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tsatske -> RE: Punishment... (7/17/2008 7:12:39 PM)
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I tried starting a thread on here once which I could not seem to express what I was trying to say -
Some of the things being mentioned here, I call 'nuclear bombs'. They are BIG, in a way not corpreal punishment could EVER be. They can do lasting damage to the trust, if used indescriminently.
I mean things like, being ignored, ect.
I won't include 'the look of disappointment', or that kind of thing, because assumeing you have a good, honest relationship, that seems to be something he is not in control of, not something he is meeting out, just a real, true fact of life.
But not being spoken to, being ignored, being told not to touch, ect. Does anyone know what I mean when I say, 'nuclear bombs'?
I am not saying they NEVER have a place, just that they should be rarer than hen's teeth. Master has done such a thing to me ONCE. Before we were living together, I called him each night, one of the first questions was always, 'what was your sugar?' and 'Did you take your meds tonight'? One evening, my answer was, 'not yet', though it was well past the time I should have. He said, 'Hang up, go take your medicine, I will talk to you tommorrow'. It was crushing, it was horrible - it was also warrented.
But if such a thing is overused - i think it can be very damaging.
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