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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 11:08:27 AM

Daddystouch

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Agreed. I do try to write a fair amount in the messages I send, but only because I know few girls will reply to one liners (though few girls reply to many-liners, so perhaps this is a red herring?). From my point of view it is frustrating that I'm expected to write an essay based on maybe, if I'm lucky, a couple of pictures and a few lines of profile copy. It tends to end up being a list of questions - but how could it be anything else? Everything about me that I feel the need to tell people up front is in my profile, and most profiles I read have very little useful information to create a conversation with - the only way to move forward, that I can see, is to get that information. But then my inessent questions surely come off as repetetive and probably a bit lame.

*shurg* Maybe just sent a photo of my penis amnd just a question mark in the text field?

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 11:10:16 AM

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since the invention of the movie and the internet..i dont read books...they take up too much room!

aaaahhhhhhh *shock, horror, turn away in distress, cover eyes* how can you disparage books so! and i thought you were a sensitive sensible person! i aam ssssooo distressed! Not to love books is abhorent to this kiwi.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 11:13:22 AM

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i would reply to one liners and sometimes it lead to exchanging more or even chatting online.
everybody is different and sometimes the long winded ones i would ignore just because i didn't want to know everything on the first message.

as they say 'different strokes for different folks.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 11:15:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddystouch

Agreed. I do try to write a fair amount in the messages I send, but only because I know few girls will reply to one liners (though few girls reply to many-liners, so perhaps this is a red herring?). From my point of view it is frustrating that I'm expected to write an essay based on maybe, if I'm lucky, a couple of pictures and a few lines of profile copy. It tends to end up being a list of questions - but how could it be anything else? Everything about me that I feel the need to tell people up front is in my profile, and most profiles I read have very little useful information to create a conversation with - the only way to move forward, that I can see, is to get that information. But then my inessent questions surely come off as repetetive and probably a bit lame.

*shurg* Maybe just sent a photo of my penis amnd just a question mark in the text field?

Well, at least you'd find out pretty quickly that you and I aren't destined for one another... I'd probably respond to that one with "I have difficulty understanding Penispeak... do you have a translator available in the immediate area?"

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 12:25:44 PM

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It appears we have a double-standard. Funny, isn't it? And so is the ever-changing definition of a "one-liner." Funny!

I tend to dislike one-liners because they are usually a fragment or two, with no punctuation or upper case letters, but mostly I dislike them because they give me nothing to go on. How can you continue a conversation from, "hi can we chat." My first response is to correct it and if I want to correct it, if I answer that at all it's going to be with a "no." And I doubt that was what the submissive was shooting for for a response. LOL!

However, I admit I am guilty of sending one-liners...well, usually two sentences. When I see something on a profile that makes me laugh, smile, or puzzles me, I usually send a note.

For example, last week, I found a profile with a picture of a man standing next to a waterfall. It was beautiful! But he was pointing at something that looked like it should have been visible on the photo but wasn't...I actually turned my head slightly while looking, trying to figure out what he was pointing at, then started laughing when I realized I had tilted my head. So, I wrote the guy.

"I just spent the last 30 seconds looking at your primary picture with my head tilted, AS IF that would help me see it more clearly! LOL! WHAT are you pointing at? Miss 'Bella"

His return reply was that he did not know. But he laughed as well and as if almost by accident, it turned out to be a nice conversation starter.

I think that the complaint isn't really that we are receiving one-liners but that they lack. I don't mind receiving a very short message if it's engaging.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 12:45:44 PM

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FR - It largely depends on what the one line consists of, but an email that simply says, "Hello, Ma'am"? I wouldn't even bother reading the profile. When my profile was active I got so much email that there was no incentive for me actually to have to do the work of looking at someone's profile not knowing anything in advance about him. Maybe I passed up some great guys that way, but I don't think so. I think I've already found one and I initiated contact with him, so there's really no right or wrong way to go about meeting someone. I say, give it as much effort as you think the introduction is worth, then take the consequences.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 1:21:59 PM

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I agree with Venatrix. It depends on what the one line is. If it is "Hi, ur tits are awsome" (I've gotten this more than once) or "Hi, wanna chat/cam?" then I will ignore it. If it comments on something in my profile or makes me laugh, then I will answer. If I recognize the screen name as someone on the forums, they will most likely get an answer unless the mail is rude. For me personally, I prefer to answer mail (one liner or not) from people that are here on the forums, as I have a better sense of who they are from their posts.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 1:45:05 PM

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i used to get a bunch of crap from doms who would complain to me that my responses to their first contacts with me were one liners. my reply was always, 'you are a stranger, how much can i have to say to you?" really...the more i know someone, the more i have to say. i dont' think that is a hard concept.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 1:59:12 PM

Sabella

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

Dear "sir,madam,subbie,sexypet,lovely object of my desires", I am approaching you as I want to have wild and freaky monkey sex with you with lots of oral sex thrown into the mix while the whole world watches on cam and we get freaky and throw food at each other and rip each others clothes off and do horribly nasty and awesome things to each other and then throw in some pain play and other horribly crude bondage and kinkified things to one anothers body and then sleep spooned together in bliss so please reply if you are interested .

My one liner that I send out. Do you think I should change my approach and introduction? I don't seem to be getting many takers?

C-D

Hi, that's hot

For me it depends on the one liner. Just a "hi" doesn't give anyone alot to go on unfortunately. Usually the few times I've "hi"d back that's as far as it goes too.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 1:59:43 PM

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I answer most email sent to me. If it is simply a hello... it is often met with a hello or hello, what's up kind of thing. I need something to go on and if there isn't much there, what can I say? I do not need a long email telling me all about them, but I do need a bit more than hello as a start.

