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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 10:11:24 AM   
joyinslavery


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Have fun. 

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 10:13:51 AM   
BoiJen


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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 10:19:13 AM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		Sorry. I was just a bit confused there (which happens often). 

Love your pic here!  Very cute (and mischievous!!). 

Have fun. 

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 10:41:16 AM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		Like many Lifestyle Dommes, I'm looking for a straight/submissive single male.  It sez so in my profile, so I don't reply to people who aren't.  So the first thing is to ensure you are up to her standards.
The second thing is no one likes a whiner, and few like a brat.  When I receive a msg, the first thing I do is check their profile, and delete their msg unread if I think I'm not going to enjoy it.  So if I saw a profile like yours, I wouldn't continue. 
We've all been disappointed by others' behaviour on this site, but you need to deal with it more constructively than 'the big kids on the playground ignore me'. 
So write a profile and post msgs pleasing to a Domme, not for your own self-gratification or aggrandissement.

Good luck.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 12:03:00 PM   
boyforyouruse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

Because your profile and email has to stand out from most or the rest of the male subs but domme profiles and emails don't have to stand out from most or the rest of the dommes on this site. This is what we call fairness. Its only unfair when its women facing the raw end of the deal.


By stand out do you mean act immature and bang your hands on the table to get attention?

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 5:20:29 PM   
bamabbwsub


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Okay, I'm going to possibly go out on a limb here...

Maybe it isn't a matter of what Dommes are looking for in a sub/slave, but perhaps it's what they're looking for in terms of physical attractiveness.  I have no idea what you look like, and I'm not trying to insult you in any way, but I have often found that men who don't have a photo on their profiles are often somewhat unattractive, which is why they don't post a photo on their profiles to begin with.  I do understand that people (both men and women) sometimes don't post a photo online for privacy reasons, but as one poster said, just post something of yourself.  I have also often found that some men (sorry, don't mean to man-bash here) of average or even below-average looks will strive for the most attractive women.  Maybe you're looking a little out of your league?

Now, I'm not trying to imply that physical attractiveness is the most important quality in the world, but let's face it -- it does matter.  After all, chances are that the Dommes you choose to e-mail have their photos posted and that's what lured you into contacting them in the first place.  Maybe you should take some new photos and have some women friends tell you which ones to use.  Although I'm not looking for a submissive man myself, I love one male sub's photo here, because it shows him on his knees, face shielded by a large hat, and he's holding a woman's feet in his hands.  (You know who you are, honey!)  That is VERY sexy to me, but I doubt that any of his vanilla friends and acquaintances would have a clue who the person in the picture is.

This is simply conjecture, and no offense is intended.  I wish you the very best of luck in your search!


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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 6:44:32 PM   
khantengri


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Status: offline 		I've noticed that amount of mail I received increased drastically after I put one photo up.


I have returned messages to people that I haven't considered attractive initially. (Perhaps it's important to note that I rarely consider people physically attractive initially.)

What really irritates me is when males reassure me that they're good looking, or fit, and they don't have a picture up. Or even if they DO have a picture up.


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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 7:18:56 PM   
ElanSubdued


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Status: offline 		Khan,

Good to see you posting in the forums and especially in the "Ask A Mistress" forum!  It's a crazy place this Collar Me joint, but there are lots of really nice people here.  Welcome aboard. :-)

Elan.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/26/2008 8:00:30 PM   
DominaSusan


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Status: offline 		I agree with the others, meeting in real life is the best way to form a real-life relationship. There’s really only so far any on-line relationship can go. I don’t usually respond to emails, it’s not my thing. I met folks at my local seen in DC and It’s worked on fine. Munches are a safe way to begin. Good luck and keep posting.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 9:31:12 AM   
hardbodysub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: khantengri

I've noticed that amount of mail I received increased drastically after I put one photo up.


I have returned messages to people that I haven't considered attractive initially. (Perhaps it's important to note that I rarely consider people physically attractive initially.)

What really irritates me is when males reassure me that they're good looking, or fit, and they don't have a picture up. Or even if they DO have a picture up.




khantengrl, I'm not surprised that you received a lot more mail after putting up a photo, particularly one as attractive as yours. Two reasons: (1) A photo-less profile simply doesn't grab the eye. It also makes one wonder if the owner is hiding something. (2) You're hot!

