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bplegend07 -> What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 3:31:21 AM)

I know I can find one by just paying for one, but I want to find a real one that's not in it for the money. So I want to know what I can do to meet one and catch her attention. I am seriously interested in being a personal slave 24/7 for her pleasure. So if you have any useful information or thougts please let me no. thanks.



Allondra -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:23:01 AM)

Useful information: learn to use the search function.  Believe it or not, you're not the first one to have asked this question here.

Thoughts: put something more in your profile than what gets you off (and learn to spell "pleasure").  Make yourself stand out from the rest of the pining mob here (because I'm sure you're not identical to all the others that say they want to do whatever a mistress wants them to do).



Dnomyar -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:34:11 AM)

Now that you have posted here you will have lot's of them knocking at your door.



bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:38:37 AM)

Oh thanks lol sorry about that typo. Yeah I've been using it I'm just a little skeptical about it. I've been trying to find someone for a while now.

and what made you realize im not identical to all the others that say they want to do whatever a mistress wants them to do?



Allondra -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:48:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: bplegend07

and what made you realize im not identical to all the others that say they want to do whatever a mistress wants them to do?


Cue the sappy music:  Because the Goddess in Her great wisdom has made us each a little bit different from the others.

More useful information: ignore what raymond said.





bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:51:39 AM)

lol okay. Well I took your advice, hopefully with patience it will kick in. thank you.



housesub4you -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:52:01 AM)

OMG  you have been on 1 day and you have not found a woman to serve. 

I have found 5 women to serve just while writing this message, opps there's another one.




bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:56:00 AM)

In the search?



TNstepsout -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 4:58:50 AM)

I think they like it when you throw pencils at them. 



MizSexyVixen -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 5:03:25 AM)

I respond very well to messages that are well thought out and engage me in a discussion about who I am as a person a/o my bdsm philosophy.

I do not respond well to "hello"  or "I will do anything, I just want to please you" or a long list of kinks and fetishes a sub wants fulfilled. (Sending me cock pics BTW is a big no no. )

When I respond to a person's message, I always check their profile first. A scanty or incomplete profile is frankly a red flag to me. It makes me question the person's crediblilty not to mention their ability to follow through.

I love profiles with journal entries and forum posts, as this lets me see who the person is in a variety of venues. I also like profiles that tell me who you are as a person, and what you are seeking (though again not with a list of kinks of fetishes). I am far more interested in what traits you seek in a dominant.

As always just my opinion; I hope you find this helpful.









bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 5:05:10 AM)

What do you mean?



Madame4a -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 5:21:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bplegend07

Oh thanks lol sorry about that typo. Yeah I've been using it I'm just a little skeptical about it. I've been trying to find someone for a while now.

and what made you realize im not identical to all the others that say they want to do whatever a mistress wants them to do?


You're using the people search function, I believe she was refering to the search function on these boards.  This question gets asked, in one form or another about once a week -- search here, in this forum.



bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 5:23:46 AM)

okay that answers my questions, any further advice would be appreciated thanks



thishereboi -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:11:02 AM)

Tell her she hits like a girl, that will get her attention.

or you can find local events and munches in your area and volunteer to help. This will make you visible in the community and give you the chance to meet local people.



Dnomyar -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:23:22 AM)

Allondra be nice. Op be glad Im giving you my advice for free.



RedMagic1 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:24:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bplegend07
I know I can find one by just paying for one, but I want to find a real one that's not in it for the money.

This attitude rubbed me wrong.  I doubt you realized what you were saying, so I don't want to jump on you too much.  But professional dommes (and subs for that matter) are not pieces of meat.  They are real people with real romantic lives.  What you wrote is a little like saying, "A veterinarian would never wants pets of her own -- she only takes care of animals because of the money."



MissIsis -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:27:18 AM)

A couple things in addition to what others have posted here. 

Your nic looks like one of those id's that get put in the spam folder.  Maybe something more simple, & easy to remember, or something that says a little about you that others will understand.   I, too, love seeing if the person I might look at has written in the forums & if he has at least a few journal entries. Generally, if the person hasn't participated in the forums, I will pass him by.

You are very young.  I prefer older submissives, but then again, I am older.  Under 21..... No way.  I am sure there are others that might not mind.  There isn't anything wrong with that, but it may limit your choices. 

For me, I can find sexual pleasure with just about any man.  When I am looking for a submissive, I prefer someone who knows how & loves to fix things, & knows how to do vanilla things & finds pleasure in them as well, like doing dishes, cooking, cleaning, changing the oil in my car.   I want someone who is extremely masculine & revels in that part of himself. 
I want someone stable, who has had a job for a good length of time, & who has lived on his own & proved himself to be responsible by paying his bills. 

And as other have said, when I look at a profile or a message & I see a list of kinks, & sexual fantasies, or desires, I, too, get turned off.  It doesn't do a thing for me when a guy writes to me that he loves oral & would love to do it for hours & hours to me.  It doesn't do a thing for me if a guy writes that he would love to be a sissy maid for me, either.  I don't want someone who wants to move in with me, & would be willing to relocate for me.  I don't want someone that wants to give me a huge house to live with him in.  (Of course, a little cottage in Vermont might be tempting.)  I want someone who is used to taking care of himself.  If he hasn't been able to take care of himself in a responsible manner, how can he possibly take care of my needs? 

If you are looking for serving in only sexual ways or if you think being submissive means you will get to serve someone by using the kinks you desire, you are probably limiting your chances. 

Good luck to you.



bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:28:19 AM)

I get what you're saying but that's not what I meant. A lot of Dommes care more about money more than anything and I'm not saying all of them do. Just a number of them.



Madame4a -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:30:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bplegend07

I get what you're saying but that's not what I meant. A lot of Dommes care more about money more than anything and I'm not saying all of them do. Just a number of them.


That will get you noticed and probably it won't be the kind of attention you seek



bplegend07 -> RE: What do I have to do to get a mistresses attention? (7/30/2008 6:35:25 AM)

okay I apologize then I see what you guys are saying



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