla woman blow you off?  I sure have.  Not everyone is going to be interested -- and not everyone is going to be interested right then.  You know she read it, and you know she didn't write you back.

The other side of the coin is that there are dominant women, including some Ask A Mistress posters, who write, IM or call me, in part because I'm not hitting on them.  (I am really crappy at making time for IM, yet another weakness I have.)  Are you able to think of a dominant woman as a person you could have a Platonic friendship with?  If not, that will probably show in your emails, and it's a turnoff to most of the dominant women I know personally.


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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 7:51:35 PM   
MistressYlwa


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quote:

Top 3 Reasons I don't reply to idiots who write me:
1--- They obviously copy and pasted some nonsensical crap that barely is relevant to me or my profile at all, if even that much
2--- They are outside of the range of person I have clearly stated I'm looking for which says to me that they aren't courteous enough to invest that time in reading my profile to figure out if we are compatible on a basic level (gender/age/location/etc)
3--- They sent me something vulgar/lewd in their primary email to me that was inappropriate


Exactly. I also will not respond if the initial request in my profile is not followed. If you can't do the easy tasks, what good are you going to be when its time for the real thing?

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 8:02:56 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I just deleted and blocked two people.  I did this because both of them clearly didn't read my profile, or if they did, they didn't pay any attention to it.  Funnily enough, I'm not sure if people realize you can see who's viewing you.. and my profile is long enough that if you want to read the whole thing, you must do that.

That's absolutely one of the things that will get you blocked and deleted (with no response) in my world.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 8:14:41 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		Fear.

And loathing.

Have fun.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 8:21:49 PM   
pixelslave


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ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

Fear.

And loathing.

Have fun.


joy,
In your case, I clearly understand the loathing part, but would the fear be of catching rabies from you or something else you haven't told us about?  Surely a puppy dog like you doesn't bite Mistresses!
 
 - pixel
 



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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 9:34:33 PM   
BelleMorte1969


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< Message edited by BelleMorte1969 -- 7/3/2008 9:36:52 PM >

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 9:39:57 PM   
BelleMorte1969


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Madame4a

*grin*

thanks.. gorgeous picture, by the way...


Ah, dear Lady Madame4a - you are too kind.  Wycked gloves!  Love the doggy, corset and spanking pics too!  Here's to hoping we both find slaves worthy of reply!  B


Women get sex whenever they want it.  What do men get in return?  We let you.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/3/2008 9:47:09 PM   
BelleMorte1969


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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I just deleted and blocked two people.  I did this because both of them clearly didn't read my profile, or if they did, they didn't pay any attention to it.  Funnily enough, I'm not sure if people realize you can see who's viewing you.. and my profile is long enough that if you want to read the whole thing, you must do that.

That's absolutely one of the things that will get you blocked and deleted (with no response) in my world.


I have something to say about that............  DAIRY QUEEN. 





Women get sex whenever they want it.  What do men get in return?  We let you.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/4/2008 2:06:28 AM   
SpiderInWaiting


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quote:

Just a thought and if you want to respond feel free.
Going through some of the Mistress's profiles and reading them to find out what they are looking for I wonder realy what they are looking for. See I know I am not the most good looking slave out there but do believe I have something going for me.
What are some of these Mistress looking for. I know I am not going to find the ideal one but one that comes close to what I am looking for. Last I know they get a lot of male sub responding to them but would it be nice if they would at least say thank you for sending me your message or something like that.


I can't speak for any domme except myself. I personally have clearly listed in my profile what I want and what I won't accept. I also clearly state that if the responder does not meet the required criteria in my profile that they should not be surprised if they never hear from me. If someone doesn't take the time to read my profile completely before sending me a message then I am definitely not going to take the time to respond. Any confusion or offense the person has taken is their own fault.
As for your initial post to the forum; it just sounds whiney.  This is a personals site which means the majority of people you contact are people who have no interest in you so when they don't want to respond why would it be so surprising or rude? It is also difficult to pinpoint a specific reason for dommes not responding to you if we can't read the messages that you send to them.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/4/2008 5:44:58 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		hee .. you got a chuckle out of me this morning... *grin*
and thank you again

quote:

ORIGINAL: BelleMorte1969

quote:

ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I just deleted and blocked two people.  I did this because both of them clearly didn't read my profile, or if they did, they didn't pay any attention to it.  Funnily enough, I'm not sure if people realize you can see who's viewing you.. and my profile is long enough that if you want to read the whole thing, you must do that.

That's absolutely one of the things that will get you blocked and deleted (with no response) in my world.


I have something to say about that............  DAIRY QUEEN. 







Women get sex whenever they want it.  What do men get in return?  We let you.


