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Amaros -> RE: Trying to Understand Anal...please help. (7/14/2008 8:51:10 AM)
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The psychological componet of anal sex I think hugely outweighs the physical, there is a reason for the term "pucker factor" - it's really all about relaxation and releasing your "inner slut" as Michael suggests - to this end, definitley start with anal play, even by yourself if your partners don't have the patience or concern to coax it out of you rather than taking it.
Physically, if you think about it, it really isn't anything you aren't already used to - I took a dump the other day that I had to call a "John Holmes", and it didn't leave me weak kneed or anything - which it might have if I'd been dehydrated or something and you need to pay attention to your overall state - if you are dehydrated or prone to constipation, it's going to be more traumatic than if you aren't, so be aware of your general overall condition. You are in fact probobly more relaxed after a BM, and you might try enemas, as this is also a good way to both clean yourself out and insofar as penetration is concerned, is pretty unlikely to cause any trauma - it's also a perfectly socially acceptable thing, even though it is a common hard limit for some reason.
Which brings us back to the psychological - I think it releases a lot of buried psychological trauma in some people, Freudian potty training issues or something, and this is probobly what trigger the shame/infantilization thing, that we refer to as humiliation or submission - but it's just a head trip, and can probobly even be very cathartic if you have a lot of pent up inhibition in that area - the anus is the symbol of corruption, and the juxtaposisiton of anus and vagina represents heaven and hell symbolically: creation and destruction, the pure vs. the corrupt - these are very powerful symbols - which is why vannillas, particularly the religious ones, often react almost violently to the notion,. as they are often obsessed with the notion of "purity" and deeply, neurotically repelled by any symbol of "the world" - the imperfect physical world.
This arises from duallistic notions: the imperfect physical realm vs the "pure" realm of spiritual energy - the dualist concept is to reject the world, to withdraw from it's tempations, whereas the tantric principle seeks to reconcile matter and energy by embracing the world, in all of it's imperfection, which, try as you might, you really cannot escape anyway: the cycle of life, death and rebirth is inherent in physical reality.
The thing to remember is that in context, outside of Narcissistic dissociation, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar - there are dense and extensive nerve ganglia throughout the pelvic region including the anus, so in purely physical terms, for the less imaginative, it really is just an extention/expansion of your overall pelvic erogenous zones - for those like peacelili, there may be genuine physiological issues involved, but just take it slow, it's a journey, not a race.
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