I am definitely more inclined to contact women whose profiles include a photo that gives me at least an inkling of whether I might find them attractive. Time is very limited, so I tend not to spend it on profiles which have left physical appearance a complete mystery. Why hide it? It's going to come out eventually, so putting up a photo saves both parties some time.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 12:02:56 PM   
MistressDolly


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Status: offline 		Someone with a reverence for submission which extends beyond their loins.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 12:28:38 PM   
undergroundsea


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly
Someone with a reverence for submission which extends beyond their loins.


What do exotic pets have to do with submission?

Cheers,

Sea :p

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 1:20:31 PM   
MissIsis


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Status: offline 		I took a look at your profile.  Other than no picture, I don't see much wrong with the profile itself.  The biblical sounding verse that you start off with doesn't do much for me &  I do sense your frustration in your blog, & that could put someone off.  Also, it is one of my silly rules that I don't become involved with anyone from Georgia.

Of course, I am not looking.   Someone who is actually looking might have an entirely different opinion.  I do answer emails that are sent to me on here.  Generally, since my profile clearly states that I am not looking, I will just say thank you for writing.  I am not interested & I wish you the best in your search.  And yes, when someone clearly took the time to read my profile, I feel a little bad giving them that response.  But since it is stated I am not looking, they clearly took the gamble that they might be able to catch my attention. 

There are ways to put some kind of picture in your profile.  One poster on here loves the picture of the man she described.  I am not too crazy about it, since it shows him with another woman.  Those turn me off, as do the pics showing too much skin or other unmentionables.  If I want to see a submissives skin & other parts, I want to be the one he uncovers them for.  Maybe it wouldn't hurt to take a look at some of the pictures on here of other male submissives.  It might get your creative juices flowing.  My favorites pics are usually the ones with the guys with their cat or dog, or in some kind of a outdoorsy nature scene.  Sometimes, it is a just a silhouette. I want to see the way he stands, & the twinkle in his eyes.  I like a pic that shows his humanity, & his sense of humor.  There are some great pics on some of the profiles here, that people that knew them wouldn't be able to recognize. 



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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 2:13:02 PM   
MamaDomme1


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Status: offline 		I also took a peek at your profile.  It does sound as tho you put effort into it and I can understand your feeling of perplextion by no responses.

When I view a profile there are several things I take notice of-- first would be a pic or the lack of, another would be the join date-- you've been here a few years now and very few posts on the forums.  That makes me wonder as to what you may be actively doing for a real life search.  I look at the profile to see if I can get some kind of idea of the person behind the words.... I look at the journal entries...  I want to see if you have a sense of humor, what your daily activities and hobbies are about... and if you are a whimpy whiner or not.

When I receive a message, I look at the profile first-- if there is no pic on the profile and no pic sent with the message, that puts the writer in a poor light right off the bat.  If it is a quick word or two, that is another strike--- if the writer is from some third-world nation and very young, I pretty much delete immediately.  If the writer clearly has not read my profile or journal entries, they lose all manner of respect from me immediately.

A first time email to me should be considerate and share what about my profile enticed them to write me-- but not the length of a short-story novel.
As to what I personally am looking for, it's all in my profile and my journal.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 5:05:34 PM   
cloudboy


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My standards for myself have never been low. I've put a LOT of thought into my profile. And because of that I expect it of others.

Mss


Yes, but how much wrist action do you use when you apply the switch?

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 5:11:53 PM   
YOURsubcuck


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Status: offline 		If you've got the money, honey, She's got the time!
 
Marilyn Monroe said it best:
 
"Beauty is to men as money is to women."
 
It's a "boy-r-toys" kinda thing for Women...

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 5:18:12 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Money has little to nothing to do with it for a good number of us, just for the record. 

As to the OP's question - I can't speak for anyone else, but Holly and I are looking for someone that can become a part of our family, who happens to be submissive.

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 5:19:54 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		All day I have been talking about the wonderful submissive's around here and then I see this! lol  All of you new... claiming to be submissive... yeah okay... it's summer time, school is out and you sound very much like those here before you.  You will last as long I am sure. lol

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 5:46:54 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		Enough to make it hurt a little more than he wants, dear provocateur.  *smiling*

Mss

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RE: What are dominant women looking for? - 7/27/2008 7:08:26 PM   
Trashbagboy74


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Status: offline 		I know that they are looking for Honest and Loyal Slave/Sub. I know that the Vanilla live is boring. I really miss the BDSM live and wish i was in a State with a Mistress/Domme that was BDSM 24/7.

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