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tttdawg -> Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:09:14 PM)

Nothing I say can ever get a reply for dommes I write to...Is there something specific I am missing?



LadyAngelique01 -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:13:59 PM)

Putting a little more time and effort into your profile would help. I looked at it, there isn't anything there that would make me want to learn more. My typicl approach when I get a message is to go to the persons profile a see if I have anything in common with them. Then I decide if I'm going to respond. The more mail I get the less likely I am to answer one where there isn't any common interests.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:15:34 PM)

Your profile is devoid of anything interesting and your picture says two things: you are not comfortable with who you are and you're very focused on your looks to get what you want. I'd not respond.

Put up a normal, vanilla picture...a head shot is preferable, but people use full body shots of them in every day life.
In your profile, include the following:
Some simple facts about you and your every day life, such as hobbies and such.
What you're looking for exactly, as near as you can state it.
What you have to offer.

Also, do a search about improving profiles using the search link in the top right corner of this page. The subject has come up a lot.

Master Fire



HeavansKeeper -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:22:26 PM)

T3 Dog,

Arms crossed is an universal symbol of resistance and aggression.  It's often subconscious to assume that about people.  It could be why dominants are seen that way more often.

Your body type (or mine) doesn't mesh well with that look.  We're teddy bears, and should embrace that, not fight it. 

Also, it could be the spelling of "dawg".  Some people consider it hardcore and gangsta'.  Others consider it a kink spelling for human dogs, much like the spelling of "boi".  Others, myself included, think it just looks stupid, as even Snoop Dogg doesn't use it.



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:27:06 PM)

i doubt very much thats his pic anyway.  its fake and looks cut out of something.



Griswold -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:29:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i doubt very much thats his pic anyway.  its fake and looks cut out of something.


It's my pic.





tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:35:52 PM)

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals. I'm gonna think about exactly what I want to put in my profile that is worth giving a second look!



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:35:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i doubt very much thats his pic anyway.  its fake and looks cut out of something.


It's my pic.




?
shouldnt you be in panties then? [8|]



tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:39:05 PM)

P.S.

That is 100% me.

And as far as my profile name, it is just laziness keeping me from creating a whole new profile, but i'm beginning to think I should.



chiaThePet -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:50:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: tttdawg

Is there something specific I am missing?


It's your head dawg, it's missing.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

You've been here quite a while, maybe getting in on some of the discussions
here will give you some needed exposure.

Or, since I am uncollared, don't pay attention to a word I've said.

chia* (the pet)



tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:56:02 PM)

Haha I'm actually really good looking...

I mean I'm completely willing to send the whole picture(s) to someone, but on a private level ya know.

I think I just need to revamp the whole thing.


p.s. I've seen plenty other profiles with no head!



HeavansKeeper -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 6:59:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tttdawg

I've seen plenty other profiles with no head!


It's true - and that's why I didn't dawg you for it.  You're not invested to this account name.  I'd reroll. 



blackrosegoddess -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 7:25:06 PM)

For me its not just your picture or the fact that your profile is void of much usefull info.
Yes, the pose is a little bit of a " Dunno if i want to play with this one" look. Yet, it is casual like. So, because I know a ton of men who are very submissive that hate thier pictures taken, I can completely understand the arms crossed stance.

For me its the substance of the messages sent to me. Try to engage the domme/dom in conversation. Don't be too forward, but be observant. See what you would have in common with that person and ask what they think on a specific aspect of it ( a certain toy or method of domination). Be creative. Don't try to be another letter in thier inbox. Yet, dont be completely over the top either. Find a middle ground. If they like masks, ask what kind of masks they prefer or what is thier favorite way to use them.



tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 7:38:59 PM)

Thanks for the advice.

=)



MsStarlett -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:09:22 PM)

Hmmm.... Can't believe you've been on this long and never posted to the message boards or filled out your profile. Did you join... then leave for a long time and come back?  It sort of makes you look like an off and on kind of person.  Personally, I would be afraid that you were one of those guys that would go *poof* on me.  I hate that.

As for the photo, its not bad... just has a rather odd quality to it that I can't quite put my finger on.  Not just the crossed arms, it's the lack of back ground that does kind of make it look like it was cut out of a magazine.  Get a friend to take a photo for you.  You don't need to have your face it in.  That's fine.  You may feel free to look at my profile to see that FOUR of my male friends do not have faces shown... One of those is my favorite Westie and I took the photo he's using at the end of our first session.  Photos are not 100% necessary if you can find a way to connect with a Domme on a different level.  But they do help!

