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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 2:42:12 PM   
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Me also.


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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 2:42:30 PM   
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imagine being "afflicted" with the female version of "premature ejaculation"---in mutiples...like as soon as he LOOKS at it, or maybe puts it in and strokes twice, it's over..and over...and over...to exhaustion.  it has dissapointed many a vanilla man, in this slave's experience.


Why in the world would this disappoint a vanilla man? One might think he were quite the lover if his girl came and came and came. It might disappoint his next lover, if he really wasn't that good. But disappoint him? Does not compute.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 2:52:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		i orgasm mentally, from whips, from needles, from knives, from floggers, intercourse, starting to learn to do from nipple stimulation. they come quickly and easily. once they start they go into multiples. sometimes they are little, but it is easy to send me into heavier ones. like beth there are times it seems an affliction, and i envy those that can have enjoy the build up.

i know when they come, and go. it took me 6 months to learn to hold them 10 seconds. not alot of control. cant stop them. it really can bounce on your nerve. sometimes they sneak up on you when you least expect it.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 2:58:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		BAH!!!!  You people are KILLING me here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am a weeeeeeeeeee bit over 18 and have long past the 20's so we can not blame it on hormones....

i do wonder, though, if it is possible to be damaged enough or just orgasmically dysfunctional.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 2:59:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Smith117

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imagine being "afflicted" with the female version of "premature ejaculation"---in mutiples...like as soon as he LOOKS at it, or maybe puts it in and strokes twice, it's over..and over...and over...to exhaustion.  it has dissapointed many a vanilla man, in this slave's experience.


Why in the world would this disappoint a vanilla man? One might think he were quite the lover if his girl came and came and came. It might disappoint his next lover, if he really wasn't that good. But disappoint him? Does not compute.



at first, sure...but after awhile, they didn't tend to believe it had anything at all to do with them and their skill as "quite the lover", which, again, in this slave's experience, is a big turn-off.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 3:13:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		My mother wasn't able to have the big O in any way until she was over thirty... maybe close to thirty-five years old.  She had a boyfriend who knew what her problem was and from then on... she knew the big O.  I don't remember it all... but I think she had a hooded clitoris and it had to be moved back so that stimulation could be felt.  Doctors and other lovers never noticed anything different about her, but thankfully... someone who knew did and she finally got what she had been missing.  It is never too late... who knows when you will hit on the one thing that changes things for you... but never give up hope!

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 3:13:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		i orgasm anytime my mind is in the right place with minimal stimulation...if my mind is there then my body follows.   if my mind is in a negative place there is no way in hell i can orgasm, no matter what the stimulation is.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 5:42:39 PM   
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I always know when I've gone over the cliff, whether that cliff is at the top of the Grand Canyon or merely a step off the curb.

Cali




Yep, me too. 

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 6:13:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, I always know if I've had one.  Of course, I always have one via clitoral stimulation before we start the vaginal intercourse.  Mistress Nature has decreed that vaginal intercourse is extremely painful unless I have the orgasm first in order to relax my muscles and stimulate lubrication.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 6:51:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		If it's a little teeny 'o' I may run my hands over my breasts to see if my nipples hardened.  If they did ... then I did.  But usually it wasn't nearly enough, so I go back for more.... until I *know* that I did.  In the past, though, I may not have recognized it as such.  It took time and discovery to figure out the many different ways my body could orgasm.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 7:06:48 PM   
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imagine being "afflicted" with the female version of "premature ejaculation"---in mutiples...like as soon as he LOOKS at it, or maybe puts it in and strokes twice, it's over..and over...and over...to exhaustion. it has dissapointed many a vanilla man, in this slave's experience.


....what? have you ever met a man? how could this possibly be a disappointment.


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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 7:20:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm another who orgasms very easily. Not just at random but more often than not on the first penetration, and numerous times after. And I always know when it's happened. Some good advice here, but something as simple as remembering to breathe might also help, orgasms need oxygen. I used to play with another sub occasionally, our Masters were friends, and she had this problem, as soon as she got close she completely forgot to breathe. Her Master always had to remind her.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 7:52:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: variation30

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imagine being "afflicted" with the female version of "premature ejaculation"---in mutiples...like as soon as he LOOKS at it, or maybe puts it in and strokes twice, it's over..and over...and over...to exhaustion. it has dissapointed many a vanilla man, in this slave's experience.


....what? have you ever met a man? how could this possibly be a disappointment.



yes, this slave has "met" many men, so many she lost track, however, perhaps they were all boys, in retrospect...she was just as incredulous as you when she first heard it.
 
it has been this slave's vanilla experience that unless the man could take credit for it, he was disappointed.
 
if he thought for a minute that this slave was multi-orgasmic out of thin air, it was such a mind-fuck to his masculinity that he couldn't process it.
 
this slave has been called a "fake", "nymphomaniac", and "slut"(in a bad way) over it, for no justifiable reason whatsoever, other than ego deflation.
 
this slave met Master when she was 37 and He is the first man, vanilla or otherwise, with a positive attitude towards it...past a one night stand.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/11/2008 8:51:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
it has been this slave's vanilla experience that unless the man could take credit for it, he was disappointed.
 
if he thought for a minute that this slave was multi-orgasmic out of thin air, it was such a mind-fuck to his masculinity that he couldn't process it.


