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Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:27:06 AM   
Tormentise


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Status: offline 		I recently related my experiences with a violent sub to a friend of mine whom I visit once a year. He said that for twenty years he was married to a woman who enjoyed rough sex, being tied up, spanked, etc., etc.  He also said that those submissives who enjoy violent sex will become violent if they do not receive it the way they want it. There will obviously be two sides to this story and the same generalization can be made towards the dominant as well. But really, is this the post where that vanilla ice cream cone finally disappears from above my avatar?
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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:30:09 AM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: Tormentise
He also said that those submissives who enjoy violent sex will become violent if they do not receive it the way they want it.


Hogwash!

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:31:09 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Poppycock!

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:35:00 AM   
RCdc


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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:35:10 AM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		There will be a void that seems unanswered, but become violent over it.... No!  That is spoken by someone who either had not a clue about the dynamics of his own relationship, sad in itself, or has only had one such experience from which to draw. 

Nonsense and poppycock sum it up nicely.

Hushing now,
lovingpet

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:35:52 AM   
persephonee


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Poppycock!


she said, "poppycock"...hehee

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:36:56 AM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

Nonsense and poppycock sum it up nicely.



I like darks "Piffle" too. Cute!

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:40:35 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Hey, I was just thinking of a horror movie called, "Dawn of the Frustrated Subs".
Can you see us all? Chomping off the heads of our bosses. We could be dark eyed with crazy narled hair and
lets not forget rabid and foaming at the mouth!

Can ya picture us now?

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:40:57 AM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		Yes indeed, gotta love "piffle"...but in all seriousness...im all for a hardcore, "violent" session...doesnt make my partner any more out of control than he/she would have been in any other session. Poppycock, piffle, BS....it all works.

Happy 4th....

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:42:36 AM   
brat4fun


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Status: offline 		There are times when I like it rough.  Hold me down, pull my hair.... other things I'm not going to get into here because I've gotta go to work soon and I don't really need to get all horny and frustrated first. *grin*

There are also times when I very much enjoy soft and gentle and tender.  It all depends on the man I'm with and the level of connection I feel with him.  If he's just a casual f***-buddy then it's harder to feel that connection that's going to make slow and easy sex rewarding.  If I don't have a feeling of being dominated while I'm having sex then it might as well just be vanilla and then I find it boring.

Let me make that distinction a little clearer.  If it's someone that I feel submissive towards and have a mental connection with then sex can be warm and tender and a wonderful, loving experience and leave me completely sated and satisfied.  If it's a vanilla guy looking for rough kinky sex then I'm likely to fall asleep on him.

I cannot fathom ever getting violent with someone because he wasn't getting rough enough with me.  I might call out some encouragement, or talk over an unsatisfying encounter afterwards, but it's just not in me to go after someone.

Anne

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:43:22 AM   
Tormentise


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Status: offline 		Yes, on the surface, it seems that statement would be hogwash. But in actuality, most subs can get it whenever they want it even if that requires a one night quick training of a disposable daddy.

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:52:39 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: Tormentise

Yes, on the surface, it seems that statement would be hogwash. But in actuality, most subs can get it whenever they want it even if that requires a one night quick training of a disposable daddy.


Oh lordy I am calling piffle again.
Are you male?
 
1) Trying stating that 'most subs can get it' to male submissives - who's only chance may be a pro - which many male submissives cannot afford.
 
and
 
2) Women aren't male.  And whilst this is a generalisation, it will match yours.  Women on the whole, unlike men, don't want to play with some disposable daddy - the majority of women(although not all) are different from many (although not all) men in the fact that they like to have emotional connection with the dominant.
 
So yes, still the statement made is hogwash, poppycock and piffle.  When did you see the last report of a violent masochist?
 
the.dark.

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:55:29 AM   
kallisto


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Hey, I was just thinking of a horror movie called, "Dawn of the Frustrated Subs".
Can you see us all? Chomping off the heads of our bosses. We could be dark eyed with crazy narled hair and
lets not forget rabid and foaming at the mouth!

Can ya picture us now?


That made my day

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 6:56:56 AM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		In response to the OP's second post, that is one very surefire way to get hurt, and not in the good way.  A subbie with any sense at all is not going to go into a heavy session with someone they do not know.  Maybe some will, but it is not recommended.  Submissives will find it elsewhere?  No!  Eventually?  Yes!  This is not a vanilla, you turn out to be a weirdo creep so I am going to kick you in the nads and get out situation.  A submissive is likely to be tied, toys about, some that qualify as weapons perhaps.  Not even remotely the same thing.

Oh and piffle.... love that one too.

Just my two cents (please no flames, because it did not cost enough to be worth it),
lovingpet

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:00:02 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		(hones machete, polishes bullets)   my Sir has never left me unsatisfied       .     ....    and its a good thing too!   i might go off  bwahahahaha

but seriously, do all doms lock away knifes and forks around their subs?   after all they have to sleep sometime, and do subs have a meter to let the doms know when they are going to go subtal (derivitive of postal), so they can beat them quickly and thereby preserve their dominant lives for another day?  ok - maybe not so seriously. hehe



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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:16:03 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Hey, I was just thinking of a horror movie called, "Dawn of the Frustrated Subs".
Can you see us all? Chomping off the heads of our bosses. We could be dark eyed with crazy narled hair and
lets not forget rabid and foaming at the mouth!

Can ya picture us now?


That has to be the post of the month.
 
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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:27:49 AM   
Tormentise


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

(hones machete, polishes bullets)   my Sir has never left me unsatisfied       .     ....    and its a good thing too!   i might go off  bwahahahaha

but seriously, do all doms lock away knifes and forks around their subs?   after all they have to sleep sometime, and do subs have a meter to let the doms know when they are going to go subtal (derivitive of postal), so they can beat them quickly and thereby preserve their dominant lives for another day?  ok - maybe not so seriously. hehe





Then I nominate this for second place!

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:35:09 AM   
persephonee


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ORIGINAL: Tormentise

Yes, on the surface, it seems that statement would be hogwash. But in actuality, most subs can get it whenever they want it even if that requires a one night quick training of a disposable daddy.


They MAKE those???? i need to get me some....perchance, are they costly?

~all in jest....peace

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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:44:12 AM   
wandersalone


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ORIGINAL: Tormentise

Yes, on the surface, it seems that statement would be hogwash. But in actuality, most subs can get it whenever they want it even if that requires a one night quick training of a disposable daddy.

Just because female subs probably could get  'it' whenever they want it doesn't mean that they do, many are looking for more than a quick lay and spanking....and I have yet to hear about one who went wild with a machete because she hadn't been flogged in a while.  Maybe I need to watch CNN more.


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RE: Violent Sex - 7/4/2008 7:47:15 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I know quite a few subs that are selective and want a connection. Therefore they have long spans of frustration and hroniness. None of them to my knowledge got violent. I myself, havent got any in coming up on 4 weeks now. I have been use to regular somethin, somethin. I  havebeen a bit to sad to be frustrated but I'll let ya know.

Oh wait, hold on, I feel an Ire commin on. Get me a knife, I hate men, gimme a victim, ahhhhh

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