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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/8/2008 12:56:58 PM   
masterforRT


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Status: offline 		Generally, I don't ask for naked pictures. I find that most subs will send them to me if/when they want to. Some do the first day; some never do.  To me at least, it doesn't really matter. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/8/2008 1:06:30 PM   
spatejak


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Status: offline 		In a few words: NO! NO! However, if you have a naked baby picture that would be a nice touch

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/8/2008 7:36:43 PM   
QuietPeppermint


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Joined: 6/17/2008
Status: offline 		As a very new sub, my first instinct to your question was a firm NO.

I read the responses first and was surprised, though, at what other people thought.


I would still advise you not to send pictures, and not to doubt your own sincerity.

I suppose there are relationships where this is perfectly acceptable. However, to me, it sounds like it's NOT perfectly acceptable to you. Please do not let people try to take advantage of your sub. desires to exhort things from you. On the practical side, blackmail, fear of it leaking out, etc... those are all very negative and horrible consequences.
In my mind, if a master was looking for a real relationship with you [and I am assuming you would prefer that ], he would be patient. Maybe his desire to see you was truly because he wanted to take it to the next level.  However, if you have not established a firm relationship yet  [you wrote that it "seemed" to be "very promising" ], I see nothing wrong with expecting him to wait. After all, you're worth it :].


Good luck !


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 4:00:25 PM   
ADom442


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quote:

Do you know you are safe with him?


I know of one "Dom" who demands naked pictures early in the relationship. If things go bad, then he threatens to go public with them and has done that in the past.


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 4:03:21 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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Status: offline 		All naked lady pictures should be forwarded to Pyrrsefanie's inbox, otherwise you are not a twue submissive.  Bonus points for being a trashy redhead or a trashy blonde.  I'm waiting.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 5:29:23 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: controlme54

can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship?  is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"?  please assume in your answer that the relationship seemed otherwise very promising.  and PLEASE, no flames.  this feels bad enough already.  i am looking for sincere feedback.   



What is appropriate for me and what is appropriate for others are completely different things. I'm sure that somewhere out there there is fanastic owner who requires naked pics within four day. However, because of my feelings regarding naked pictures of myself floating around on the internet, they aren't for me.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 5:37:26 PM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: controlme54
can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship? 

can you envision having a "relationship" without knowing what someone looks like naked?


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 10:37:42 PM   
firstslaveca


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

Your gut is telling you he's not so promising afterall - yorta listen....  And probably the best starting point for taking naked pics is when you trust someone enough for them to take their own of you. 
 
Focus.


oh yeah !!! perfect answer, ty, i love it

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 10:41:51 PM   
misterbananafish


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

All naked lady pictures should be forwarded to Pyrrsefanie's inbox, otherwise you are not a twue submissive.  Bonus points for being a trashy redhead or a trashy blonde.  I'm waiting.

yeah, uhm... go ahead and CC those to me, as well, especially the redheads...

*grin*

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/9/2008 11:26:33 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: misterbananafish

yeah, uhm... go ahead and CC those to me, as well, especially the redheads...

*grin*


Get your own internet scam, dammit!

I mean... um... what?

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 8:53:58 AM   
peppermint


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quote:

ORIGINAL: controlme54

can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship?  is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"?  please assume in your answer that the relationship seemed otherwise very promising.  and PLEASE, no flames.  this feels bad enough already.  i am looking for sincere feedback.   



I can not envision a situation in which i would think it appropriate or necessary to send a naked picture to a stranger within 4 days of beginning to chat with him.  However i am using my own experience, morals and not yours to answer the question.  Whether you send the picture or not is entirely up to you and what you feel is proper and necessary in your own particular situation. 

