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I'm starting to question members' reasons for being here - 7/5/2008 12:20:48 PM

ThreeWayMaster

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Hi, all. I've never posted in the forum before, but I've been a member for quite a few months. I posted a very honest, open profile describing what both my wife and I are looking for. I've actively reviewed matches in my area and politely contacted other members about starting a dialogue and have never made it past the intial one or two contacts. I state that I will provide photos upon request, and have actually provided photos to a few members that I guess weren't interested after they saw our photos----I have no problem with that, everyone has different tastes. What I don't understand is why no response or further communication from members that say what they are looking for is what we're willing to provide? It makes me wonder if the vast majority of members here (at least in my area) are either 1) men posing as women or 2) just playing around in cyber space or 3) are using a profile for some other ulterior motive.

Feedback?

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 12:26:15 PM

MySweetSubmssive

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Your thread, or some variation of it, gets posted almost once a week. Here's a variation from the Mistress forum:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1981809/tm.htm

Short answer: they don't feel you are a good match.

Mss

< Message edited by MySweetSubmssive -- 7/5/2008 12:28:06 PM >

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 12:28:26 PM

Maxwell67

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I can only say that if you are not getting what you are seeking here, then do not just give up on this community entirely. These forums are full of fine people, great information and discussions about the lifestyle and more. However, I would suggest that if you are not already involved in the more local BDSM orgaizations in your area, you might have much better luck finding what you seek there. I wish you the best.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 12:31:58 PM

ThreeWayMaster

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Maxwell, I'd be very interested in checking out my local scene. But I have no idea how to go about it.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 12:51:04 PM

GabrielleSlave

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Hi TWM

Master and i would be interested in Yyou guys, but Wwe are too far away....... Don't give up on Uus folk on CM; there are many fakes who will mess You around, but every now and then there will be someone who will make it all worth it - Master and i have proof there are some really good people on here!

Edited to add - i too have moaned about this subject in my diary a while back....

Luck and hugs

Gabrielle x

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 12:54:09 PM

ThreeWayMaster

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Thanks for the support, Gabrielle.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 1:25:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThreeWayMaster

Maxwell, I'd be very interested in checking out my local scene. But I have no idea how to go about it.

http://www.t3wd.org/groups.htm

http://domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=org&uid=default&state=SOUTH+CAROLINA&view_records=View+Records&ww=on

Send some feelers to some of the folks in the link, that may open some doors for you.

Use the search function here at CM, and ask someone near you if they have any groups or munch info to share with you.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 1:27:27 PM

GreedyTop

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not to sound snarky:

probably the majority of people on CM are here for the same reason you are.. hoping to find a match. That being said, I agree with MSS..
and like gabrielle said, don't give up... vanilla relationships rarely happen overnight, finding the right match can be hard, so patience is needed, as well as the determination to keep on and not get discouraged. I wish you well :)

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 1:33:35 PM

ServingGirrl

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It can be very hard not to get dispirited and give up on Cm - and on yourself for that matter (i know THAT feeling only too well) but GreedyTop and the others are right. The only time we have no chance of something and someone good coming our way is when we stop looking and being open to all the possibilities. It's been months for me now and it's been hard waiting for so long and coming even remotely close so rarely, but when the alternative is to give up and have no chance at all, i think you'd agree that CM remains a very viable place of possibilities.

Very best of fortune to you .......... livvi

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 1:58:19 PM

Lucylastic

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Heres another link:)
http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html#South%20Carolina
As for CM you will meet every kind of person here, good, bad, ugly, gorgeous, fat, thin, pathetic, special, wonderful, awful, etc etc etc just like in offline life. Dont have too many high expectations , it likely to be very disapointing.
Have fun, and get out into the local scene if thats your thing, a good group locally will be very open to new people and very welcoming.
Have a blast and take care
Lucy

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 2:02:22 PM

Maya2001

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Are you contacting subs that state they are interested in poly relationships or bi female subs interested in serving a dom or subs want to serve a female? Most fem subs are looking for commited relationship not just to be used as an ocassional toy and discarded ...reading your profile it sounds like you want a few females just for fuck session with your wife at your command but not necessarily for an ongoing relationship. or play with you as a dominant...so it could be what you are looking for is not really what they are looking for

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:15:13 PM

RuheMaus

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have to plug this site...
http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgssouth.html#SC

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:18:10 PM

xxblushesxx

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I'm here for the cookies.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:26:20 PM

faerytattoodgirl

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i love posing as a woman...its great...and i have much experience in it... and damn i am hot. i have even done a little professonal posing....but that was 20 years ago...damn im old now.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:27:30 PM

faerytattoodgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I'm here for the cookies.

stop stealing my cookies!!!! but dont forget to give some to the new kitteh named cookie!!! (i had a cat with this name once )

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:31:47 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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i'll take #3

i'm here under a guise for a secret government ops organization. please mail me your location and other vital information to add you to the "list"

and if you seriously believe that, i have swampland near NOLA that i'm selling for free!

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:37:15 PM

LaTigresse

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Quite honestly your profile reads like an add for a swingers site. I am not sure this may be the perfect site for that. Though I could be mistaken.......

P.S. I am really a famous actor doing research for an independent film.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:39:18 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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*adding LaTigresse to the "list"*

yeah i'm watching you too

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:41:16 PM

Vestonika

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*caged, go-go dancing!!*

yea baby...

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Quite honestly your profile reads like an add for a swingers site. I am not sure this may be the perfect site for that. Though I could be mistaken.......

P.S. I am really a famous actor doing research for an independent film.

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RE: I'm starting to question members' reasons for being... - 7/5/2008 3:42:22 PM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

*adding LaTigresse to the "list"*

yeah i'm watching you too

Ohhhhh, I just shivered and got goosebumps. The good kind.......like when you sneeze.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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