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RE: Older Men - 8/3/2008 12:29:00 PM

TexasMaam

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lololololololol Did you think Dommes who turn 50 just dry up and blow away on the wind?
lololololololololololololol
Silly rabbit.

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RE: Older Men - 8/3/2008 3:23:39 PM

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i love older doms

younger ones might look better ...key word is might ...some 30 plus year old women on here look awesome indeed

heck im 51 and i think we are more compatabile closer in age then if seeing a younger woman in her 20s ..just my opinion of course

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RE: Older Men - 8/3/2008 4:13:14 PM

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I do have age limits and there is an upper limit of anyone only than me. That reflects my background and if that means I miss out on a good man, so be it.

We all have limits and preferences and i think those should be respected.

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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 6:04:18 AM

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I prefer older men as submissives, for so many reasons. I enjoy being around people who can relate to topics that interest me, who tend to have the same taste in music, who's palate has matured, and grown to the point they can enjoy a fine bottle of wine with out wanting to mix it with 7-up, or enjoy a fine dinner with out asking for a burger. ( not that anything is wrong with a burger at times) A mature man, often has already gone through relationships, and is past the experimental stage, and is going to be a better fit for me. A mature man is often has his carear, life, and such set, so you do not have to go through his job changes, him looking for a mother, loaning him money till next payday, or his desire to have children or looking for a mother figure for his children.
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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 8:30:48 AM

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I prefer slightly older men. Read- Slightly-. I'd have no interest in all in someone in the upper 30's.

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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 10:14:23 AM

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It depends on the man. I don't want someone I could have birthed and I would hesitate with someone that could have birthed me, but that would be pretty old. lol As long has he still works without batteries... it's all good.

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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 3:12:47 PM

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I prefer slightly older men. Read- Slightly-. I'd have no interest in all in someone in the upper 30's.

i almost emailed You Ma`am, i thought You said "Sprightly"

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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 3:54:10 PM

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To paraphrase Ronald Reagan: "I want you to know that I would not going to exploit, another's youth and inexperience."

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RE: Older Men - 8/4/2008 10:52:47 PM

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We prefer men close in age to us, for reasons of compatability - not only in our interests, but in what we are looking for. Just like in anything else, everyone has their own preferences.

I feel much the same. I think it would be difficult for me to find compatibility in terms of things to share with someone who was more than 6 - 10 years from me in either direction. But, I'm always open to being proven wrong.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 4:14:40 PM

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Older men( submissives) do have their experience and "life's " knowledge to aid in the worship of Mistresses. What a ride!!

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 9:09:17 PM

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I look at the person but I prefer men that are at least my age so we have some things in common.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 9:11:21 PM

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My favorite boy (other than my Drat) was 48...freakishly fit and confident and wonderful...It was such a change from the young boys...I keep telling him he spoiled me for other subs!

I love the confidence a mature man has...the whole been there done that kind of thing...don't feel like I'm corrupting them!

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 9:18:47 PM

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Age is important to me. I'm into younger men....

Lol, I concur!

Although I could make an exception for an exception, all my subs have been <40.
younger men have fewer hangups, are sexually inquisitive yet condom-educated, and already and naturally understand the D/s dynamic.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 9:44:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: DianeB

Age is important to me. I'm into younger men....

Lol, I concur!

Although I could make an exception for an exception, all my subs have been <40.
younger men have fewer hangups, are sexually inquisitive yet condom-educated, and already and naturally understand the D/s dynamic.

No disrespect intended but that must be a Canadian thing. I'm 48 years old and I feel that I have very few hangups. I may not be as sexually inquisitive as the younger guys but most of that is because I have been there and done that. And as far as being condom-educated, hell I understood about them and their use long before I ever had sex the first time and that was a long, and I do mean long, time ago. And as far as understanding the dynamics of a D/s relationship that has always been a part of my life. Sorry, like I said no disrespect intended, but generalizations like this should be put in their proper prespectives.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 9:53:45 PM

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Although I could make an exception for an exception, all my subs have been <40.
younger men have fewer hangups

No disrespect intended but that must be a Canadian thing. I'm 48 years old and I feel that I have very few hangups. Sorry, like I said no disrespect intended, but generalizations like should be put in their proper prespectives.

Hangups come in many forms, including offensisensitivity and not reading the first part of the sentence stating 'making exceptions' meaning a preference, not a hard limit. But hangups are a hard limit.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 10:33:41 PM

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Age, for me, has nothing to do with ownership. For me, it has to do with the person. How I connect with them. Obviously me being only 26 could mean that one persons upbringing could distract from my beliefs and even the way I do things. So, I try to get an understanding of the person.
I know many great people who are over 50. I have had a blast with them.
There are of course those over 50 that I have turned down, mainly because they didnt understand me, or we disagreed on quite a few things. Yet, I have kept the line open for conversations and chatting.
** Dragon2760,
You cracked me up with the " It must be a Canadian thing". Being from Canada ( born and raised myself) it brings up the whole issue of cultural perspective. ( Eg: Though we don't live far from the USA, we do tend to have certain ways we do things. I know I have a hard time not using manners when talking to a sub/slave/pet. I say please, thank you and such. I don't think it means I am not capable of being a sadistic dominatrix, it just means that I don't go out of my way to disrespect someone. Name calling while in play is one thing, but beyond the doors, it is taboo. Not done ( unless I hate someone and I don't have many people on that list). Not being able to walk 10 blocks in any direction is foreign to me too. I am not used to thinking about what could be concealed within a jacket, pocket or purse. Nor am I used to being careful about how much money I carry and where I leave my treasures at home ( which I can assure you are in a locked safe with like 4 different kinds of locks on it. I had things taken once, and was only able to get 25% of what was taken back.)

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 10:37:04 PM

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Oh believe me I understand about "offensisensitivity". Hell, I live in the United States of the Offended. It was not your first sentence that got me because I do understand about exceptions and preferences. It was your second sentence of generalization that got to me. You'd be surprised at how many times I have been told that by Dominant ladies I have contacted. Now if you had of started that sentence with "younger men tend to have..." that would have made all the difference in the world. Like I said, no disrespect intended.

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RE: Older Men - 8/5/2008 10:53:29 PM

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** Dragon2760,
You cracked me up with the " It must be a Canadian thing".

I'm glad I could bring a smile to someone face. I do know what you mean about cultrual differences. It's even that way here in the US between certain areas. I was rasied to always let the lady go first, that you always hold the door for a lady, and if going out somewhere that you always dropped them off at the door before parking the car, but I have dated women from other areas of the country that seems to find that so foreign to them. I did not mean to make it sound as if those of us in the US are any better than anyone else. We are not. We all have our good points and our bad. Sorry.

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RE: Older Men - 8/6/2008 8:05:39 AM

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dragon-- the more I read from you, the better and better I like you! ;)

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RE: Older Men - 8/6/2008 11:19:55 AM

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