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Just when you think you can't be shocked!! - 7/24/2008 5:47:13 PM

sblady

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I called my niece a little while ago for information regarding the venue where X-Ball Detroit will be held. She advised me "well, auntie, you know it's 18 and up", to which I replied, "that's probably the usual age, but the event I plan to attend may start at age 21". She asked what type of event it was and I hemmed and hawed a bit. She asked "is it a fetish thing"? My mouth dropped open. Now granted, my niece is 27 years old and has a child but I still think of her as the "little one" I helped raise. When I hesitantly said, um yes, she said "auntie, don't worry, just because I don't broadcast my business throughout the family, I have a lot of interests". She went on to say "I wish I had known you were into that sort of thing because I couldn't find anyone to attend the function with me last year." This entire conversation has totally blown me out of the water!! I'm drinking a glass of wine trying to get myself together. Yes, I may be overreacting, but if you knew the type of family I have, they would probably stone both of us for attending, let alone enjoying BDSM and D/s (she also confirmed that she's a switch). So, I said all that to ask: Have you guys had any family members that have also been involved in the "lifestyle" but kept it hush hush because they didn't want to be judged? Were you in shock when you discovered you had the same interests? Were you a bit pissed that they found out at a much younger age than you (I'm sorta envious cause I just found out about D/s and BDSM a year ago). By the way, she may be able to join us next weekend at the Ball. It may be a bit weird at first, but I have to remember she's an adult. I'll just finish sippin my wine.....

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RE: Just when you think you can't be shocked!! - 7/24/2008 8:22:32 PM

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Some time back (years), my ex husband sent my daughter for a vacation with me. She decided to stay with myself and my mate (and my mate's daughter). Now, you have to understand that before she came to live with me, as far as I was told she worked in a church day-care and was very "innocent". I was told that the first time she called her stepmother shocked about what was going on in our house she would be yanked -immediately- back to their home.

So... time passes... about 3-4 months or so... and my daughter brings me her art journal to show me something, and as she's flipping the pages, there are all these pictures of bound and naked women, or women who have been partially dissected, or what have you... I didn't let on that I was pretty shocked, but I was...

... More time passes, and my daughter reaches adulthood, and starts planning her future, and she informs me that she wants to go to tattoo and piercing school, and she found one in Louisiana -- and that she plans on working at a local fetish boutique to earn the money for school... Ok... well... Uhhhhh... Yeah, I guess you -are- my kid... right down to the Chaos!

When her dad came for her HS graduation, I tried to break him -gently- to what was going on. He surprised the heck out of me. He loved her artwork, commented over a couple of her designs that had already been tattooed on her friends, went to see where she worked... and when I asked him (when we had a private moment) why he was handling everything so well, he said "Doris was the problem. I knew 3 years ago that she was being stifled with us -- I was just glad you were willing to take her after the fiasco the last time" (we had some adjustment problems when my oldest tried to return to his dad and step-mom's house after living with me).

Suffice to say, I was a little bit floored... I'd done a lot to try to protect my kids (at their step-mom's command--right down to getting CPS involved) from my peculiarities... *shrugs*

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RE: Just when you think you can't be shocked!! - 7/24/2008 8:50:29 PM

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lol, i have had a similar dilemma. i popped online awhile back, found a lovely girl staring back at me from the profiles listing, and suddenly realized it's my youngest cousin! there's 21 yrs difference between us, so it's not like we run in alot of the same circles. we only see each other at family parties. nice to know i'm not the only kinky person in the family.
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