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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 9:32:13 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello MFM, I wonder how many Dominant couples stay together,
wihen neither partner is a switch, and without an additional  submissive
or slave?


I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 9:35:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.


That was never a problem in our relationship.  In fact, I explicitly do not want my "romantic" significant other to submit to me...at the very least, I want her to be rather vanilla, and quite accepting of my owning slaves, though I would prefer to share ownership with her.

My slaves submit to me, my girlfriend/wife/SO should be an equal.  Not every relationship has to be based on Power Exchange.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 9:40:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.


That was never a problem in our relationship.  In fact, I explicitly do not want my "romantic" significant other to submit to me...at the very least, I want her to be rather vanilla, and quite accepting of my owning slaves, though I would prefer to share ownership with her.

My slaves submit to me, my girlfriend/wife/SO should be an equal.  Not every relationship has to be based on Power Exchange.

Taggard



Sigh.  Someone gets it! 

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 10:51:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello MFM, I wonder how many Dominant couples stay together,
wihen neither partner is a switch, and without an additional  submissive
or slave?


I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.



When my SO and I got together most of the Doms in the local scene assumed that she had decided to switch for me.  That was their own prejudices showing, not the reality of the situation. Neither of us was looking for a relationship with someone submissive; we were both tired of the fact that we brought that side of other people out and wanted to be involved with someone that didn't fall into that dynamic.

We actually met on a vanilla dating site. At one point she decided to see if she scould scare me off with tales from the ProDomme world.  She was somewhat surprised when I responded with tales from the scene at Hellfire in the 70's.

Overall the realtionship has worked out far better than any other relationship either of us has ever been in.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 11:06:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello MFM, I wonder how many Dominant couples stay together,
wihen neither partner is a switch, and without an additional  submissive
or slave?


I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.

Really?  So like this would happen in every single Dom/Domme relationship for sure? Good to know..

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 11:46:34 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello MFM, I wonder how many Dominant couples stay together,
wihen neither partner is a switch, and without an additional  submissive
or slave?


I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.

Really?  So like this would happen in every single Dom/Domme relationship for sure? Good to know..


Didn't say that at all .. a bit touchy today?

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 11:51:05 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

That was never a problem in our relationship.  In fact, I explicitly do not want my "romantic" significant other to submit to me...at the very least, I want her to be rather vanilla, and quite accepting of my owning slaves, though I would prefer to share ownership with her.

My slaves submit to me, my girlfriend/wife/SO should be an equal.  Not every relationship has to be based on Power Exchange.

Taggard

  So you would want a nice June Clever vanilla wife that acquiesces to/accepts your desires? Sounds kinda like a submissive to me :)

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 11:59:13 AM   
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 So you would want a nice June Clever vanilla wife that acquiesces to/accepts your desires?


What I said was that, at the very least, she would be rather vanilla and quite accepting of my owning slaves.  Now, maybe that reads June Cleaver to you, but what I have in mind is more like a nymphomanic swinger type who just doesn't get the fun in a power exchange dynamic.  Again, that is what would meet my minimum operating requirements.  Ideally, I'd like to find someone who was as dominant and as into owning and using slaves as I.

Perhaps I wasn't clear on my polyamorus nature.  Not only do I like to have intimate personal relationships with people other than my significant other, but I also very much enjoy her doing the same.  I am not sure if June Cleaver was boning Eddie Haskel's dad (and/or mom), but if she did, then I might be into taking her on a date!

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 12:28:04 PM   
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My previous partner was a dominant and while we had rough sex there wasn't much submission in our relationship, it was sort of just Klingon sex without any real power exchange.    I am currently flirting with a woman who is also a domme and she definitely wants to submit to me. BSB is certainly my equal although in our relationship she was submissive to me but we certainly didn't adhere strictly to any sort of role.  I remember fucking her one night while she had these glorious boots on and she started pressing the sharp heels against my nipples and that was clearly turning her on which was turning me on and since I like turning her on, I smiled and slipped one of those heels into my mouth and started sucking on it and thrusting harder and deeper and uhm yeah, that seemed to do the trick.


it did the trick allright...that night and, ahem, right at this moment too...

