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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/4/2008 7:20:08 AM   
littleone35


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I am free to feel and express my emotions.  There is a game Master likes me to play on the computer so he can beat me on it.  Sometimes he is distracting me (he can win even if he does not do that) and i will snap at him.  I expressed my emotions but not in the right way so i suffer the consquences.  Most of the time though even if i don't express them Master can tell when there is something wrong.  Even if i don't want to tell him he gets it out of me.  To him i am an open book and i usually share and express my enotions to him in a constructive way and we deal with them.  Boy do i love that man.

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/4/2008 7:57:31 AM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: mbes

For those who believe in total honesty and sharing all emotions, I have a question I'd like to ask to learn more. I hope you'll help.
Say your dom had a habit that is an irritant to you. Doesn't matter what it is, just something he does, that is like nails on a chalkboard for you, and he knows that. That part is key, that the knowledge is there, and his pleasure in the habit for him outweighs the irritation it causes in you.
What are the choices here? He does it, you express the emotion (irritation)? Remember, he already knew about the irritation, and did it anyway. He does it, you suck it up because the man is more important than the irritant? He does it.... what do you do?
I'll use an example: Mine knows that when I am really focused on something, it irritates me to be interrupted. It's difficult to shift gears for me, just how I'm wired, so my first reaction is "let me finish!", before I move on to, "I'm sorry, sir, what would you like?" He knows this is how I am, but there are times when he wants something at a time when it means interrupting me. He's the dom and is therefore free to interrupt me at will. He's also entitled to a good attitude about it.
Now the question: would you consider it worthwhile to express the emotion each time it came up, or only the once to make sure it's known and accepted?




Now mind you, I don't get this from m'Lord but from others that surround me (like teen chaperones).

Basically I learned early one (like elementary school) that if someone is yanking your chain the best way to beat them at their game is to NOT allow them to control your emotions.  In this case no matter how irritated you are, you have to convince yourself and him that you aren't irritated, you have to remain calm and in control, sooner or later you really won't be irritated.

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/4/2008 12:01:36 PM   
shiazn03


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i would think it wouldn't be an "entitlement" but rather a "privilege" given to the slaves by their Masters/Mistresses that care enough....right?

i'm not collared or owned but when i was involved with a Master, He allowed me to express myself and my emotions accordingly. 


< Message edited by shiazn03 -- 8/4/2008 12:02:40 PM >

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/4/2008 5:43:01 PM   
littlewonder


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No. If I did feel that way I'd have to reconsider my entire life and the person I'm with.

I'm human first and foremost with every single emotion possible. I just don't have the right to express it in a disobedient nature and way which would piss him off but I still have the right to have emotions. How can you not? You're not a machine.

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/4/2008 6:18:52 PM   
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I have always been encouraged to express my feelings and emotions by my Master. I would hope that all Doms/Masters would want that from their subs or slaves. To me its the only way to have a healthy relationship, no matter what kind of relationship you are in.

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/6/2008 11:31:40 AM   
onestandingstill


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I am completely entitled & expected to have emotions as we all have them like them or not.
I do not choose to react with everything I think though.
I am allowed to communicate how I feel.
I choose to communicate respectfully with my Master at all times.
When I have had the strongest emotional upheavals I actually try my best to think before I speak & then spoke softly and with great patience & respect.
A slave in my mind has no right to berate her Master.
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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/6/2008 12:26:36 PM   
batshalom


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Nope, never felt that. I have had to learn to express my feelings appropriately though (and sometimes "appropriately" is to express myself with total freedom).

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/6/2008 12:55:21 PM   
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Im getting a little confused on approiately.

As for Mbes comment of irriation frustration, annoyance, anger and all the "negative", in the past I have left the situation, gone to my room or another area of the house as to advoid the situtation until I could deal with it with out calling Him a rather rude collection of names. If he then would follow me and continue to do it. He gets what he is provoking for I have done Everything in my power to elminate the negative outbursts of  emotions. If he doesnt like this fact, he can learn that owned or not, I sometimes need to go someplace to calm down, for I am always human, and if he wishes me to present my case to him calmly. He needs to allow me the time to be calm. He is in his rights to demand my time as he wills.  But if he knows I am in a negative mood, frustrated, annoyed and or whatever knowing Ive asked to leave the room to be allowed to calm down and then provokes me by demanding I do such and such or explain such and such. Hes going to get a royal f you in the most polite way possible.


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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/6/2008 3:01:56 PM   
lilonepet


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OMG yes, yes, yes.  i have been feeling that way for the past 11 months.  However me being on who can't seem to do that a few times i did express exactly how i felt.  Always turned out bad.

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RE: Slaves and entitlement of emotions - 8/6/2008 3:10:20 PM   
metalmiss


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i am encouraged to share and express all of my feelings and emotions.. But i am expected to take responsibility for my own actions/how i choose to express them, even if it is a tantrum which needs to be dealt with. Its just a case of exercising some self control and knowing when to keep my mouth shut.. Not really much different from other areas of my life, work etc.


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