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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 10:52:41 AM

pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: snowslave

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ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home.

What?? What just happened? If you are under contract and serving a Mistress, why are you attempting to approach otther dommes?

See the parts I've just put in BOLD.

The Mistress is training him to be a slave/submissive for a limited period of time according to what they've agreed upon. It's likely not a long term agreement, or else he wouldn't be looking for another dominant. As to why he's living in her house, that may be part of their contract, he may be renting a room, or there may be some other reason. Perhaps he'll post again and tell us.

It's not unusual for dominants to mentor others and have them under "their protection". In those situations, it isn't intended to be a long term situation, but one to guide the submissive until they find a suitable dominant for them, usually with their assistance. That's done to help prevent the sub from wandering into relationships on their own where they might get involved in an unhealthy one; which often occurs in the case of those with limited experience or those just coming out of one. I'll add that this is more commonly seen with female subs. This is the first example I've heard of it occuring with a male sub/slave.

- pixel

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 8:44:57 PM

Dusty15

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I am not under any contract as of last week when she release me. When I moved in I was under no contract. I rent her down stairs apartment and durning that we got to know each other. Then it was in March of this year that I sign a 3mo training contract. I still rent out that apartment and one of the was that I help with rent is to keep the yard mowed and handy man things around the home. It keeps my cost of the rent down. So that is where things stand with us and as far as serving her she has made it clear that I will serve her when called upon. Hope that clears some things up.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 8:48:31 PM

Dusty15

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pixel you are right on in what you said that is is what she is doing.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 9:28:40 PM

EvilGenie

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I have in large print at the top of my profile,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Not seeking other than friends. I am married to mine and I do some mentoring very rarely now. I *still* receive a ton of mail asking to be mine. I am not online here all that often right now as life is a bit too busy. What would not have gotten a response from me are the copied and pasted open letters. I do love it though when someone has forgotten that they have already sent me said copy and paste twice already! You don't want to know my reply to him ~weg~

In my world, you've *got* to read the entire profile and respond to the profile accordingly. There will always be those who won't answer due to time, an obvious lack of complimenting interests, etc. I also stopped the ''no thank you'' with men who write to say they are at my feet. I do not find that to be cute nor charming of someone whom I do not know. One thing that will certainly get a response from me, and that is someone who clearly understands and does not buy the fantasy of it all. I cannot count the times I have received a message and stated my requirement for further contact; a detailed synopsis of said person including but not limited to how and when they discovered who they are or if they know who they are and why. I also ask in detail what is being sought, hopes, dreams, desires, etc. I cannot even begin to count the number who promised to do so and were never heard from again. Some would respond ''whatever you want is what I want.'' To that, I say monkey muffins! You must be clear in what *you* want and in *who* you are or be seeking help to answer those questions. Never give me the ''your wish is my command'' BS.

Just a few thoughts.

** Edited to add: Some are also here, on the other side, who have no skill/experience and who come to ''play.'' These folks have no intention and/or ability to ever do this real time.

< Message edited by EvilGenie -- 7/5/2008 9:38:33 PM >

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 9:47:32 PM

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I go through and read each profile that I send a message to and someone like you I would not send one to because I saw what you are looking for.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 9:50:44 PM

EvilGenie

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Oh yes that is right. Nobody needs another friend correct? Some come to me simply to help them grow or to be friendly, to discuss the lifestyle etc.

Duh, I could have had a V-8!

< Message edited by EvilGenie -- 7/5/2008 9:53:06 PM >

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 10:00:56 PM

Dusty15

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We all need friends I did not mean it that way sorry

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 10:04:27 PM

EvilGenie

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No worries.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 10:07:32 PM

ServingGirrl

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Monkey muffins??? Evil Genie, thank you for making me laugh~! i must suggest that turn of phrase to Mistress, though it might even become my pet name if i'm not careful - "come here NOW Monkey Muffins~!"

Blessings ......... livvi (Mistress Roni)

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 10:24:27 PM

EvilGenie

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You're very welcome. Happy to have obliged.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/5/2008 11:23:49 PM

Laura

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Some of us have a profile because we still like the forum but don't want to continue being included in the personals. I like having a profile so someone can find out something about me if they want. But, I no longer want to try meeting any men through any online sites.

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/6/2008 12:25:38 PM

pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: Dusty15

pixel you are right on in what you said that is is what she is doing.

Sometimes I get lucky and hit the nail on the head instead of my thumb!

I'm pleased to see you have a dominant that's helping you find your way into the lifestyle. A mentor or someone with more experience to guide you is a valuable thing to have, regardless of your experience in the lifestyle. I'm thankful for the many friends I have available to turn to for guidance at times when I feel the need.

In the DFW leather community a new mentoring program for submissives of any gender or orientation, collared or not, has just been formed with the first group going through it starting this month. They've had a similar program for Dominants of both genders for several years now. I feel fortunate to live in a community that offers so much!

- pixel

< Message edited by pixelslave -- 7/6/2008 12:28:47 PM >

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/6/2008 1:05:35 PM

subtex

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ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home.

I get the sense from your syntax that English isn't your first language. If that's not the case excuse me, no insult to your language skills intended. If it is the case I just wanted to say it might be a good idea to mention that at the beginning of any replay to an ad. The way we communicate is the first thing an ad holder has to judge us on. I'm sure they would give some leeway to someone who speaks more than one language. I thought that would be relevant since that can be a factor why some people don't respond to emails.
Bill

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/6/2008 4:37:25 PM

pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: subtex

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Let me say this. The person that this boy had a training contract with is still with Her but under Her protection and still lives in Her home.

I get the sense from your syntax that English isn't your first language. If that's not the case excuse me, no insult to your language skills intended. If it is the case I just wanted to say it might be a good idea to mention that at the beginning of any replay to an ad. The way we communicate is the first thing an ad holder has to judge us on. I'm sure they would give some leeway to someone who speaks more than one language. I thought that would be relevant since that can be a factor why some people don't respond to emails.
Bill

Subtex,
I'd be especially concerned about the Dommes that wouldn't reply to your initial message contacting them because you ended it with "I look forward to your replay"!

- pixel

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Chivalry isn't dead! It's for those who have it in their hearts & are willing to be taught. It's a way of life, a code of honor; this one's armor still needs some polishing!

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RE: Why won't some Mistress respond back to you - 7/6/2008 4:44:33 PM

TexasMaam

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I can count on one hand the number of sincere emails I've received that ever merited a response.

The rest have all been hng foolishness and I never respond to those I simply delete them.

TM

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