softness
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Joined: 8/1/2006 From: Leeds, UK Status: offline
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I went to a new local(ish) club last weekend for the opening night, they were giving away free life membership .. so it was a busy night ... it was a very broad event there were serious players I know from the local scene .. and people just dressed up enjoying the view - and everyone in between. It was good fun .. and they helpfully left out trays of chocolate truffles to guard against sub-drop (which I seemed to suffer from every time I walked past one of said trays) Anyway ... from my position under the table I was able to watch the room fairly undisturbed and banter with my Minder for the evening ... now we had planned to play and so we were flirting and gaming up .. a lengthy game of hunt the peanut .. we were teasing and playing and generally just getting into the headspace. Fantastic. Lots of tension in the air ... all that jazz. Sharing a booth with us were a couple .. mid 40s ... Him in leathers carrying a crop .. her in stockings and a corset and heels ... collar ... leash .. the usual uniform right? They just sat there .. her on the floor .. him in the chair no eye contact .. no communication .. no energy between them .. nothing .. nada .. zip. I have seen more intimacy and interaction between two people forced together on the london underground. It also wasn't a situation of restricted contact .. it was just disinterested. Funny I thought ... but hey .. whatever .. and went back to trying to pick up peanuts with no hands .. and not smudging my lipstick against Minder's leathers (harder said than done especially when she moves on purpose to smudge it) Later .. Waiting for a piece of kit to get set up for us in the Dungeon me and Minder watched this couple (male sub/Domme) playing. Again. both dressed up in the uniform, she had a flogger and a paddle and a whip all bought from the same shop (I know because I have the same paddle). She delivered the most half hearted, disinterested "beating" I have ever watched. The blows were barely connecting .. and I could hear that there weren't hard when they did connect. She wasn't watching her boy .. she wasn't feeding off him, exchanging any energy from him ... there was nothing going on for her in that moment, you could just tell. He was obviously feeling the same .. while we watched he even gave up the half hearted fake yelping. Eventually she got really bored, uncuffed him and walked away . and he just followed. No energy .. no kiss ... no tension or electricity between them at all. I would have thought further on it at the time but I was being dragged across the room by my hair. Now thinking back there are countless examples of exactly that listless type of dynamic everytime I play in public, and often in the couples I meet out and about at munches. The going through the motions couples. The just wants something, anything, about life to be interesting and exciting. I am not one of these moronic purists who worries about the lifestyle being diluted. I couldn't give a crap how many people there are who are serious, or heavy or whatever .. or how many just want to dress up, call their boyfriend "Master" and feel all cool and edgy. What they do doesn't change what I am and what I do at all. More power to them if that is what makes them happy. Thats how I started out, plenty of room for us all, and they bring the entry fee down. But what about the people who are CLEARLY not happy. Who are simply going through the motions. The two couples I mentioned will have had to make a fair old effort to get to that club, they paid money on the outfits, kit, entry fee, petrol, drinks, food ... and yet I have never seen two people look less stimulated .. and I have volunteered on coma wards. So my question ... Why do these people continue to participate? ... because it cannot be living up to their expectations .. what is in it for them?
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