Most hello's or one liners have turned into people wanting cyber, so it is easy to want to ignore all of the emails that start this way. But unless I am having a rough day, I do try to respond in a kind manner. I guess it also depends on what that one liner was! Hello, can we chat, I think you are sexy... will not make my day! Nor will I make his.

The perfect email, says hello Lockit/Ma'am, I read your profile and like/dislike such and such or maybe has a bit of information that gives me something I can respond to with a lil meat to it. (Not that kind damn it!)

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 2:14:34 PM

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It's rare for the one line approach to work with Me. I tend to think the three or four sentence introduction works best. It isn't difficult. Make it one comment about the profile, one comment about something that you have in common with the person you're contacting, and one question.

In those short three sentences, you can convey a lot. The first shows that you've read the profile. The second shows that you have a mutual interest. The third gives the opportunity for a response so a conversation can start.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 2:47:22 PM

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I usually respond to all e-mails, unless they're rude and obnoxious. But, I absolutely hate when I receive the following:

Them: Hello
Me: Hello
Them: How's the weather?
Me: Advise them of the local temps, etc. and inquire about their weather
Them: They respond with their local temps......
*crickets chirping in background.......
Them: So how are you today?

At this point, you know, I'm done. I've already responded 3 times to your one liners or one sentence....it's time to get to the freakin' point. Is there something in particular they want to discuss? It is not my job to attempt to keep a conversation afloat as they approached me. I have better things to do (read the forums) and all the back and forth e-mails are starting to annoy the heck out of me!!!

If they haven't caught on by then, um, chances are things won't bode well for future conversations.

CallaFSBW: I've established awesome relationships with people who have sent one-liners. I can recall a Dom sending an e-mail regarding something I wrote in a forum and this has resulted in a wonderful friendship.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 2:58:07 PM

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I totally agree with you sblady..... i try to be polite to everyone..even those one-liners..you never know where they might lead.... but if they're clearly not going anywhere, or down a path i'm not taking.....then i'm done.

quote:

ORIGINAL: sblady

I usually respond to all e-mails, unless they're rude and obnoxious. But, I absolutely hate when I receive the following:

Them: Hello
Me: Hello
Them: How's the weather?
Me: Advise them of the local temps, etc. and inquire about their weather
Them: They respond with their local temps......
*crickets chirping in background.......
Them: So how are you today?

At this point, you know, I'm done. I've already responded 3 times to your one liners or one sentence....it's time to get to the freakin' point. Is there something in particular they want to discuss? It is not my job to attempt to keep a conversation afloat as they approached me. I have better things to do (read the forums) and all the back and forth e-mails are starting to annoy the heck out of me!!!

If they haven't caught on by then, um, chances are things won't bode well for future conversations.

CallaFSBW: I've established awesome relationships with people who have sent one-liners. I can recall a Dom sending an e-mail regarding something I wrote in a forum and this has resulted in a wonderful friendship.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 5:59:13 PM

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As a sender, perhaps totally ignoring the actual length of the initial message you are preparing is the way to go. Instead, just concentrate on writing up a message that contains some tid-bit that the recipient will find much too difficult to ignore and just go with that. Entice them with something positive/clever/funny/wonderful to encourage them to feel they absolutely need to reply.

Basically, in my opinion, it's not the length of the message, its how you use it!

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 7:26:50 PM

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I think a lot depends on what the content of the one-liner is. If someone writes me something to the effect of: "yo how r u slu t wuz up wit choo i want to fuK yur slut" I probably won't want to respond.

but bottom line is that I usually choose to respond based on the following: a) what the person looks like, b) how old is the person, c) how far away do they live and d) what does their profile say about them (this last one is extremely important). If the person meets my A through D requirements then even if they say, "hey what's up?" I'll typically respond. But I've found that the people who send one-liners don't meet these requirements in the first place.

Coindidence? I wonder.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 9:41:25 PM

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I guess being from the south, when some one says" hello"," hi", or even the occasional "go f%#$@ yourself" ( I still get a good chuckle from these), I usually respond accordingly ,but then again I am the person who talks to everyone . For year's through the internet I have met a great many really kewl people , and some that ....well lets just say we didn't get along very well . "One liners"would be an improvement for some.

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RE: One line can say so much! - 8/3/2008 10:05:37 PM

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As someone else said, it's not the length it's what they do with it that matters ... I mean the MESSAGE folks

One line that says, "Ma'am I saw in your profile You are part of a poly household. Can You tell me more about that please?" or something else specific to Me will get a very favourable response. Other than the abbreviated txt spk, My least favourable emails are those that just say hi or hello Ma'am (where am I supposed to go with that?), or the worst of all for Me ... what's up? Nothing's bloody "up" ... I really don't get that as a greeting! I guess in My English early upbringing that was associated with something being wrong or someone being really upset. And even if something was "up" I am not likely to pour all that out to someone I don't know yet. And don't grovel, I really detest that sycophantic grovelling that some seem compelled to do.

OK rant over. I don't expect an essay, but I do expect something which entices Me to view your profile and answer! I send some short emails too ... but again, I make it specific. It could be "Hi, I viewed your profile and see that your bdsm interests are quite similar to Mine. Perhaps you would check out My profile and respond if you are interested in talking further". Surely that's not rocket science!

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