Not to derail the thread but why would a dominant want his or her sub to fear them? If i had to use fear to dominate someone i would think i was lacking other essential skills. i would want someone who was obediant out of love not fear of me.
why the assumption that simply because fear of the Dom/Master is part of the dynamic that it is the sole or even primary motivation for obedience? why the assumption that one could not dominate without fear? not to say that this is not true for some....we've all seen enough lifetime movies to know that...but it's certainly not some sort of universal.
....fear= ?, interesting topic; for me its the fear of upsetting La Domme and maybe using a different word, the tension, stress, and maybe good apprehension when i genuinely surrender to Her as that inherently is a bit unnerving but in a very good way-- not fear of Her but feeling the vulnerability of being helpless to Her i guess-- not sure fear is the right word.....