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Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:17:37 PM

strangefruit

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So funny thing happened today and I'm going to share it with you fine folk.
I'm at the library typing something and I type REALLY fast and there's this guy sitting next to me and he's like "I need to borrow your fingers" and I'm like "What?" and then he explained why he said it and I laughed it off.

So I go back to my work and about an hour later he slides over this piece of paper and leaves and I open it and there is his number and name and a little message that says "when you have time..."

Of course I have no intention of calling him. Nice looking guy and all...but...I dunno.

Anyhow ladies and men is it weird to have someone hit on you that's on the outside of this lifestyle and you're very much 'into' it?
I can imagine him asking me "So what do you like to do for fun?"
"Oh..you know the usual...long walks in the park...though I'd prefer if I was attached to a leash and I had to call you Master..."

I don't even know HOW to approach a vanilla type encounter anymore, which I find hilarious.

Besides, I was with someone for nearly two years in a vanilla relationship and while there were good times (getting pregnant and having my daughter) for the most part...it was stifling.

I just can't do that again. I'm flattered...don't get me wrong.
And I'm glad that I wore my peek-a-boo-booby shirt.
But if I wanted someone just to be with someone I certainly wouldn't be here right?

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:25:16 PM

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I would call him and tell him that where you are flattered he most likely isn't your type. And then I would explain why.

I only say this because I feel for the guy it takes a lot to hit on a complete stranger, unless you do it all the time. If I had taken the time to put myself out there I would like to know why I was rejected sometimes knowing that my Cock is the wrong color makes the whole rejection thing mute which has happened to me a few times.

I say you find a payphone and call him and give him the low down on yourself what are the odds you will run into him again?

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:28:47 PM

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Well, to begin with, are you certain he's not? I mean, it's not like the overwhelming majority of us tend to wear a big neon sign that says "I like whips!" or something. ;) Then again, in a way, we might. It seems that subs and Dom/mes attract eachother, at least subconsciously. Certain presences about eachother, certain 'vibes' we put off, for lack of a better term. If nothing else, if you think he might be an interesting person, go out to lunch or something, get to know eachother, and, worst case scenario, you don't get along. Otherwise, maybe you end up with at least a good friendship, or more. Who knows? :)

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:36:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: strangefruit

Anyhow ladies and men is it weird to have someone hit on you that's on the outside of this lifestyle and you're very much 'into' it?

I just can't do that again. I'm flattered...don't get me wrong.
And I'm glad that I wore my peek-a-boo-booby shirt.
But if I wanted someone just to be with someone I certainly wouldn't be here right?

Unless you were wearing a shirt that said "do not hit on me unless you know how to swing a whip", i can't see why it would be weird in any way at all.

Someone found you attractive, and had the courage to do something about it, the only weird thing in that (to me) is that he actually HAD the courage to "go for it".

Personally i give the man kudos for having balls!

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:46:20 PM

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the guy had guts, most guys wouldn't have even risked what he did. i'd call him and at least give him a chance. maybe he's pervertable, lol!! then again, maybe he wants to hire you to type a paper for him. what have you got to lose, a few minutes of time? i'd call.
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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:52:51 PM

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Well the overwhelming response is to give the guy a call...so majority wins this round. *lol*
And you're right it did take alot of courage, now that I think about it. He might possibly be corruptable. Even though I'm not looking to corrupt anyone just yet.
I think the reason I even mentioned it was because of how I just tucked this part of me away conveniently for two years and it turned out to be a fluke for the most part. But that was then...this is now.

I'll say hello though.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:58:04 PM

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I think it's cool that you're going to contact him - I agree that the guy had courage to give you his number in a way that was to be surprising to you.

How many times do we wish to have an surprise moment from another - even if it's a stranger.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 12:59:53 PM

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Good. :) I wish you the best of luck with it. And take a pair of handcuffs with you just in case, you never know. ;) (I'm kidding... maybe...)

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 1:50:52 PM

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Yeah, i'd definitely give him a call......gotta give him points for making the approach. You never know..he might just be corruptable...and if nothing else you might make a really nice friend.

I can't tell you how many munches i've been to where the majority of the "dominants" can't/don't approach the submissives......... He might surprise you!

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 2:26:53 PM

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Oh hell, it does not bother me on bit. In fact, I will explore things a little to see if they are kinky or not, get a feel for what they are all about. After all, how do you honestly know for certain if they are not into the lifestyle or have one foot into the door. It's bad to assume that they are boring vanilla.

I've actually had a few girl's make some wrong assumptions about me before in the past, then later on go! Wow, if I had only known.

