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in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 6:40:52 PM   
Blaze2003


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Status: offline 		I am at alittle URKED for lack of a word. The so called DOM's that think that want to meet right away, that want to hear me say MASTER / SIR when in actually they are MOST likely a man that has no self esteem and has no TRUE meaning of what a TRUE DOMINANT man is. I have actually used the word DOMINATE for DOMINANT and the ones that correct me lol I at least continue to talk to. I have wanted for so long to find the "ONE" for me, yet it seems I find one "SO CALLED" " wanna be" or ISSUES that can not change. Curious where I can go / talk with others in the area, reality is cyber does nothing for me. I want the real hand across my bottom, to feel his touch upon my face as he tells me what a good job I did. Not read the TEXT> you can not feel the breathe from his words on your ear. TRIED yet my headphones are in the way lol ...... (warped humore sorry ..) any suggestions..
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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 6:47:09 PM   
michaelMI


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Status: offline 		i've been told that munches are a goo place to meet other like-minded people that live close by...only works for those who own a car or are rich enough to afford a cab...

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 7:36:07 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Yes munches would work for you most likely, or maybe contact a Pro Dom just for experience sake.
i wouldnt get caught up in how people express on the internet too much, whether a person has any typing etiquette or doesnt, isnt a real reflection of anyting other than typing and expressive ability.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 7:37:50 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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Status: offline 		Try a munch. And don't wave the "true dominant" flag either.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 7:41:22 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelMI

i've been told that munches are a goo place to meet other like-minded people that live close by...only works for those who own a car or are rich enough to afford a cab...


Boy, that's a nasty reply isn't it? I get a ride to munches, either from my dominant, or from a friend. If I would like to go and my dominant can't come with me (usually due to work), I'll call a friend (I have a few in my area) to pick me up. A girlfriend of mine doesn't drive either and she always ends up at the munches. Sometimes, she takes the bus or the subway, but people are pretty nice about picking her up on their way.

Make some friends, join a mailing list, ask someone if maybe they can stop by to pick you up on their way. Or take the bus. I've been taking public transportation for five years. It's good for the environment and now a days, it's WAY cheaper than driving.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 7:51:18 PM   
Tempestspet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blaze2003

I am at alittle URKED for lack of a word. The so called DOM's that think that want to meet right away, that want to hear me say MASTER / SIR when in actually they are MOST likely a man that has no self esteem and has no TRUE meaning of what a TRUE DOMINANT man is. I have actually used the word DOMINATE for DOMINANT and the ones that correct me lol I at least continue to talk to. I have wanted for so long to find the "ONE" for me, yet it seems I find one "SO CALLED" " wanna be" or ISSUES that can not change. Curious where I can go / talk with others in the area, reality is cyber does nothing for me. I want the real hand across my bottom, to feel his touch upon my face as he tells me what a good job I did. Not read the TEXT> you can not feel the breathe from his words on your ear. TRIED yet my headphones are in the way lol ...... (warped humore sorry ..) any suggestions..


I realize that you posted this in the "ask a master" section, I'm not a top... but you wanted "real advice"... I can help with that. I, like you, am to the point. So here goes...

I read your profile. Nothing wrong there, the thing that clued me in though, was that you said cyber does nothing for you. It doesn't me either, but then since that's the case I would never look for a partner in the cyber realm. I understand that people do meet this way, but I'm fairly convinced by the stories, and experiences I've heard along the way.... it doesn't work as well as going to a munch, or seeking someone in person.

And it doesn't matter how you get to the munches, I would just reccomend getting to know your local group, and become involved with them. With some patience it shouldn't take you terribly long, it doesn't sound, from your profile, like you are looking for a live in situation. Just a play partner. That again, with your local group, shouldn't be that hard to find.


Good luck!!!
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jennifer


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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 7:52:09 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		I am half on the fence half off about pro dom's I have always felt I'd never pay forone I am not that desperate, but then I was wondering well you know they're equiped to do things a casual person might not be able to do.


Munches, socials real life bdsm events, all good starts.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 8:03:40 PM   
Tempestspet


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Status: offline 		I'm not against ProDommes, they provide a service with no strings attached. As long as sex isn't involved, they aren't hookers and whores... and therefore not doing anything illegal.
You are simply paying for something they are supposed to have spent time and money learning to do, also the money spent on aquiring the toys, and upkeep of those toys.

grins..that's just my 2cents anyways...