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 12:33:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello MFM, I wonder how many Dominant couples stay together,
wihen neither partner is a switch, and without an additional  submissive
or slave?


I've pondered the same.  I think it would be difficult because eventually..one will want the other to submit.

Really?  So like this would happen in every single Dom/Domme relationship for sure? Good to know..


Didn't say that at all .. a bit touchy today?

oops.. i really meant to put a little  in there and didn't..
nottouchyatall..whywouldyousaythati'mtouchyi'mnottouchy!  AHHAHHHAHHHHH

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 1:28:24 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for responding and sharing.
I am learning not to be so closed minded and open my mind
up to all sorts of possibilities!
In this lifetyle, there are just so many possibilities, with the right person/people.


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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 1:49:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't understand why this perplexes some so.  My husband, who considers himself dominant, desires Me to the ends of the earth.  It really isn't that difficult of a concept.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 2:02:27 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
 So you would want a nice June Clever vanilla wife that acquiesces to/accepts your desires?


What I said was that, at the very least, she would be rather vanilla and quite accepting of my owning slaves.  Now, maybe that reads June Cleaver to you, but what I have in mind is more like a nymphomanic swinger type who just doesn't get the fun in a power exchange dynamic.  Again, that is what would meet my minimum operating requirements.  Ideally, I'd like to find someone who was as dominant and as into owning and using slaves as I.

Perhaps I wasn't clear on my polyamorus nature.  Not only do I like to have intimate personal relationships with people other than my significant other, but I also very much enjoy her doing the same.  I am not sure if June Cleaver was boning Eddie Haskel's dad (and/or mom), but if she did, then I might be into taking her on a date!

Taggard

  Thanks for the clarification.  I do hope your find your match :)

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 2:04:00 PM   
LotusSong


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oops.. i really meant to put a little  in there and didn't..
nottouchyatall..whywouldyousaythati'mtouchyi'mnottouchy!  AHHAHHHAHHHHH

No problem.. gotta love the emoticons


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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 2:21:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is a hard one to explain. First, I want monogamy. I can't separate the dominance from the sex, so no playing with others to get what you can't get at home. There was a time in my life when that would have been great, but I've moved from those feelings. Would she have to submit to me? Well, I would "take" her (remember, I'm a barbarian). I wouldn't mind if she scratched and bit, but I would take her. I would never submit. My first wife thought it would be fun to handcuff me to the bed when I was sleeping so I could experience "the other side". I made her pay to replace the bed and she didn't sit down for some time. It's just not in me.

I like strong, intelligent, and interesting women. But, I am not able to fulfill their need to dominate, I don't want them to see anyone else (as I won't) and I will "take" them when and how I like. So, with those rules ... it might work.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 2:35:33 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		Well MidMichCowboy, if nothing else the fighting sounds like it could
be a lot of fun.
You would take her, huh?
{The idea of being "taken" is strangely exciting}
 oh dear!
I need to go re-group!

off to chant "I am a Dominant woman! I can not be taken!"

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 2:53:53 PM   
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Well MidMichCowboy, if nothing else the fighting sounds like it could
be a lot of fun.


You can count on that, MzMia!  I tried to get my brain into that whole monogamy mindset and it just wouldn't go....  and he's within driving distance, too!  Dagnabbit!

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 3:17:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		This wouldn't work for me.  I'm not interested in play outside of my relationship and I couldn't be happy with someone who didn't submit.  I spent too many years trying to make vanilla relationships work.  Now that I've figured out why they didn't, there's no point to going back.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 3:24:23 PM   
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Would any of you Masters consider a serious long-term, monogamous relationship with a Dominant woman?


I have always fancied the idea of topping and/or domming a domme. A long term monogamous relationship with same would involve a bit of give and take from both parties which I might consider under the appropriate circumstances. If she's all domme all the time then, no... I would not do it. I did poly for several years and it had its good and bad points but those days are behind me.

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RE: Dominant men that desire Dominant women? - 7/21/2008 3:33:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Well MidMichCowboy, if nothing else the fighting sounds like it could
be a lot of fun.


You can count on that, MzMia!  I tried to get my brain into that whole monogamy mindset and it just wouldn't go....  and he's within driving distance, too!  Dagnabbit!


I know, I miss out on a lot of great women.

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