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barelynangel -> RE: What is important to remember as a sub/slave (7/21/2008 6:43:57 AM)
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To the OP: I will speak to what i tell women who want to be slaves -- i can't speak as to subs sorry. I will also say here to me slave is a mastery-need orientation not a service or to please-need orientation. Its between a Man and a woman, not a woman and the how tos from others outside the relationship. Which is where the below comes from. Take from it what you will.
Slavery to me is a concept of reaction not action, its a concept that needs a catalyst -- the Man. It takes the mastery and enslavement of a Man to be held in slavery. If you have a Master who has made you a slave, then your focus and how you are held in slavery will come from him look to him for your answers because of who he is and his beliefs and understandings of not only himself but his interaction with others and the world around him.
If you are looking to be a slave, my advice is follow your instincts and reactions to Men -- not protocols or ways that appear to be the correct way to act like a slave, but instead how you react to them - inside instinctivly. These reactions will guide you but more importantly a Man will see these reactions to him as a Man and usually a Master of women will know what to do with you as a woman with these reactions. This doesn't mean you won't have your common sense but even red flags are instincts you should listen too. Listen to your reactions and instincts. A Man will inspect you for your potential as a slave to him, he won't look at how "good" you can "act" or "mimic" what you believe a slave looks like, he will look to see if you have potential value to BE a slave to him because he knows who he is.
All in all, have fun getting to know Men, really be aware of yourself as a woman when interacting with them and feel more so than think and trust that with Men you will do what is most comfortable for you to do because of who they are -- either kneel as a slave to them, or not.
Whatever you do, since you are new, in my opinion, is listen to your body, your reactions, your needs, and desires..... rarely will they steer you wrong unless you try and control their meaning by thinking and directing. Slave is not a thinking thang its a reaction thang.
I do not and cannot speak for others, this is simply my advice to you with regard to slave only. Many will disagree, some will not, others will simply shrug and move on.
angel
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