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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/4/2008 6:32:57 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		The simple answer to this, as some have pointed out, is that there is no real point in responding to some emails.  Let's say, for example, that I'm contacted by a CD from Oregon who is looking for a online domination.  Well, there's three things right there that automatically disqualify us from each other.  I have no interest in any of that.  I see it as no different than the junk mail I receive asking Me to switch phone companies or the spam that I get on My regular email account.  I'm not interested in it, so there's no need for Me to respond to it. 

Another point about all of this is that, if you do respond to someone you are not interested in, many times, it is followed up by "why not".  Literally, this past week, I had to tell at least three people that I was not looking for what they had to offer (these were the times I did write a polite no thank you instead of just deleting) and this seemed like an open invitation to them to start the barrage of them attempting to change My mind.  More often than not, it's easier just to delete and move on.


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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/4/2008 8:50:54 PM   
Dusty15


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Status: offline 		Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home. So let me throw this out and here is an example of what kind of a day I had today. This boy works from 3pm to 1:30am, so I worked some over time got off work at 3am The Misress text me a list of items that was need so the boy stop by Wal Mart to pick the items up and got home around 4am. Was awaken by the Mistress at 7:45 so that the boy could watch her God childern abd She was going for about an hour and half. While she was at work did some cooking, She got home the boy went out to start some yard work. Work on that up until 4:30 and started to fix the evening meal feed the 2 dogs and three cats. After the meal did dishes and went back out to work on the yard some more. Between 6pm and 10:pm did yard work played with the kids did some painting, watch some fire works in between waiting on her and help to put the kids to bed. My time end about 10:30 when She told me to take the rest of the night off. I know this is what a slave is all about. So take a look at my profile and ask your self if this is the type of a slave I am looking for.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 2:21:25 AM   
snowslave


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Status: offline 		Okay, many Dommes don't reply to emails from sub/slave wannabe's who send out mass emails and who include unrealistic requests.  I get that.  My pet peeve is when I get an email from a Domme who asks me to respond and tell her more about myself.  When I respond, I don't hear back.  Even if she did not feel we are compatible, I think she should at least respond and say so.  I'd especially like to know if it was something I said or if there is anything in my profile that I could change, etc. for the next Domme.  I've had only one Domme actually write back and tell me why she did not think we were compatible, and I fully understood. 

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 2:31:26 AM   
MissIsis


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Status: offline 		My profile is deliberately long.  I know right away if someone didn't bother to read it.  Generally, I will just send back a not interested note, but there are times, I just delete.  Why give someone the curtesy of a response if they didn't give the curtesy of reading about what I am looking for, first.  And what the others said, sometimes answering has become a barrage of questions when I say I am not interested.  Some messages I get are from people I have already told I am not intested.  Generally, I will just delete those as well. 

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 2:47:09 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		The actual cut and pasted beginning of my profile

"Read the profile. Read the profile. Read the profile. No, seriously, read the profile. Don't read the profile, don't expect an answer

Unbelievably, I still get hundreds of emails from people who didnt read the profile. I mean how hard can it be? Is it written in some strange off world language?

I go on to say what is and is not acceptable, but obviously those who didnt bother to take 3 minutes out of their life to read my profile wouldnt know what is acceptable and what isnt. Hence I get emails that are as interesting to me as centipede shit.

THATS why most Dommes don't respond.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 4:23:35 AM   
LaMistressa


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ORIGINAL: Dusty15 (edited for length and bolded for emphasis)

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home. ..So take a look at my profile and ask your self if this is the type of a slave I am looking for.


Wait a sec. You live with a Domme and serve her and function under some sort of contract to her? No, I'm pretty sure this is not the type of slave I am looking for!

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 5:05:07 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		And what does all this have to do with your original post?  Do you let the people you're messaging here know that you're in service, under contract and living with a domme?


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home. So let me throw this out and here is an example of what kind of a day I had today. This boy works from 3pm to 1:30am, so I worked some over time got off work at 3am The Misress text me a list of items that was need so the boy stop by Wal Mart to pick the items up and got home around 4am. Was awaken by the Mistress at 7:45 so that the boy could watch her God childern abd She was going for about an hour and half. While she was at work did some cooking, She got home the boy went out to start some yard work. Work on that up until 4:30 and started to fix the evening meal feed the 2 dogs and three cats. After the meal did dishes and went back out to work on the yard some more. Between 6pm and 10:pm did yard work played with the kids did some painting, watch some fire works in between waiting on her and help to put the kids to bed. My time end about 10:30 when She told me to take the rest of the night off. I know this is what a slave is all about. So take a look at my profile and ask your self if this is the type of a slave I am looking for.


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But you f*ck so good, I'm on top of it
When I dream, I'm doing you all night
Scratches all down my back to keep me right on

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 6:09:00 AM   
snowslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home.


What??  What just happened?  If you are under contract and serving a Mistress, why are you attempting to approach otther dommes? 

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