Honestly, if you can get someone who is GOOD with a camera to take your pic, it will pay off for you.  In my not so humble opinion - the absolute HOTTEST - I'm talking Smoking Hawt photo - that I've seen on CM is here:
http://www.collarme.com/photos/tn/tn_20724p02.jpg    <- No face!  I've spoken to the gentleman in the photo and he said his photographer is a professional.  It shows, big time!

Just take some time and fill out your likes and dislikes.  If you can't remember how to get there, I'll go look and remind you how to get to that section.  (I forgot where it was after I had been here a couple of months and had to go back and change it.  No biggy if you don't remember where things are!) 

You can leave the "Hannibal Lector" reference.  I thought that was amusing.  But, you gotta remember, I'm a horror movie nut and got it.  Not all females will. 

As for why the Dommes don't write back... Do you mean never respond to your first note?  Or do you start writing back and forth and then they stop for no known reason?



tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:21:02 PM)

No I've sorta just always been a troll on this site (took it half seriously).
But now I'm genuinely interested.



tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:22:22 PM)

Usually they won't answer on the first note.



TNstepsout -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:32:36 PM)

I got a message a few days ago from a guy with a similar nondescript nic, no pic and not much of a profile. His message was pretty uninteresting as well, just a list of statistics. I responded back to him "generic nic, generic profile, generic email, is there anything about you that is not generic?" That's the problem with everything about your profile.  I know you say the pic is you, but it appears to be a stock pic used to represent  you on the forums.  So really there is just nothing to go on. Would you choose a product in the grocery store that just said "CEREAL"? Don't know what flavor, what's in it, what it's made of, if it's delicious, nutritious or tastes like crap?  Well that's exactly what you have done here with the approach you have chosen.

When I get emails from guys with profiles like yours I just ignore them. I figure if they haven't taken the time to write a REAL profile, they probably are just here for kicks and are not really serious. After all, if someone wants me to take the time to get to know him and invest myself in a relationship, he can at least take the time to write a proper profile.

As far as your pic is concerned, I really don't like head cut off shots. It always makes me think the person is a bit shady or hiding something. It just feels that way. There are many ways you can include a photo that gets across some sense of who you are without showing your face. Maybe outdoors doing something you love, but from behind or head turned, or a silhouette, or maybe be playful and silly and put on a funny mask... I'm also not much into chest shots, it always seems kind of cheesy to me. (but that's just me)





tttdawg -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:35:55 PM)

http://img2.freeimagehosting.net/image.php?721b0fd076.jpg

See its me.

Haha now can we end the notion that, thats a stock photo?

I only did the chest shot to show that I'm not some obese person and that I actually take care of my body.



MsStarlett -> RE: Shitty luck or just bad writer? (7/16/2008 8:41:32 PM)

Well... See?  Now you've got a half dozen of us talking to you.  Way better odds when you post to the boards.  I started talking to my sweet BlackPearl here... then his life got complicated and he went *poof*.  Did I mention how much I hate that?  *sigh*  [:(]

Anyway... What are you saying in those initial contact notes?   Just "Hi.  You're beautiful.  I want to lick you ass."  ???  (I get that a lot and men have no clue why that doesn't have me falling all over them.)  Do you pull that "i'm so subbie and me life is YOURS" crap?   Hate that also.  You don't know me on a first contact... why would anyone want to submit to a total stranger?  Do you start off making demands, no matter how veiled?   Like "I want to talk to you, my Yahoo is XXXX.  Have a cam and will do anything for you."  That's like demanding one-on-one dedicated attention right off the bat without saying anything to get a person interested.  You don't strike me as the type to write your whole life history on the first note... so I won't mention how dull that is either.

A first contact note should at least SOUND like you've read her profile.  Mention something that you saw in the profile that you have in common.  Some REASON - other than "You're Hawt" that you wanted to speak to the woman.  Hell!  Act like you're in a bar.  That's what it all comes down to.  Hokey 'opening lines' like "Did it hurt when you fell down from heaven?" kind of crap will get you no where.  "Hi.  I'm a nice guy who likes *fill in the blank*, I notice that you do also." will get you much farther. 

You will also notice if you read lots of FemDom profiles that most of us have gotten to the point that we have a list of things that make us angry.  PAY ATTENTION!  We don't put those things on the profile for fun.  Those things will tick us off and get you blocked. 

Ugh, now I'm getting all long winded again.  Anyway, it's a lot of work to get noticed.  You have to realize that every FemDom gets flooded with notes from subs.  You have to find your own way to shine.  Find whatever it is that makes you Unique and put it out there.  Good Luck!



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