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ORIGINAL: bipolarber

Call it what you like: rape, ravishment, being forced... it all adds up to someone taking the control and the initiative. I can think of several reasons why these sorts or games are so "hot":

1. It lets you set aside all that "making love" crap, and get down to some serious fucking.

2. The sub gets to be objectified. And what sub doesn't enjoy that sort of thing?

3. It gets you out of the bedroom, and having sex in new and interesting places... in the kitchen, on the floor of the garage, on the hood of the car, in piles of afore-mentioned laundy, in the basement of that place you are house sitting, the steam tunnels at the university... basically anywhere that is dark, isolated and a little tawdry...

4. You can resist, and that gets the muscles working, and the adreniline pumping.

5. It lets you vent some "violent feelings toward your partner" issues in a safe way, without doing something that could net you 10 to 20 years in a pen.

6. There's that whole "physical conquest" thing that is lurking inside our skulls. Literally, it feeds that feeling to dominate that comes from prehistory. (The ol' drag 'em back to the cave by the hair" routine.)

7. As a sub, being completely out of control on things, gives you perfect lisence to do things you'd love to try, but are frankly too damn scared to. (My first strap-on scene, god knows how many years ago, was a mock rape scene.)