As to your new profile....i know of several married women who have Doms who are not their spouses.  In their cases, the spouses know about the Doms and have met the Doms.  In a couple of cases they are all friends and socialize together.  I disagree highly that "most" here are in the same situation...as you have stated in your profile....and not supported by any facts.  I also know of a married couple who both dreamed silently of a D/s relationship for 20 years of their marriage until one honestly opened up to the other.  They are now a devoted Master/slave couple.  During those 20 years they both just "knew" that the other would think them a freak...so they both stayed silent all too long. 

Hope this answers your question. 




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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 12:24:51 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: controlme54

can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship?  is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"?  please assume in your answer that the relationship seemed otherwise very promising.  and PLEASE, no flames.  this feels bad enough already.  i am looking for sincere feedback.   



For many, it is considered a litmus test of the submissive's seriousness. Regardless, always take the time to find out whether they are legitimate first.




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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 12:34:07 PM   
quickened


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Status: offline 		HeavensKeeper, You have given me such a great laugh tonight.  A real out loud laugh.  Puts you firmly in the Fantastic Four's understudy pool for sure.  And by the way, many of us women (don't get prickly girls, I said many, not all) tend to really  like sex too.  The rest is all icing.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 7:18:47 PM   
WhiteFox77


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Joined: 4/21/2008
Status: offline 		I can certainly envision a situation where it'd be appropriate.  If a dom wants that, they have every right to require it.  If as a sub you don't want to comply, don't.  You have a right to choose who you want to dom you, and if you aren't comfortable with that kind of requirement, find a different dom, there are lots of us out here.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

All naked lady pictures should be forwarded to Pyrrsefanie's inbox, otherwise you are not a twue submissive.  Bonus points for being a trashy redhead or a trashy blonde.  I'm waiting.


Feel free to CC:  WhiteFox77 on those redhead pics.


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 8:11:55 PM   
MisterBeast


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Status: offline 		I think anyone who is into demanding anything after 4 days is well.... just a weeeee bit too full of themselves. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/10/2008 9:15:07 PM   
sunshinemiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

First of all, if you haven't even met in person, it's hardly a Relationship... secondly, i can imagine that a Service Dominant who is always going to be in competition with your husband for your time, your love, your loyalty, will want to get something out of the deal and a hot body to play with seems like a reasonable trade, in my opinion.  You have a laundry list of what is acceptable to you, it's only fair the potential Drone have his own criteria.




Girl that is one fine and fabulous new pic you got.  yummy!

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/11/2008 3:43:17 PM   
DesFIP


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

All naked lady pictures should be forwarded to Pyrrsefanie's inbox, otherwise you are not a twue submissive.  Bonus points for being a trashy redhead or a trashy blonde.  I'm waiting.


Damn, what's a trashy brunette supposed to do?

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/11/2008 6:48:50 PM   
goodgirl08


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Status: offline 		Your body's not for the consumption of someone who doesn't respect you enough to wait until you're comfortable. In fact, it's not for anyone's consumption unless you want it to be. ;)

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/12/2008 8:06:34 AM   
MasterDarkSadist


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Status: offline 		It depends on how you feel, how he feels, and where you stand.  If you have been talking a lot in those 4 days, and have a connection, then it might be appropriate.

If you have exchanged a few e-mails, then maybe not. 

It might just be a test, as another said, of your submissiveness and interest in him.  You can dodge this by being polite, firm, and explaining yourself.  If he can't respect your explanation, then you need to find a different Dom. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/13/2008 7:38:20 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		There are a huge number of  shallow people in the world.

The shallow men make rude requests like "naked picture or nothing."

The shallow women usually:

1.  Ignore every man that is not tall, dark and handsome (or at least claiming they are)
2.  Rant against all the shmucks.

There are non-shallow people in the world, you just need to look for them.

The non-shallow women reply to all men that are not rude, ignore the shmucks (no, ranting against the many shmucks does not make you more attractive, particularly if you are submissive - a submissive woman is not a doormat, but she does not emphasize her angry size)

The non-shallow men send emails that do not make stupid requests/commands until they have earned submission.



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