Keep an open mind, feel things out and talk a little before writting them off quickly. You might find out something or not.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 2:28:05 PM

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I agree with the general consensus, how do you know he's not totally into kink??? Maybe "borrowing your fingers" was his little teaser, I mean, my gutter mind can make that phrase dirty on several different levels.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 2:37:44 PM

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You're overinvesting in a twenty minute coffee break here. You've already jumped ahead to "OMG what if he isn't into what I am".

You don't even know if you can sustain an hour and a half dinner date. You don't know if there will be any chemistry leading to date two or three. And, as others have said, you don't know what he does or doesn't enjoy or fantasize about.

Start with a phone call and see if you can have one or if it's all dead air. Then coffee or lunch. Work your way up to dinner two or three only if there's sufficient interest to go there. With most dates there isn't. You may well come out of Starbucks saying you don't care if he's vanilla or not, you just aren't going to go there with this guy.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 5:24:42 PM

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Maybe he's totally into kink in such a manner that you've never experienced and would find really fun?

Mhm. How nice would that be?

/it "could" happen yah know!

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 7:14:09 PM

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wtf..she gonna call..and give the guy a chance...good for you..I found a sub once Thu a state chat room...we talked for months be for it hit me what she was...and all she said was..what took you so long to figure it out..like shit..I'm a mind reader or what? lol..subs and Dom's are where you find them..in parking lots,stores,camping,helping out with their kids activities...I will say this..I keep's myself power hooded ...it takes a special person to see it..I have kids to protect..but I find the really good subs after taking a second look can always see it...take that second look..You'll never regret it..Huntertn

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/11/2008 7:18:57 PM

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He had said to you - i need to borrow your fingers - maybe he wants to hire you for a typing job lol

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/12/2008 8:47:49 AM

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Sometimes when i get hit on (usually at wal-mart of all places), assuming that I have this part of me they'd never be able to handle makes me smirk. It gives me confidence and the ability to laugh instead of getting uncomfortable. Though I have scared a guy off who I worked with... he asked a personal question and I replied with something about bdsm (just a flirtatious hint though), and I got labeled as the freaky girl of the workplace, lol. So I usually don't divulge about bdsm when it's still all flirty. Unless I am trying to scare them off. Just wait though, some guy is going to hit on me, I'm going to mention something about bdsm and he's going to get even more turned on.. that'll be a pickle!

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/12/2008 9:01:07 AM

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So I go back to my work and about an hour later he slides over this piece of paper and leaves and I open it and there is his number and name and a little message that says "when you have time..."

I think it's absolutely sweet.

Frenchy didn't know he was a "lifestyle-sub" until I made him one. LOL. Seriously - we didn't spring from nowhere - we are all human beings, and capable of growing and developing and becoming - perhaps he is too, perhaps you are. Who knows? If he's cute and you talk to him and he seems like fun - have fun. When it stops being fun, stop doing it. It's all good.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/12/2008 9:03:08 AM

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Did he sit to your left?

When we were in college, we guys had a long-standing rule to always sit to the right of any pretty women. Why? Because of the way the buttons on women's blouses work, their tops always flopped open so that you could see more if you maneuvered to her left (face her and then sit directly to the right of her) than if you dumbly plopped down to her right.

Then, we'd stare (perhaps for hours) at the folds of her shirt to glimpse as much tit as possible (culminating in nipple) as she slumped over her books until she noticed (which didn't take too long after all) and we built the courage (libido builds courage quicker than liquor) to start the ask-her-out conversation (the courage is what took all the time)... ... ... ... ...

Just an historical side note on the time-honored profession of hitting up a gal in the university library ...
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RE: Is it weird? - 7/12/2008 9:13:09 AM

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if i wasn't in a relationship, i would call him however since i am, i have to remain flattered.

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RE: Is it weird? - 7/12/2008 10:15:09 AM

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You should have called him. I look like a librarian, that doesn't mean I cant be kinky. How can you be sure he wasn't just what you might be looking for if you dont ask? The man had the guts to bring it up, that is certainly something that too many men find PC now.
I once went to walmart in a shirt that says, "Its ok to flirt."
A nice looking stranger walked straight up to me blocking my path, reads it, pushes my chin up higher to look into his eyes, and said "This is flirting"
DANG! I could kick myself for not saying anything.
I blushed, looked away and giggled instead of realising that man got me to stop in my tracks. He controlled the situation. He was flirting!
LOL
What a lost opportunity.
My point is that you never know what is right in front of you. Pull off those glasses that look for stereotypical ideas of dominance.
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