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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/14/2008 9:07:14 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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Status: offline 		yes.  i was new to the life style and yet very obedient so i was left with extremely mixed emotions. a little shocked to be handed over and so unexpectedly and we had never discussed it and i was newly collared to boot.  it was not a sexual experience but i had to teach the man flogging101 from the receiving end and i was left alone to coach him through. he did very well and i managed to tell him about subspace and how long to keep me there just before i fell into it.  afterwards and to top it all off,  i was feeling a sense of devotion to him even though i wasn't even remotely attracted to him at all.  this honestly didn't set very well with my owner.  it was a very confusing time for me.   you'll hear it time and time again, the key ingredient to any successful relationship of course is communication.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 6:13:48 AM   
chamberqueen


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Joined: 10/25/2007
From: Kalamazoo, MI
Status: offline 		I appreciate the honest answers.  In my case, I knew it might come at some point but the night it happened was a complete surprise.  My Master stayed for a short time; the man he brought stayed about 8 hours.  It was mostly sexual service and accepting a spanking.

Being the first time I had a lot of mixed emotions.  When it became a threesome for a short time I found that exciting; it was something my Master had promised to me months before.  Once He left I just concentrated on being pleasing to Him by doing my duty.  There were moments when it felt humiliating (thinking of how my colleagues would feel if they knew I had been "given" as a birthday present), complimented (I am my Master's only slave but not His only sub, so He must have felt there was something special about me to have chosen me for this task), surprised - especially when I found out that the man expected to be a Dom to me, proud of my skills (he was very complimentary), and a little scared about what it meant for my future relationship with my Master.

My Master and I talked the next day and I got more details.  He was very proud of me for my willingness to please Him, the "giving" of me was definitely not permanent though I will be expected to regularly service this other Dom, but my Master will never allow Him to visit me without His knowledge.  I am to turn Him away at the door if my Master has not told me that He is coming. 

My emotions were more mixed after the fact.  It is one thing to read about certain BDSM practices and know the duty of a "good" slave; another to actually go through the emotions of it for the first time.  While there are those that would just say, "suck it up - you're a slave", the fact is that as humans we do think and feel.  It is great if it is all explained in advance but that doesn't always happen.  I did a lot of soul searching to decide whether I was even on the right path; if this fit in at all with fulfillment in my life.  The answer was much easier when I realized that my Master cares for me more than ever.


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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 6:51:52 AM   
CyberDom08


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Status: offline 		You will find that most people with a ton of post's are very sarcastic and offer little to answer the question at hand. Although the Lady is always helpfull in pointing out past post's and sometimes times has great advice, she too has her moments.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 7:48:33 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		It has happened to me in a previous relationship.  I totally hated it and would never do it again.  Now the wonderful Master i have now will not and does not share what belongs to him.  Worked out good because not being shared is one of my hard limits.  Not saying there is anything wrong with it, it is just not for me.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 12:16:19 PM   
batshalom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

I will be expected to regularly service this other Dom, but my Master will never allow Him to visit me without His knowledge.  I am to turn Him away at the door if my Master has not told me that He is coming. 

My emotions were more mixed after the fact. I did a lot of soul searching to decide whether I was even on the right path; if this fit in at all with fulfillment in my life.  The answer was much easier when I realized that my Master cares for me more than ever.



I would probably be having panic attacks and be in some kind of depressive episode because I equate sex with love (especially if it's long-term) and it would make me feel like my Dom was giving my love away. One-time service is one thing, but this is a whole different matter. I wish you the best cq - good job on the soul-searching and communication.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 12:46:54 PM   
Mercnbeth


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I've never given beth away but I've often let others borrow her. In fact it occurs quite frequently. In fact it is occurring later today and will span the next 10 days. her family back east will have access to her and her services. I've instructed her to serve them as she would serve me and grant every request short of those which would cause her permanent physical and/or mental harm.

It is not an easy thing for either of us to go through but since its been almost a year and I have business prohibiting me from leaving SoCal, I'm insisting she make the trip now.

In this case, as in those times I've let others borrow her for 'demos', photo model, and other activities; she is still ultimately in my service. Unlike those occasions though this one puts distance between us. I'd much prefer lending her out locally; and the length of time in this case is a major exception.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 1:06:46 PM   
blueskyboy


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Status: offline 		been loaned for service a few times...but way more happened...must be that i become more attractive when  painting :) ..maybe it is the fumes - i didn't feel funny at all...we discussed no rules of behavior before hand...but some that she considers her bff will take the opportunity if given a window...i am not about to tell and start something ...no no
but don't think she minds and have to admit that confidence is hotter than jealousy in my book...i always come back

who knows, maybe she sets it all up -

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 1:51:26 PM   
opposingtwilight


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Status: offline 		Yes, though not for sexual service. I was scared and nervous but it was a good experience. I'd do it again.


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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 6:27:48 PM   
tucsongirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

ROFL answer a question literally and see what you get :)  All you subs claim to care about precision and service but you can't even ask good questions!

Cadre of slaves?  Sounds nice on the surface...



Personally, I care much more about respect and manners than precision.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 6:36:44 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: tucsongirlie
Personally, I care much more about respect and manners than precision.

Suppose someone were to hijack a thread to talk about their personal emotional reaction to something, instead of clicking on links provided to learn more information, or adding to the content of the discussion through their personal life experience.  In that hypothetical situation, would you consider that person's behavior respectful and well-mannered?


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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/15/2008 6:41:57 PM   
shadowcd


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Status: offline 		I have only thought about being given away for a nite or loaned out :P  everyone i've been with has been far to possesive to share me though.   maybe someday though.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/17/2008 11:30:03 AM   
tucsongirlie


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Status: offline 		Defending the OP is not something I would consider rude, but you're right, continuing to defend sarcasm is a good example of impolite threadjacking.  

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/18/2008 5:21:40 PM   
sfdrew


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Status: offline 		I haven't been loaned out yet but there are some plans in the works. Mistress would never lend me out for sexual service and to honest I wouldn't want Her to anyways. I have already been used as a practice dummy for a few new Domme and Mistress has been liking the idea of lending me to a friend to clean their house while She is with another man. There is also some talk  about being lent out to another Domme to shot a video.

All in all I find the concept extremely hot because it degrades me to the level of property and not a human being. I think every D/s couple dynamic is different and you just have to decide for yourselves what is best. Communication is key.

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RE: Has anyone been given away? - 7/18/2008 5:32:39 PM   
TheEvilBstardsMo


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Status: offline 		I have been given away twice. 

Both different types of experiences.  One was a GREAT time as I was sent to play with another Master (as his birthday present) and his slave.  I was super nervous, but it all worked out just fine.  Another time, I was given to Master's friend.  This was not as much fun but I was happy to please my Owner.  So, the first time, it was pleasurable for me, too; the second, my pleasure came from pleasing my Owner.


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