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Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 5:00:13 AM

MsStarlett

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We get lots and lots of posts from s/Males wondering why the D/Fems do not respond to their messages. You may think that we are all flooded by messages from our 'adoring fans'. While there are plenty of those, the mail is not always nice.

For example, I woke up to this lovely note this morning:

Fuck you fatties are like roaches on here. You really need to lose weight. Your BMI, which you should learn to calculate, puts you dangerously close to class I obesity.

Charming huh? Now, what kind of sub with that type of attitude would ever have a hope of finding a Domme, or a female, or even a cockroach to respond? Perhaps these types simply crave abuse and actually want me to fire back at him. I have learned not to take the bait, did not respond at all and blocked the idiot.

Just FYI - He's showing his total ignorance by 'calculating' my BMI based solely on my height/weight ratio. At 5'4" and 165 lbs, I measure out at 41/32/41. I'm a weight lifter. Muscle weighs more than fat.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 5:39:38 AM

housesub4you

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Ms Starlett;

Yea those losers are a dime a dozen. They even send letters to sub males like myself saying what losers we are because we(I) serve women.

It takes all kinds.

I just delete them and move on with my day.

As to BMI, since muscle does weigh more than fat, I choose to retain my fat so I weigh less.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 5:57:37 AM

HeavansKeeper

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I feel left out of such letters as a male dominant. No one mails me to tell me how pathetic I am, or how I'm not sexy. Sometimes it makes me feel like the fat kid in gym class...

I blame catwoman. That hussey has been clawing back feminism decades at a time. Thankfully, this is the bulk of the criticism. It's easy to dismiss and hard to make it affect your life in any other way. Many other social groups have had to fight off mortal threats, and very real social impacts. I know its not fair to belittle the problem by comparing it to racism, but just some perspective.

Also, Ms. Starlett, may I respectfully say..
RRRRWWWWAAAAWWWRRRR!!!

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 6:19:57 AM

MsStarlett

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Thanks, Keeper.

You are such a disgusting pervert. I don't know how you live with yourself. I guess you just beat on helpless women because you have to make up for that tiny excuse of a useless dick that would never give a real woman pleasure.

There.... You got public hate mail. Feel better now?

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 6:23:06 AM

LaTigresse

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It not proper behaviour for a submissive or slave of MINE. I think there must be a large population of frustrated angry men on the internet. Less so, in the female sub/slaves group.

I say that because I have never ever once, recieved a nasty letter from a female. Unless it was a questionable female dominant that didn't like something I typed in the forums, but I still cannot remember one.

I am not sure where all the anger and hostility comes from in these males, I cannot say men because they act more like naughty little boys than men. Some of the most vitriolic have been from self proclaimed dominant men, something I really do not understand. As I am not hetro or submissive, why they would bother wasting their time to write me at all makes no sense. However, the contents of that type of email only shows their lack of self control and dominance, only serving to make a complete fool of themselves.

The things I read and hear about some of you ladies going through wih these nasty little boys saddens me. Especially when we do have a few really wonderful men here that would make any dominant woman proud to call her own. The nasty ones would do well to learn from them. I am thinking of my dear Collarme friend Peter that sends me such adorable photos of his horses, and other gentlemen similar to him. Or Sea, whom I do not know but enjoy his posts immensely. So many others, who's names will not come to me in my pre-coffee state. Their intelligence and grace of service is apparent. It would behoove the nasty ones to pay attention and learn from them.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 6:40:05 AM

HeavansKeeper

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Thanks, Keeper.

You are such a disgusting pervert. I don't know how you live with yourself. I guess you just beat on helpless women because you have to make up for that tiny excuse of a useless dick that would never give a real woman pleasure.

There.... You got public hate mail. Feel better now?

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 6:50:42 AM

MsValentine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

We get lots and lots of posts from s/Males wondering why the D/Fems do not respond to their messages. You may think that we are all flooded by messages from our 'adoring fans'. While there are plenty of those, the mail is not always nice.

For example, I woke up to this lovely note this morning:

Fuck you fatties are like roaches on here. You really need to lose weight. Your BMI, which you should learn to calculate, puts you dangerously close to class I obesity.

Charming huh? Now, what kind of sub with that type of attitude would ever have a hope of finding a Domme, or a female, or even a cockroach to respond? Perhaps these types simply crave abuse and actually want me to fire back at him. I have learned not to take the bait, did not respond at all and blocked the idiot.