Okay, I'm trying to understand the phoenomenon so please bear with me.  I apologize if I phrase this badly. 
 
Do you orgasm without being particularly aroused or is it more that once you're "on" you orgasm easily and often?  If it's the latter, I confess I don't understand why the man would have an issue.  After all, if he didn't turn you on, you wouldn't be having any orgasms. 

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/12/2008 12:28:09 PM   
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...Do you orgasm without being particularly aroused...
 
yes.  sometimes spontaneously, with no mental stimulation either.
 
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...or is it more that once you're "on" you orgasm easily and often?... 

 
yes.  quickly, easily and often.
 
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If it's the latter, I confess I don't understand why the man would have an issue.  After all, if he didn't turn you on, you wouldn't be having any orgasms. 

 
actually, this slave got tired of it being such a big issue, and among a few others reasons, it is why this slave stopped dating vanillas.
 
it hasn't been a problem, since.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/12/2008 3:28:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
it has been this slave's vanilla experience that unless the man could take credit for it, he was disappointed.
 
if he thought for a minute that this slave was multi-orgasmic out of thin air, it was such a mind-fuck to his masculinity that he couldn't process it.


Sounds like you met some assholes. Not that I'm claiming I'm not an asshole, of course. I'm just not that kind of asshole. Sure, I would love to know it was me causing the orgasm. However, I'm on of those men whose orgasm is 10 times better in the middle of a woman's orgasm. So as long as she had one, I'd be ok.

As a matter of fact, the girl I lost my virginity to was one such lucky girl. Of course, predictably, I doubt she'd say lucky as my "first time" went nearly an hour because of nerves and such and she was orgamed out. The second and third times were much better, though.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/12/2008 4:21:35 PM   
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I question mainly for the women.  Do you ever come close to orgasm and then not know if you had one or not?  (This seems more common with little or no clitoral stimulation.)  Men typically ejaculate, so even if it wasn't a great orgasm they still know they had one.  I'm just wondering if anyone else sometimes wonder if they really had an orgasm or not.

If i didn't know if i had one or not then it's not an orgasm. There are many many types of orgasm i can have: dry, quick clit ones, long slower clit ones, internal abdominal orgasms, cerebral orgasms, g-spot wet ones and g-spot squirters, vaginal contractions, kundalini up my spine ones straight between the eyes, physical contact or long distance telepathic ones, white light reiki ones, and slow slow minsfucking tantric ones usually after a period of enforced chastity.
An orgasm with a man is different from an orgasm with a woman and self-stimulation is different than having an orgasm with/from another person. So multiply any of the above by three.
Each time i conceived a child those were different as well as i always knew i had been impregnated.



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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/12/2008 8:04:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes I always know which edge of the cliff I am coming down ... whether I went over or whether I am in retreat! Even though it may just be a molehill some days I still have that sense of relief. I would hazard a guess if I didn't know, I didn't. Though there are physical signs to look for and feel, hardened nipples, a flush of the skin of face and chest, palpitations of the vaginal wall etc.

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/12/2008 8:27:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		my mistress squirts 90 percent of the time when she cums and i LOVE  that she does  no faking that ...its kinda a pat on the back for me when she does that because it lets me know im doing something right to please her  and yes thats very important to me as well being a sub male  the lady has to have fun too  see we do other things besides strapon and her fisting me  she loves my tongue by the way  yes i have gotten her to squirt with my cock but she says my tongue is golden  when she squirts i try and swallow as much as she gives me ..sometimes it cums out so quick and unexpected though ..any fluid that cums from her i gotta lick up and swallow whatever she gives me because it came from her awesome body  female fluids are yummy indeed  love when my mistress ..my lady cums  mal

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RE: Female Orgasms - 7/13/2008 10:32:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Simple answer: Yes. There are times I'm not sure.  I've gotten overstimulated, and it gets to the point where anything more is painful, yet there's been no release...
 
Sometimes they are mindblowing things that make me spontanously begin crying.  Sometimes they're so exhausting I pass out within minutes. Sometimes they're more like an energetic sneeze or a minor itch that got a scratch.  Sometimes, I'm just not sure if they actually happened or not...
 
My orgasms tend to be somewhat sporadic.  My Owner is very positive and supportive of any darned thing I want to do, within our specific dynamic, to orgasm. Whether that's DP myself full of dildos six ways from Sunday, spend an while with a Hitachi Magic Wand (be careful: for some folks, myself included, they're awesome at first, but they really _can_  completely desensitise your clit for long periods of time - read: Weeks - from overstimulation), read porn for a while, sit in a video chat, watch porn for a while, or simply slowly and langorously suck his cock under his desk while he works.  He knows that I am happier and more relaxed in my role and responsibilities when I've had an orgasm. Previous partners tried, failed, and quit trying.  One of the things I love about him is his determination. :)
 
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