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jennifer

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/15/2005 9:21:28 PM   
JohnWarren


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Joined: 3/18/2005
From: Delray Beach, FL
Status: offline 		For a list of groups and munches in your area, I recommend www.darkheart.com/usalist.html

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 3:21:34 AM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		does anyone have a list of aussie local munch groups?
not all of us live in the USA, and i certainly cant afford a taxi there, nor the bus.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 4:51:35 AM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		This link may be helpful pandoravamp

http://www.tertius.net.au/~thorfinn/ausbdsm.html

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 12:45:42 PM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		You might find something at:

www.mybdsm.com

Personally, i have put off munches, etc. partially because i want to relocate....but i think you must use discernment in any venue...it's just easier for people to be rude when they feel anoymous.

i firmly believe real Doms/Masters/Dommes have excellent manners and choose to contact submissives and slaves who appeal to them as people first; so anyone contacting me and demanding to be called "Sir" etc. just announces to me "i'm a fake" and it's a way of sorting.

candystripper

< Message edited by candystripper -- 11/16/2005 4:11:43 PM >

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 12:47:30 PM   
AbstractSavant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelMI

i've been told that munches are a goo place to meet other like-minded people that live close by...only works for those who own a car or are rich enough to afford a cab...


You seem to have a chronic bad attitude about EVERYTHING.

Stop whining about profiles. Stop whining about supposedly rude people who don't respond to your messages. Stop whining about not being able to get to munches. STOP WHINING AND DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF!

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 2:21:01 PM   
candystripper


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quote:

You seem to have a chronic bad attitude about EVERYTHING.

Stop whining about profiles. Stop whining about supposedly rude people who don't respond to your messages. Stop whining about not being able to get to munches. STOP WHINING AND DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF!

AbstractSavant


Michael is a friend of mine; i enjoy his wit and friendship, and i can identify with his financial problems. At least he did not chose "Master Of All I Survey" as his nick.

candystripper

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 2:40:10 PM   
IronBear


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Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		I like the idea of munches, although i dont get out that much, I have found one group which appears to be excelent. However dont forget that at munched there are people>>>>>>>>>>>>> This means that the usual social fun and games may be present of the dreaded cliques who, unless you are one of the in crowd, you may get kept on the outer. With several of the Pagan Coffee Meet (Pagan munches) the organisers will and do, unless you are known to them personally and kiss arse, ask you to leave. They advertise it in the pagan lists as the reguklar "pagans in the pub" all welcome ..... So just keep an eye open and diont get sucked in to their games iof such things are occuring. Smile, be friendly and polite untill you get to know people.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 8:32:59 PM   
Tempestspet


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Status: offline 		I think I must truly be blessed, and lucky to live where Master and I do. I've not seen in any of the 3 or 4 groups we have here locally (by local I mean a 100 mile radius) where it is so clique'y nasty or rude. I believe I can widen that radius by another 200 or so miles....and still not heard of this kind of problem.
Perhaps, we just accept other kinky people, because you can't generally advertise it on a billboard. And we're just happy to help each other out, socialize, and be with one another.

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jennifer

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 10:08:18 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Reply to the ones you like, delete the ones you don't and go on. Everyone has their 'sorting lists'. Yours and theirs are different. If their rude, delete them and laugh. They lost out not you. Don't agonize over this stuff. It ain't worth it baby.

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/16/2005 10:22:04 PM   
michaelMI


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Status: offline 		thanks candystripper...i don't look at it as complaining though, i look at it as making statemnts and observations...as they say...everyone has an opinion about everything. i just express mine...sometimes adding a little bit of brattiness to it...

as for now, i am temporarily in a bit of a rut, but...if all goes well Sunday (Tax course finals) i should be able to "do something for myself"...

but for now, i'll just move on to the next interesting post and see where i can toss in my .02 worth...if not adding a bit of humor to brighten up what could be an otherwise boring forum...

<tosses confettie around the forum, hoping he won't have to clean it up later>

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/19/2005 8:33:24 PM   
Blaze2003


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Status: offline 		Tried to find out info on t he "munches" in my area, noone responded to my emails....yet I will try that again. I try not to be "rude" yet my warped humor is often mistaken as RUDE> I would love to find friends with the same common interest / wants /desires to chat with. Me saying CYBER doesn't do it for me, was just that cyber submission, it does nothing when I hit my own "bottome".

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RE: in need of some REAL ADVICE.... - 11/19/2005 10:00:58 PM   
JohnWarren


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From: Delray Beach, FL
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blaze2003

Tried to find out info on t he "munches" in my area, noone responded to my emails....yet I will try that again. I try not to be "rude" yet my warped humor is often mistaken as RUDE> I would love to find friends with the same common interest / wants /desires to chat with. Me saying CYBER doesn't do it for me, was just that cyber submission, it does nothing when I hit my own "bottome".


You might want to put that "warped humor" on hold until people get to know you. Frankly, if a lot of people think you are rude, you might well be rude. After all, it's not an intention thing; it's a perception thing.

This is particularly true if you try to demonstrate "warped humor" in an initial "tell me about your group" email.

Of course, it could also be that munches are all volunteer. They can hardly be as responsive as businesses.

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