Just FYI - He's showing his total ignorance by 'calculating' my BMI based solely on my height/weight ratio. At 5'4" and 165 lbs, I measure out at 41/32/41. I'm a weight lifter. Muscle weighs more than fat.

Hi MsStarlett

He only had to look at your pictures to see what a gorgeous woman you are and I am speaking as a fully paid up member of the Hetty Domme club.

His criticisms are just so way of the mark as to be almost funny. Maybe he sent dozens of the same jealous snipey mail to loads of Dommes that he will never get to play with because he is an inconsequential piece of snot and no Domme would want to be in the same town with him, let alone the same playspace.

Have a good weekend and smile....K x

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 7:02:40 AM

LadyPact

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In the simplest terms, no.

I can see anyone, contacting another person for a positive reason. A thing in common, an offer to help, etc. Instead, what you have here is an attack. Nothing more.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 7:33:37 AM

Venatrix

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I got one last night "complimenting" me on my nice, fake titties (exact words). I wrote back and told him it was a wise idea not to make assumptions. He actually apologised. I damned near fell off of my chair.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 7:39:09 AM

bobipanti

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Being overweight is a very large problem in the USA; we must change our attitude about food and overweight people;we do not get enough exercise. MsStarlett- I am sorry You get such messages, especially when You take such good care of Yourself. I feel that such messages are from males who are jealous of Your state and have inferiority feelings about themselves. I wish I had a little more "fat" in some areas and less in others in order to have a more feminine appearance.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:12:33 AM

HarryVanWinkle

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

I feel left out of such letters as a male dominant. No one mails me to tell me how pathetic I am, or how I'm not sexy. Sometimes it makes me feel like the fat kid in gym class...

I blame catwoman. That hussey has been clawing back feminism decades at a time. Thankfully, this is the bulk of the criticism. It's easy to dismiss and hard to make it affect your life in any other way. Many other social groups have had to fight off mortal threats, and very real social impacts. I know its not fair to belittle the problem by comparing it to racism, but just some perspective.

Also, Ms. Starlett, may I respectfully say..
RRRRWWWWAAAAWWWRRRR!!!

I never get hate mail either, despite being both overweight and an ugly cuss. It's probably because hardly anybody ever even looks at male switch profiles.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:18:34 AM

HeavansKeeper

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You can share mine. Ms. Starlett gave me plenty.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:24:48 AM

MySweetSubmssive

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bobipanti

I feel that such messages are from males who are jealous of Your state and have inferiority feelings about themselves.

BIN-go! That hit it right on the nose. Why do I imagine some schlumpy-looking guy with pangs of pain at his own state deciding to take it out on you? It's BS no matter who is comes from. As a side note, I find this thread ironic because just yesterday I was looking at your pics and thinking, "Not only does this woman have an amazing body, but she OWN it!"

Don't take it personally. It's a reflection of him, not of you.

Mss

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:34:23 AM

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deleted...my apologies

< Message edited by urlittleprincess -- 7/18/2008 8:38:10 AM >

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:36:25 AM

Aynne

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MySweetSubmissive,

Your profile, and especially your journal entries, are amazing. The way you speak of the "holy lust"? Oh yes, I know exactly what you are defining, thank you for putting that into such eloquent words.

Oh and Ms. Scarlett is hot and the hate mail dude has not been laid since Nixon was in office, he needs to fuck off. Wanker.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:45:15 AM

OnlyMels

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Daddy and I actually like it when the idiots send mail it gives us a chance to mess with them. One guy actually ended up deleting his profile.Not sure if it was cause of us but our messages to him got pretty strange in the end.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:45:47 AM

MySweetSubmssive

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*biting my lip and flushing with pleasure, then blowing a kiss*

Mss

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 8:58:48 AM

Aynne

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caught and kept...

Literary talent is rare, and deserves notice.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 9:22:31 AM

Missokyst

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The role has nothing to do with it. It was rude, plain and simple.
What a weenie.
Kyst

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 10:45:55 AM

wandersalone

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It would be interesting to hear from more males if they ever receive nasty messages and who sends them. As a submissive I have received a few awful comments from males, both dom and sub but none from females (well apart from the ones which ask me if I have ever been whored out and secondly do I want to be).

I agree that the people who send these messages are jealous and maybe intimidated by people who are in all probability out of their reach. Almost like rejecting someone before they get rejected.

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