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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 9:35:35 AM

candystripper

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My apologies for misreading the Op as "five months pregnant" rather than "5 weeks". i'm still not sure that playing "hard" is alright; and i cannot imagine how she'd ask an ob/gyn...but if it were me, i'd want to be sure there was no chance of damaging the baby.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 10:53:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenofPK
Regardless of who knows what is going on, or what pre arrangements have been made........the delusion that a "play partner" belongs to anyone but her husband is bound to end badly.

That's not necessarily true at all.

For a personal example, my Bostons partner's wife has been with another man as her dom for over 3 years now and going strong.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 12:32:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

That's not necessarily true at all.

For a personal example, my Bostons partner's wife has been with another man as her dom for over 3 years now and going strong.

Irrelevant.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 12:37:36 PM

HeavenlyCeleste

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How very sad. If it were I could give you a hug! May your heart heal quickly and allow you the opportunity to move forward.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 1:08:12 PM

slavejali

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Good luck with moving on Sir - i think this is why i would never be involved in a poly relationship...i see pain and hurt in the future..for someone..and i dont want that person to be me or anyone i love...so i wouldnt put myself in the position of setting myself up for that....and id like to add though, im sure it works for lots of people and i accept that..im just talking for me personally.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 2:45:52 PM

felineone

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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves

I have been thru almost the exact same thing. I truly feel sorry for you but know this: You did well and treated her with true respect. It takes a bigger man to encourage her and help her leave and a true Dom to know when to do this; even if it hurts him deeply.

Good luck in all you do. You can be proud of what you have done here.

This is how i feel too. You, Sir, showed Honor and Strength in letting her go, perhaps having to nudge her a bit as well.
And i was waiting for the remarks about the pregancy and marks and marriage. If all knew about it, all are consenting adults, and no one here should judge them.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/13/2005 3:14:21 PM

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I understand why you let her go but I wish there was some way you could mentor her husband. I think she would be better off with you then her nasty vanilla sounding (from how you described him) husband, who does not care enough about her to educate himself or even try to fulfill her need. As much as I feel bad for you I feel even worse for that poor little girl , just pregnant ,very emotional and abandoned by her daddy. **sad**

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 6:06:04 AM

SirBuff

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Hello Jerry:
I know that you hurt. But as a good Master you did what was best for your submissive.
That knowledge alone should help you heal. Right now it may not,,,, but soon I hope it does.

A good Dom or Master makes the hard decisions. The ones where the health, the needs, and what is best for the submissive MUST be made. This is the Right thing to do,, What The Good Ones MUST do,, even though it causes Them pain.

This is the Life of a Good DOM/Master. Walk Tall and Proud Brother, Good Thoughts go with you.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 9:10:21 AM

orfunboi

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i'm so sorry for your loss, things like this hurt all involved, but time does heal, i wish you happiness in your future.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 9:18:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenofPK

I am sure you don't need anymore "therethere's", and "I'm sorry for your loss", and what not, so I will interject a bit of re-al-ity.

If anyone is involved with a married partner, and that partner is not married to you.........what possible conclusion be come to but "the end"?

Regardless of who knows what is going on, or what pre arrangements have been made........the delusion that a "play partner" belongs to anyone but her husband is bound to end badly.

Sure......there is the pain of the loss. But think about it.......what did you really expect?

quote:

Her fiancee said

i'm not sure what married has to do with it....He said "Her fiancee"

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 11:15:32 AM

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having sat here and read thru each and everyones replies to this. It can leave one to see each has their own ideas on the situation. i see a Master, a caring Master who loved and cared for his sub. i also see that he allowed her to seek a vanilla life style as well. and in doing so she met someone that she felt she needed as well as her Master. it's a confusing world out there when we live in both and not just the one.

i lived a true life as a slave for a very long time. and my Master pretty much forced me into a vanilla life style when he insisted on kids. after which he then decided to give up the life of a Dom to live a vanilla life style. upon doing so, out relationship began it's downhill spiral. leaving me with 2 kids to raise as a single mom.

i can only hope that the life she has decided to take is what she truly desires. and that it works out for her. i'm sad to see that what seems as a very caring Dom could let go such a prize but can see why at the same time. that's what makes him who he is. they took the moments they had together and lived them.

i hope they both can be happy with the choices they both made. and not try to ever forget but remember...................

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 3:26:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u
i'm sad to see that what seems as a very caring Dom could let go such a prize but can see why at the same time

I don't get why everyone is praising him for letting her go. He had no choice. What would he do. Tie her up and keep her. Only a fool would think he did not argue or try to convince her to stay or try to talk him into letting her play.

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RE: My "little girl" is gone - 11/19/2005 11:43:30 PM

truesub4u

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we only know what he wanted us to know and we repsonded to what we were allowed to know. no one knows the whole story but the 3 involved.

either way, it's always a sad time when you lose one you have loved in your own way... be it a mutual parting or not.

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