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My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:30:16 PM

lovingmaster45

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I knew it would eventually happen; lee ann is gone. We had one last session 2 weeks ago. Her fiancee said he understood her need for me; but when she came home and found marks on her, he flipped. We talked and I told her the best thing for her right now was to make her vanilla relationship work (she is 5 weeks pregnant). She cried; but I had to let her go. It began over 3 years ago when Barb and I were having coffee at the Waffle House in King, NC. Now it is over. I miss her already. Finding a new "little girl" will happen; but now is time to heal.

Treasure all your time with each other; life sometimes gives us a nasty kick.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:36:32 PM

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i can think of nothing else to say here other then i'm truly sorry for Your loss. i hope time at least heals the wound though i know a scar will always remain.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:43:44 PM

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Just wanted say i am sorry for Your loss.. although it hurts terribly and probably will for along time, it was the best thing to do .
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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:46:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingmaster45
I miss her already. Finding a new "little girl" will happen; but now is time to heal.

Treasure all your time with each other; life sometimes gives us a nasty kick.

Nothing to add, just another empathetic soul wanting you to know your words were heard.

Take care, heal well.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:50:38 PM

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my best wishes for you all, and that you heal soon.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 1:56:56 PM

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Jerry,

You are right, now is a time to heal. My thoughts are with you.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 3:10:46 PM

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good luck to you Sir. it was very unselfish of you to let her go knowing you care. that shows the depth of your feelings.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 3:12:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingmaster45

I knew it would eventually happen; lee ann is gone. We had one last session 2 weeks ago. Her fiancee said he understood her need for me; but when she came home and found marks on her, he flipped. We talked and I told her the best thing for her right now was to make her vanilla relationship work (she is 5 weeks pregnant). She cried; but I had to let her go. It began over 3 years ago when Barb and I were having coffee at the Waffle House in King, NC. Now it is over. I miss her already. Finding a new "little girl" will happen; but now is time to heal.

Treasure all your time with each other; life sometimes gives us a nasty kick.

*HUG*

This must be a very very sad time for you.

You have my sympathy and hopes that you are healed and ready you will find another partner.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 3:28:37 PM

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As much as its sad alas she is also pregnant and I feel if you did not leave marks on her body yuo would stil be playing.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 4:11:49 PM

themischievous1

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I'm sorry. I'm hoping you and your little girl will heal quickly and still maintain an incredible friendship in the future. My thoughts are with the both of you.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 7:31:08 PM

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G'day Jerry,

I agree with you, now is the time to heal and keep those memories treasured.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 7:42:45 PM

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I am sure you don't need anymore "therethere's", and "I'm sorry for your loss", and what not, so I will interject a bit of re-al-ity.

If anyone is involved with a married partner, and that partner is not married to you.........what possible conclusion be come to but "the end"?

Regardless of who knows what is going on, or what pre arrangements have been made........the delusion that a "play partner" belongs to anyone but her husband is bound to end badly.

Sure......there is the pain of the loss. But think about it.......what did you really expect?

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/12/2005 7:52:16 PM

LadyHibiscus

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I agree, unless there is a poly arrangement, how can married liaisons last?

Still, it is wonderful that you let the girl go on to her other life, and focus on being a new mother and wife. Who knows what the future will hold for all of you?

Ms Francine

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 4:55:32 AM

lovingmaster45

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quote:

If anyone is involved with a married partner, and that partner is not married to you.........what possible conclusion be come to but "the end"?

Regardless of who knows what is going on, or what pre arrangements have been made........the delusion that a "play partner" belongs to anyone but her husband is bound to end badly.

Sure......there is the pain of the loss. But think about it.......what did you really expect?

Here is a shocker for you... even married relationships end, We don't enter into them planning for the end; eventhough we know there is a 50/50 chance it will happen.

I have a sub (marie) who came to me when she was 16; I took her to her first public play party at TES for her 18th birthday. She is now 23, married, and her hubby not only understands her relationship with me; he encourages it. When my sub cindy decided sshe wanted a one-on-one man who could help her raise her son, she and I found Tom at a sex club. She figured that was a good place to find a man who could "keep up" with her. She would not accept his ring until he watched me scene with her. Barb, Tom, cindy and I went to a Gummi party in Raleigh (the last one) and he got to watch me do a public scene with her. She passed out from her orgasms. He then understood our relationship and that it was NOT a threat to what the two of them would have with each other. They are now one of two couples Barb and I swing with. We are all great friends; so, YES, it can work..

I will continue to be good friends with lee ann; I just will not play with her anymore because her soon-to-be hubby cannot deal with it.

Of course none of this changes her true nature; therin lies the problem for future conflict.

I am sure this site is loaded with people with both dom and sub desires that drive them crazy when those desires are not met. I feel your grief because I was in a vanilla marriage for a very long time and tried to get my kink on the side with a spouse who just did not want to hear about it. Not the way I wanted to spend the rest of my life. I left after children were all adults. Life is now very good; and yes, she and I are still friends.

Thanks for all the support. I have no idea why I even posted; it just felt good to do it.

Jerry

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 5:21:56 AM

GlobalSkulls

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Where were the marks on her body?
Im sorry to tell you but I feel the same as imtempting. Your as much to blame.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 5:32:20 AM

candystripper

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i too feel badly for You, Sir. Losing someone You love is such sorrow. However, i cannot help but point out it may have been unsafe to play so "hard" with a woman who is 5 months pregnant. i can understand the reaction of her mate.

In any event, my heart goes out to You.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 5:35:53 AM

BeachBear

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My condolences. I hope that the pain heals soon.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 6:34:57 AM

Onknees5858

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quote:

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to play so "hard" with a woman who is 5 months pregnant.

Even if I dont agree playing with a pregnant woman, it has been specified 5 WEEKS pregnant not 5 MONTHS pregnant.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 6:49:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Onknees5858

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

to play so "hard" with a woman who is 5 months pregnant.

Even if I dont agree playing with a pregnant woman, it has been specified 5 WEEKS pregnant not 5 MONTHS pregnant.

glad your the one that had corrected the mistake.and glad that i read all the way down

i wont bother to point out that some people do not consider marks that stay for days as hard.....those in their mindset are permament marks........
now back to the OP.

SIr, sometimes just getting the feelings off your chest and into the open can make for a better sense of closure...................

< Message edited by fyreredsub -- 11/13/2005 6:52:00 AM >

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 7:05:23 AM

OscarHargraves

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I have been thru almost the exact same thing. I truly feel sorry for you but know this: You did well and treated her with true respect. It takes a bigger man to encourage her and help her leave and a true Dom to know when to do this; even if it hurts him deeply.

Good luck in all you do. You can be proud of what you have done here.

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