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ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

i've always preferred giving oral to receiving it, though if the man knows what he is doing it is definitely pleasurable.  If he doesn't, welllllll it is all i can do to grit my teeth and get through the ordeal without screaming at him to knock it the f**k off. 
Afterwards is the option of either being honest and trying to give polite helpful hints as to how to make it pleasurable, or i can do everything i can to avoid it.    i think i'll take the honesty route if needed in the future.

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ORIGINAL: PanthersMom

never liked receiving it.  it brings up memories and feelings i would rather never experience again, so i avoid it completely.
PM

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ORIGINAL: DomKen
Men aren't born knowing what feels good to the female anatomy. I can't imagine how frustrating it must have been to my lovers before one woman showed me exactly what she liked and disliked.

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ORIGINAL: cjan

I love eating pussy so much that I wouldn't/couldn't be with a woman who didn't enjoy receiving it, or was at least open to exploring if she could enjoy it. I realize that some women have had various negative experiences and would , of course, respect her wishes, but I enjoy it too much to be denied the pleasure of doing it.

Btw, I also realize that some peeps see giving oral pleasure as an act of submission. With the exception of , say skull fucking, I don't see it that way. D/s , to me, is much more about power exchange than any physical or sexual activity. My

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

Around this time last year I posted a “holiday gift” to dominants in a thread and shared some helpful hints on how a dominant might go about exploring his sub’s kinkier side.  I thought I’d continue the tradition and offer up some unsolicited advice that may or may not be of use, but might not otherwise be as freely given.  This year, I thought I'd broach the subject of cunnilingus.

Bear in mind that I’m hardly an expert on all women and the best source for information for what the woman in your life likes would be her… however, I’ve heard enough complaints and have had enough experience in my own past that I feel I can give some fairly decent suggestions.  At least a few that might be applicable to some women, anyway.  

Probably the foremost thing I could recommend to men is to consider what feels good for you.  Men and women are a lot more alike than you might think… in some respects, anyway.    

Too often men give the impression that they believe that it should only take mere moments of stimulation to bring a woman to orgasm.   

*lick, lick, insert finger, suck, lick*  Why isn’t she screaming in ecstasy yet?  

While that may be true in certain cases where a woman is already extremely aroused, with some hyper-sensitive women, or for porn flicks… for the most part women are going to take just as long as any man would take in a similar state of arousal.     

The next time she gives you a blow job, time it to see how long it takes you to reach orgasm.   Then, give her at least the same amount of time if she needs it.  

Next bit of advice would be to start off slow and with a gentler touch.  You can always increase sensation, but it’s hard to restore arousal to your girl if you’ve attacked her clit with teeth right off the bat.   

That is, if you can pry her off the ceiling.  

Think about what would feel good to you if your girl was to give you a hand job from a semi-flaccid state.  Would you want her to grab you and just start yanking?  Or would some soft strokes and gentle rubs be a better way to get your motor going?  

Of course, with a masochist sub your warm up might involve a flogger or a single tail.    

Also, just like men, most women reach orgasm through the same kind of process… ever increasing speed and pressure.  A steady pace will get her there, but it will take a lot longer.  

The final two pieces I feel halfway comfortable in giving are just general information.   First, the clitoris is not an equal opportunity organ.  There are places on the clitoris that are more sensitive than others… “hot spots”, if you will.  I’ve read that generally the most sensitive part of the clit for women is in the “one o’clock” position... that is, if you are facing a woman’s genitalia, the area on the side of the clit that would be at “one o’clock” on a clock face.  I don’t know how prevalent the “one o’clock” hot spot is, though… my own is at eleven.   

Finally, variety is generally not a friend to women.  It may seem a bit boring to you, but if you keep changing up what you are doing (licking to sucking to stroking, etc.), it’s going to take a lot more effort and a lot more time to get her off.  Find the sweet spot and stick to it… don’t stop the stimulation.  Women do not reach a “point of no return” like men do and when stimulation stops, ground is quickly lost.  

Best wishes and happy holidays to all!

Treasure

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Treasure, thanksfor posting this again, its great advice.
My own is at one oclock:) altho 11 is a close second, grins
Lucy

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ORIGINAL: patwi


*laugh* How about it, men? Have you ever gone down on a woman, then got a good close look at the thighs/belly/ass/whatever and thought "Well that's not entirely pleasant.  I think i've changed my mind."

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ORIGINAL: patwi

*laugh* How about it, men? Have you ever gone down on a woman, then got a good close look at the thighs/belly/ass/whatever and thought "Well that's not entirely pleasant.  I think i've changed my mind."

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ORIGINAL: L8bloomer
So ladies...have any of you not enjoyed having it performed on you and then, at some point, turned into a convert?