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ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats

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ORIGINAL: Slavesun

I am looking to try a heavy CP session with a pro Domme in which she uses CP to bring me to tears.

I was thinking I'd like to be brought to tears as quickly as possible however I am inexperienced in this and am not sure wether it is wise to go from 0-99 without a warm up. Would you say I need to warm up first? If so, why?

Is it viable to start a session full bore, or is there a reason why I shouldnt?

Please let me know, I am curious as I try and piece together the session I'd like to have in my head. Thanks.

I don't think that you can instruct someone to bring you to the point of tears.... at least not in the way that you might want it to happen. I'm assuming that you're looking to get some sort of emotional release that you can't achieve otherwise (many people, particularly male people, have a difficult time letting go and allowing themseves to cry.)

I would suggest that you do this sort of session with a Pro that you've gotten to know over time. Personally, when people approach me with this sort of thing, I tend to refuse them. I need to have a feel for someone, their tolerance and reactions before limits are pushed.

Also, if having it happen as quickly as possible is the goal... I'd wonder if visiting a Pro is worth it? Paying several hundred dollars for ten minutes seems a tad silly.

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ORIGINAL: shadowcd

I would think it would depend the reasons why you are in tears..  from shear physical pain or is the cp a trigger for an emotional release.      I can't say I'm experienced in this matter however explaining your reasons for the scene to me are far more important then the actual details in achieving it. 

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ORIGINAL: MsJssk

Let me understand here. Does CP stand for corporal punishment. And are we then talking about spankings? If so, I do not understand why a warm up is nessisary. I mean, if someone wants it cold, it's not like penial penetration where you need to start small and be very very careful.

Getting past the issue of "reding" as soon as things hurt is a problem. For this, you may have to develope a strong relationship with someone. It may take several sessions and lots of aftertalk between the sessions to build the kind of trust you are talking about. I think you are basically asking to have a Dom that can read your limits and thus you can trust them enough to know they will read correctly... to eliminate your desire to red so quickly. That takes time.

MsJ

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ORIGINAL: Slavesun


I don't think a relationship is necessary. I think I just need to be pushed outside of my comfort zone in a controlled way by a Domme who knows what she is doing.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: Slavesun


I don't think a relationship is necessary. I think I just need to be pushed outside of my comfort zone in a controlled way by a Domme who knows what she is doing.

You really are mistaken here.  I would think that your experiences that you have related thus far would show that.

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ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty

Yeah - c'mere - i can make you cry and i can probably do it in under 2 minutes if that's all you're looking for. i don't think, however, that that's going to lead to anything in the session being a "lot more effective."