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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/18/2008 1:35:00 PM

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.perfect subs don't exist.

as people? no..but as food...yes...try mr sub, quiznos, subway...lots of perfect subs there.

Make mine a Quiznos....mmmmmmmmmm!

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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/18/2008 2:32:44 PM

faerytattoodgirl

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.perfect subs don't exist.

as people? no..but as food...yes...try mr sub, quiznos, subway...lots of perfect subs there.

Make mine a Quiznos....mmmmmmmmmm!

$5 at dinner time now too for a 12"...and there is no damn quiznos near me damnit!!

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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/18/2008 9:57:52 PM

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A Master is someone who has experience and is looked upon in the local BDSM community as an authority.

Not to disagree the rest of what you said as it was wise, however; a Master doesn't have to give a hooey about the local "community" or be a part of anything public, ever, to be a Master. You do need to be able to Master your slave, and possess and earn her. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. There are highly regarded people in the "community" who read lots of books about the subject, have lots of rules memorized, and such that can't control a submissive one.... A Master/slave relationship isn't about anything else but them, and is really a private affair..

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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/18/2008 10:52:57 PM

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thank you for all ur reply's, yes my spelling is not up to much because i am dislexic, so i find it hard on how to spell and some times say stuff that i know is correct in my head but comes out crap and horrible, this is not my excusie for my bad spelling its a part of who i am..

im going to take all the good and the bads from these repleys and hopefully they will make me undersatnd about the dom / sub world more

as for online only no im not married but i live with my parents so a live in sub would be hard when i only get a few hrs to my self each day

thanks you

Let me give you a quick lesson on SOME of what a Dominant is to me.

A Dominant is responsible to himself before anyone else. As such, he feels the twinge of disappointment before anyone else when he makes mistakes and does not forget or dismiss his error. He takes absolute responsibility and welcomes his lesson. A Dominant does not make excuses but finds solutions. He does it with wisdom and knowledge and never acts while lacking either. Dominants are constantly learning and developing their understanding.

A Dominant is not a Dominant sometimes, it is a defining feature of his personality and he could not change it even if he wanted to. He would never want to. A Dominant does not play Dominant he just is. If it's not natural than it's not you.

A GOOD Dominant, one who has the capability of becoming a Master, naturally understands what it takes to be a Dominant.While he may make mistakes and will always admit to making them and he may even need assistance at times he will not need assistance in the BASICS of what it takes to control a naturally submissive person. The first step to controlling is understanding the submissive mind.

Now, all of what I said to some will seem like I am saying you are not a Dominant. I am not suggesting this at all. I do not know anything of you. YOU know YOU. You decide what you are. If you decide that you are a Dominant, educate yourself, there are plenty of resources available. Drop the text messaging format of posting and use a spell checker. Take pride in your posts, it represents you in the absence of knowing anything else about you.

Dolf

P.S. In my use of the word Master I am referring to skill level not simply an owner of a submissive. You can be someone's Master but not be a Master of the art of BDSM or Ds.

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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/18/2008 11:11:14 PM

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RE: how to fine your perfect sub - 7/19/2008 1:28:42 PM

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Im new to being a master and on a few diffrent sites related to master and subs, but im finding it hard to find a slave to obey me and be loyal to me.

*laughs* join the club. Out of curiosity, did you think it was going to be easy to convince someone that you were such a stellar example of humanity that they would do best to put some or all of their life in your hands? Especially since you are talking what seems like TPE here, I'd assume that it would be very very hard to convince someone of this. It certainly would be for any sub that I'd actually want to have as my sub.

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Was wondering how did you find your slave and is she/he loyal and obey u at all times?

Where did I find her? Let's see... I found her in my living room. Gosh, the things you learn after 10 years of marriage.
Is she loyal? You could always go ahead and flame me and cc her on it *laughs*. That'd definitely clear up the whole loyalty thing.
Does she obey me all the time? Mostly. In the real world, total obedience is neither possible nor (in my mind) desireable. Yes, I encourage her to think for herself which means sometimes she disagrees with me. If that disagreement is strong, then there may be a moment in which obedience is not a given. That's fine by me. There's nobody forcing her to be my slave. If I can't convince her that my way is the best way, then I'm not much of a leader now, am I? Power is such an illusory thing. Influence, on the other hand, most definitely is not.

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